Money Moral Dilemma: Should I stop putting my brother's name on gifts we buy?

hannerrbabes

I assume your both adults? If so, why on earth are you acting like he's your partner?? You're brother and sister, not his and and wife. You don't need to be buying gifts from the both of you once you are wage-earning adults. 

Middlestitch

Why are people apparently incapable of taking even the simplest decision without it going to some sort of public poll? Do what you want to do.

p00

These are becoming so silly but for the sake of an answer. You are an adult. He is an adult.  If  you are buying it is from you  not both of you. Grow up and stop belittling yourself to suit your sibling. 

JAParker

Absolutely!!! You give the impression of being a caring person who wants to make everyone happy, including your brother. Unfortunately, this makes it easy for him to take advantage of you this way. You’re both adults and, by continuing to do this, you’re enabling this behaviour in him and, in the long run, not doing him any favours either. Be true to yourself and just send gifts from you moving forwards. You can do this even though it will feel strange and uncomfortable to begin with.

directdebits

Unless you enjoy being fleeced by your brother, of course you should stop. If your brother doesn't contribute to a gift, it's not from him. You are deliberately misleading the recipients of your gifts by saying they are  from your brother too, when clearly they are not.   

CapeTown

How about this for an idea. STOP buying gifts for the family and give the money to charity instead. Most presents are not appreciated and are a waste of money. The Economist did an article a few years ago and estimated we were wasting billions on unappreciated and unwanted gifts. 
As an example, my daughter who is a vegetarian got in three successive years.... leather gloves, a leather covered photo frame and a fur trimmed bobble hat.

Get off your moral high ground and stop wasting money.

Zsoltmeister

You can't ask that question here because no one has enough information to answer.

For all anyone here knows the brother pays his elderly parents' mortgage but is crap at remembering birthdays and anniversaries while OP buys £5 trinkets on special occasions but contributes nothing else for the rest of the year.

Lots of people are plenty generous when it's actually needed but are just too busy to remember about their niece's cousin's first communion.  

iaj101

Surely others in your family are aware of his behaviour? What happens on you birthday? Is his name on someone else’s gift?
I would tell him you’re not going to do it anymore, but make sure you push him in the right direction when a birthday comes up. After all, he has never bought and wrapped a present before 

Timeonmyhands_3

Absolutely you should, he’s being lazy and letting you all the work and taking all the expense and then no doubt still being thanked for doing sod all. 

lynne43

I would just call him and say listen do you still want me to organise mums gift? Ok if yes then I need you to contribute .....its my fault as never mentioned before.  Just keep it casual.  Not sure situation but men sometimes don't think