Noisy kids next door.

-taff

Normally, you'd be in uni and working there having classes etc or working not at home. Normally, they'd be in school making all their noise there. These are unusual circumstances so you are going to hear more noise. I lived in a lfat where there was a corssing outside that beeped all day when people used it. I got used to the noise and didn't hear it after a while. Hopefully, your nosisy kids will be the same soon....If you fixate on something, you notice it more, so try to fixate on something else....

Sophie_10

SpiderLegs said:

Sophie_10 said:

I think the stairs are fixed to my wall. I will definitely look into doing that and hopefully second time lucky he will understand!
Exactly, I feel like sometimes people use the fact that they have kids in a terrace or semi detached as an excuse to make whatever noise they like. I'm sure if I was playing music at 8pm quite loudly through their walls while his kids were asleep, he would let me know!

I think you’re starting to come across as a bit entitled to be honest.
The kids are playing. They make noise. If you have kids you’ll soon understand that, and you will probably enjoy the fact that they do so. The fact that you are trying to work during the day in a terrace next door with thin walls isn’t really anyone else’s problem to deal with except your own. There are plenty good of suggestions being made by others, none of which involve blaming the children or their parents for living, what by the sounds of it, is a normal life.

Good luck fixing this issue, but please try to understand that it’s your circumstances that are the cause of the problem.

Hi,

Oh wow, I do apologise if I come across that way, that was not my intention at all! I just want both of us to be respectful with regard to noise, as while we all have different circumstances, we are all living next door to each other and I think that is reasonable. I do take on the suggestions people are making, are you saying I am not sorry?

If people are not living in a mutually respectful way and with a slight lack of conscientiousness, whether they have kids or not, I will speak up I'm afraid.

Please refrain from that self-righteous "you don't have kids, therefore, you can't complain" attitude. I would say that comes across a bit self-righteous in all honesty!  

I do feel for the fact that everyone must be struggling at the moment, including people with kids and I did say that. I am just at my wit's end, as it is a difficult and awkward situation. 

Thank you, good luck to you also  

Sophie_10

steampowered said:

Get some noise cancelling headphones.

Anyway a few kids running up and down stairs shouldn't stop you from concentrating. Concentrating is hard, and not everyone can do it effectively: it's easy to start looking for things to blame, when you need to focus on yourself!

Please understand I am well aware of my own issues with noise sensitivity and concentration, which I am working on. All I can say is, it is sometimes hard to understand where someone is coming from when they say they can't concentrate because of extreme loud noise next door unless you are there. It definitely contributes, I am not trying to say their wrong and I'm right, I'm just explaining a situation - I hope that makes sense and take care!  

Scotbot

I  sympathise as I am sensitive to noise too. I made the decision to move to a cheaper area where I could afford a detached house as all walls are thin IMO unless you are in a castle with stone walls. This also allows me to play my choice of music loudly,  Dies Irae from Verdi's Requiem is played by a 60 piece orchestra, should be listened to  at full tilt and is enough to wake the dead!

Probably futile but you could try asking the children themselves not to charge up and downstairs. You never know they may take more notice of you than their dad 

Sophie_10

-taff said:

Normally, you'd be in uni and working there having classes etc or working not at home. Normally, they'd be in school making all their noise there. These are unusual circumstances so you are going to hear more noise. I lived in a lfat where there was a corssing outside that beeped all day when people used it. I got used to the noise and didn't hear it after a while. Hopefully, your nosisy kids will be the same soon....If you fixate on something, you notice it more, so try to fixate on something else....

I do actually work at home with my studies. I do understand that I'm going to hear more noise, hopefully, I have made that clear. Unfortunately, this noise existed way before this whole lockdown situation - it is on-going. 

Hope that clarifies. Thanks for the advice!

another_casualty

Sorry to hear of your situation op
What may be better for you and cheaper , are sleep phones . Look them up . You can get Bluetooth ones . They are pretty good , and if you get Bluetooth ones you can move around your home . You may not mind looking like a tennis player , but they are comfy 😺
Maybe it's best to say nothing , and the kids may go back to school soon ( next week?)and things will quieten down . 

Hope the cat is ok 😼

RelievedSheff

SpiderLegs said:

Sophie_10 said:

I think the stairs are fixed to my wall. I will definitely look into doing that and hopefully second time lucky he will understand!
Exactly, I feel like sometimes people use the fact that they have kids in a terrace or semi detached as an excuse to make whatever noise they like. I'm sure if I was playing music at 8pm quite loudly through their walls while his kids were asleep, he would let me know!

I think you’re starting to come across as a bit entitled to be honest.
The kids are playing. They make noise. If you have kids you’ll soon understand that, and you will probably enjoy the fact that they do so. The fact that you are trying to work during the day in a terrace next door with thin walls isn’t really anyone else’s problem to deal with except your own. There are plenty good of suggestions being made by others, none of which involve blaming the children or their parents for living, what by the sounds of it, is a normal life.

Good luck fixing this issue, but please try to understand that it’s your circumstances that are the cause of the problem.

I think that is quite a rude response. 

Having children is a lifestyle choice and that choice should not adversely affect the lives of those living around you, especially in close quarters housing such as terraced houses or flats. It is the parents responsibility to ensure that their choices do not inflict a nuisance on others around them.

If you choose to bring up children in attached houses then you have to teach them that they have to be respectful to their neighbours and reduce their noise levels in the house. There is a time and a place for noisy play and that is not inside a house where you know that there is a noise transmission problem between adjoining dwellings.

Some people seem to think that having children somehow gives them the right to make as much noise as they like. That is just unfair to those living around them. I'm sure if the shoe was on the other foot and their neighbours started playing loud music or partaking in other loud activities then the parents would be the first to complain.

There does have to be some give and take and expecting absolute silence is equally not acceptable but you should be able to enjoy your own home without those around you inflicting their choices onto your life. That isn't being self entitled. 

NameUnavailable

Sophie_10 said:

Hi,
I  live in a terrace, and the walls are very thin, so I can hear the kids next door very loudly. I do appreciate it is difficult times for people with kids during lockdown and I bet they can't wait for the kids to go back to school just as much as me, but I also find it extremely difficult concentrating when working from home and just trying to relax. When they are in, it is constant banging up and down the stairs and screaming, which can admittedly drive me crazy. If I can take any benefit out of it, it has confirmed my decision I will never live in a terrace or semi-detached house again, I'd honestly rather live in a caravan.

When concentrating on my uni work, one time they were so loud that I had to tell him to kindly please ask his kids to not bang up and down the stairs so much, which he replied a simple "ok" to. That lasted just one day. 

I don't know what leg I stand on here. From other people complaining about this sort of thing on forums, a lot of the replies I see are nearly always on the loud kids side. 

I don't know what the next steps are really - I'm going into my second year at uni and if it is really bad I may not be able to hold my tongue!

Thank you. 

I feel your pain, literally the same thing where I am and currently the kids next door are screaming as I type. There's 2 kids a baby and slightly older girl. From about 7am until about 7pm it's pretty constant crying/screaming - really constant - and a lot of thumbing noises which I assume is running up/down stairs and slamming doors.

I have to play loud music to block it out sometimes but I get lots of work calls and it's a pain constantly turning the music off and on!

I'm in a semi detached house, fortunately it's not mine and I'm just living here whilst looking for my own place but having moved out of a flat it shows that even a semi detached house isn't safe from distracting/irritating noise!

Norman_Castle

SpiderLegs said:

Sophie_10 said:

I think the stairs are fixed to my wall. I will definitely look into doing that and hopefully second time lucky he will understand!
Exactly, I feel like sometimes people use the fact that they have kids in a terrace or semi detached as an excuse to make whatever noise they like. I'm sure if I was playing music at 8pm quite loudly through their walls while his kids were asleep, he would let me know!

The kids are playing. They make noise. If you have kids you’ll soon understand that, and you will probably enjoy the fact that they do so.

The vast majority of parents will tell their children to be quiet when their childrens noise bothers them. Expecting neighbours to just tolerate your noisy children is unreasonable and poor parenting. Children need to be educated to be socially responsible which includes fitting in with neighbours. Most children will adapt very easily to requests to play or use stairs quietly.

NameUnavailable

I knew some here would blame the OP for being annoyed!

There is no need for a young girl to scream constantly all day long. I have no idea why she is screaming or why the parents semmingly just let her. If I was the parent I would find it annoying myself!

What was the saying, little children should be seen and not heard?...........

It's bad parenting. Simple. Same as parents who let their brats run riot in shops and restaurants to the annoyance of others.