First Steps to Solvency

alt80

@warby68 thanks really trying to keep as level as I can tbh not letting it spiral. Idk need to get my sleep sorted had about 8 hours and a !!!!!! nap yesterday could go get back in bed too. Get like this in the week and I crave the stuff just to get through start the whole farce all over again. Never learn ha.

My counsellor works for one of the places. I definitely don’t want to end up in rehab from my knowledge it’s 28 days out of life - not allowed to work.

RelievedSheff

alt80 said:

@warby68 thanks really trying to keep as level as I can tbh not letting it spiral. Idk need to get my sleep sorted had about 8 hours and a !!!!!! nap yesterday could go get back in bed too. Get like this in the week and I crave the stuff just to get through start the whole farce all over again. Never learn ha.

My counsellor works for one of the places. I definitely don’t want to end up in rehab from my knowledge it’s 28 days out of life - not allowed to work.

That might do you some good to step back and realise that work can manage without you and you don't have to put in so many hours for the business to prosper.

Anyway good to see you are more level headed again today.

You need some sleep let your body and mind rest and reset. 

theoretica

alt80 said:

Yeah it’s very difficult for families that are close knit. Must admit I’m half glad there’s less temptation need that right now but hate to see what it’s doing to my wife and her parents could see her in a childcare bubble but they won’t think that’s what upsets her the most. She told me she thinks they’ve just rejected her lol.

You've said that a number of times about childcare bubbles, but my understanding is the rules are that her parents only can bubble with one other household - 'You can only have one childcare bubble with one other household. This means no household should be part of more than one childcare bubble.' - and her parents are already in a childcare bubble with a grandchild who actually needs their regular care. Horrible the way choosing has to work for families.

KxMx

I dont know how far away you are from in laws or what their health and mobility is like, but meeting one other person outside household for outdoor exercise is allowed. 

So she could potentially see them one at a time on different days while having a gentle walk. 

ladyholly

KxMx said:

I dont know how far away you are from in laws or what their health and mobility is like, but meeting one other person outside household for outdoor exercise is allowed. 

So she could potentially see them one at a time on different days while having a gentle walk. 

This time I dont think there is a time limit either you just cant sit down  on a seat. However if someone has a walker with a seat I dont think anyone would argue with that for someone elderly was using it to get their breath back.

theoretica

But it is two people only so would need to be sometime Alt could be with his son.  I suggest Alt discuss this with the inlaws first as if they don't want to do this it might be better not to mention the possibility to his wife at all.

ryanm8655

Keep soldiering on chap! You will feel better soon!

Completely understand the wife feeling rejected but makes me wonder if it’s a part of something deeper? Would explain the fairly extreme emotional responses etc.

RelievedSheff

ryanm8655 said:

Keep soldiering on chap! You will feel better soon!

Completely understand the wife feeling rejected but makes me wonder if it’s a part of something deeper? Would explaining the fairly extreme emotional responses etc.

I agree with this. She is an adult so should be fully capable of realising that her parents are not rejecting her, they are just not allowed to see her right now.

Onebrokelady

Have you tried reframing the past 4/5 years as instead of wasting it due to coasting and using drugs you were actually not well. You have had mental health problems which are an illness and yet despite that you have managed to keep your business going and haven't lost it, the people that depend on you have not lost their jobs and your tenants still all have a home, your family have everything they need and are safe all because you managed to keep it together despite being ill with mental health problems. The drug use is now hopefully being sorted and once you get over the withdrawals you can then concentrate on improving things for the future 

Onebrokelady

Your wife needs to realise that her parents are doing the best they can to keep everyone safe,they can't form a childcare support bubble with her because you are only allowed to pick on family to be your childcare. My daughter had to pick her mother in law over me because she doesn't work and has a car so is more able to pick the children up if they need it, she also lives slightly closer than me. I am also more of a risk because of my job in the NHS, I'm sad I don't see them but I know why it needs to be done