First Steps to Solvency

Judes123

Had the same jabs as foxgloves….felt so ill the day after, much the same symptoms as you describe,foxgloves. Felt so bad  i booked and went for a PCR test 3 days after my booster as i felt so ill. I work with some clinically vulnerable people in their own homes

Sun_Addict

I felt rubbish after all 3 jabs. Stress can also make you feel bad so could be your anxiety on the build up to Christmas when you were dreading it. 

alt80

Thanks all, got through the day not been productive at all tbh. Bit better but not 100%. Have spent a bit of money - we went out for lunch in the end. Have journaled again identified a few things / patterns and stressors. Bit of a weird one tonight I got tagged in a fundraiser with some people I went to school with one of those someone has shared with anyone they know. I lost touch with school mates years ago, did spend a bit of time looking at their social media and shouldn't have it's just weird I know. Wasted time 100%.

@getmore4less workplace testing set up and running. 

Caught myself with to do list today started going through jobs others can/ should be doing thinking I could do that whilst I'm off. Wife told me not to be so stupid it was nothing that can't wait. 

Have spent about 10 minutes on personal finances today my Mrs keeps stealing my time.

I'm not suggesting Vienna to my Mrs she'll want to go and we've next year's holidays planned I'm already taking enough time off mate more than I ever have done before and I don't need to keep getting tripped off. 

@enthusiasticsaver I know it is the root of my problems, can't be ok with myself as I am iyswim. I've found getting away from using cocaine on a regular basis very much easier than getting away from the need to make more money and acquire more property. I know what addiction looks/ feels like and that is what it is; I recognise it and the pros do talk about it regularly with them but can't get to next step with it, as I know with the other stuff you can lead a horse to water. I see there are negative consequences from the chasing - health neglected/ family neglected/ commitments to meet family/ friends etc neglected/ using drugs to 'keep going' in the past or because I'm feeling !!!!!! about where I am rn without real reason to/ has led me to stupid decisions in the past not thinking straight just obsessed with the idea of profit/ income stream/ more money. Those decisions were when I was using so I'm not sure how much was false confidence from that and how much was the obsession with the potential. Even writing that and knowing it's quite destructive I can't give up on the hope of making something of my life, !!!!!! crazy I know. 

@foxgloves I have had my booster, it was before Christmas and no real symptoms until Christmas Day apart from allergy flaring up a bit. I think if you get a reaction to the booster it's pretty much straight away? 

@foxgloves / @RelievedSheff / @Judes123 / @Sun_Addict unfortunately heard a lot of people really finding things difficult with side effects after the booster even if they didn't suffer too much after the other two.

alt80

Woken up feeling awful despite an ok nights sleep. I’m sleeping ok but I think it’s exhaustion ha. Spoken to my parents on FaceTime they asked me three times if I’m ok and said I don’t look well. Told them it’s not covid. We’ve had to cancel a fair few plans just because I’m not up to it. Have tried to spend as much time with my wife and son as possible tbh apart from the odd walk more just been me laid on the sofa joining in where I can and sleeping a lot. Shouldn’t be like this at my age not gonna lie I’m disappointed this is how my week off has gone will be back to working as normal on Tuesday and rn I could take another week off with how I’m feeling. Doesn’t help the mindset feeling like this but also struggling with the need to keep going and improve on what I have.

RelievedSheff

Let your body rest if it needs it. 

efes_shareholder

maybe take  PCR just to be sure

warby68

I agree, your posts suggest your mental health is steadier but those intense weeks of stress take their toll. As soon as you relax from the stress your body gives in. Listen to it, don't fight it. 

It might sound a bit flippant but I also believe at this time of year we are fighting a natural urge to hibernate. I'm sure there will be some science around reduced daylight and body clocks.

A day or 2 on the sofas with films and treats can be very enjoyable you know.

You've got a bit of that new year, new start going on with your business plans. I think we all do that to some extent - start thinking about the bigger picture and plans. Just keep it in under control and make a firm commitment to STOP doing this stuff late at night. 

If I were you, and I know I'm not, I'd be looking at at least another 12m of consolidation. Really establish the new personal lifestyle and the business improvements where you are aiming to become less hands on and the strategist. If a good deal comes your way fair enough but perhaps don't look too hard. You're coming back from 20y of drug use. You're only 41. You don't have to do everything at once. I'd be looking to surplus rententions to get the PG away. That is very significant. Ring fencing is better for you and also shows your businesses stand on their own merits. It will help you get in step with more common views of financial strength. That is probably more significant than another unit or two within 12m. Then you can go back to considered growth from a really solid platform. 

You also still need to practice being a bit less busy to balance business and personal lives.

When you waver remember you are successful already, whatever the demons tell you. 

lucielle

Hello hope you don't mind me butting in.  I've dipped in and out of your diary.  Well done for how much you've achieved so far.

I'm self employed and find that when I have time off, its like my body says 'right now its time to be ill/sleep/destress etc' Normally I can't stop thinking about work but the last couple of times I've had downtime I've had no inclination to do anything.  Hope this helps
L

SingleSue

lucielle said:

Hello hope you don't mind me butting in.  I've dipped in and out of your diary.  Well done for how much you've achieved so far.

I'm self employed and find that when I have time off, its like my body says 'right now its time to be ill/sleep/destress etc' Normally I can't stop thinking about work but the last couple of times I've had downtime I've had no inclination to do anything.  Hope this helps
L

Oh yes, the amount of times I have looked forward to time off and then been ill when it has come about.

I woke up feeling awful this morning too, mine definitely is exhaustion as I have really been pushing the boundaries of my chronic fatigue/disabilities and nothing else, only issue there is that I also have work today! I've got the next three days off but most of that will be spent trying to recoup the energy levels so that I can work on Sunday and looking after mum...I'm getting sad faces from the offspring despite them now being adults, apparently they had ideas of stuff we could do as a family in my time off.

Alt - Regarding going out for a meal for Christmas etc, an additional day out during the summer wouldn't make a difference to the Christmas day meal, we'd still have to do something for Christmas and that is what mum is wanting to avoid especially after this year's experience, mind you, I do like the idea of doing a special meal out during the year and calling it a family celebration, I'm a girl of expensive taste and treating myself and any excuse will do.

I'm now looking at cheap breaks away (in this country) self catering for next year and dreaming of a get away from everyone Christmas....none of it will happen though, it will be the same thing next year as this year and all round to mum's, present opening and then cooking the dinner, it's just all talk.

Purplelady65

I think your body is just recovering from the additional stress you put it under in the final run up to Christmas. From your posts your usual state appears to be of someone under pressure (although most of the pressure seems to come from yourself not external sources) and stress and then you added to it when you became super anxious in the run up to Christmas. It’s just your body’s way of recovering. Once the big event of Christmas Day and the day you had been dreading was happening your body just relaxed. If you know any teachers it’s quite common for them to be unwell in the school holidays as they’re under a lot of pressure during term time and then they relax a bit in the holidays. We went on holiday one year to France and got quite friendly with another family in the next gite. We hardly saw the dad though for the first week. Turned out he was a lawyer in London with a really busy job, long hours spent commuting and working, evenings entertaining clients, survived on very little sleep e.t.c. So whenever they went on holiday he basically spent the first week sleeping day and night to recover so they always booked a two week holiday so by the second week he’d caught up on his sleep, destressed etc and had got his energy back to then do family activities. I wouldn’t worry about not feeling great - just accept it, try and relax and rest and I’m sure you’ll feel better soon.