Noisy kids next door.

Sophie_10

Deleted_User said:

I'm kind of in the same boat so know how you feel. I'm in a semi-detached but get noise not only from the neighbours we're attached to but also the brats next door who not only scream and shout in the garden but also stand on the trampoline, which is conveniently placed as far down the garden as possible and stare into our property and at us. Not to mention the expletives the 9 year old shouts at his mother and grandmother on a daily basis. 

Needless to say we're currently looking into moving! 

Oh no, I really do feel for you there, it must be so frustrating. It makes you feel so unlucky, doesn't it? Our last two neighbours have been loud (he rents the property out next to us) so I just wonder if we'll get our third loud neighbour before we move!

Norman_Castle

Sophie_10 said:

After the lockdown, can I just ask if it would be entirely unreasonable to ask the neighbour to keep the noise down if it is unbearably loud (clearly subjective, of course)? I personally think if you live in a terrace where other people are around, you should do your best to be respectful and keep noise levels reasonable rather than at an unbearably loud level. We all have our different circumstances after all. 

I would ask again. Presumably their stairs are fixed to your wall. Explain exactly what noise is intruding into your home and how you cannot concentrate because of it.

In attached properties you will hear the neighbours to a degree but you should also expect to moderate the noise you make, that includes policing your children.

Sophie_10

orangecrush said:

If you're only in year 2 of your degree, honestly I would move.  Otherwise this is going to bug you for a long time! 

There are a lot of "shoulds" but you have zero control over other people (sadly!) and kids are just noisy.  My kid is noisy, he's tiny but he walks like an elephant.  Try a top floor apartment maybe?  At least then you've only got noise from one direction!

I am not in the right situation to move, unfortunately, but you bet if I win the lottery, I'm out of there haha! I'll have to wait it out until my degree is over because of financial reasons.
I do understand that, I do feel they are poorly disciplined however there has been quite a bit of bad behaviour I have seen.

Sophie_10

Norman_Castle said:

Sophie_10 said:

After the lockdown, can I just ask if it would be entirely unreasonable to ask the neighbour to keep the noise down if it is unbearably loud (clearly subjective, of course)? I personally think if you live in a terrace where other people are around, you should do your best to be respectful and keep noise levels reasonable rather than at an unbearably loud level. We all have our different circumstances after all. 

I would ask again. Presumably their stairs are fixed to your wall. Explain exactly what noise is intruding into your home and how you cannot concentrate because of it.

In attached properties you will hear the neighbours to a degree but you should also expect to moderate the noise you make, that includes policing your children.

I think the stairs are fixed to my wall. I will definitely look into doing that and hopefully second time lucky he will understand!
Exactly, I feel like sometimes people use the fact that they have kids in a terrace or semi detached as an excuse to make whatever noise they like. I'm sure if I was playing music at 8pm quite loudly through their walls while his kids were asleep, he would let me know!

wilfred30

Sophie_10 said:

Deleted_User said:

I'm kind of in the same boat so know how you feel. I'm in a semi-detached but get noise not only from the neighbours we're attached to but also the brats next door who not only scream and shout in the garden but also stand on the trampoline, which is conveniently placed as far down the garden as possible and stare into our property and at us. Not to mention the expletives the 9 year old shouts at his mother and grandmother on a daily basis. 

Needless to say we're currently looking into moving! 

Oh no, I really do feel for you there, it must be so frustrating. It makes you feel so unlucky, doesn't it? Our last two neighbours have been loud (he rents the property out next to us) so I just wonder if we'll get our third loud neighbour before we move!

So this current family are your third set of 'noisy' neighbours.  As I said, you must indeed be very unlucky or ............. you are the common denominator.

GDB2222

Unless the noise is absolutely unreasonable, you don't have any legal recourse. So, all you can do is ask the neighbours (nicely) to do what they can to calm the kids down a bit. 

Apart from that, have you tried foam earplugs?
You can buy ear defenders very cheaply, and these reduce noise levels A LOT!  These ones are under £3, and they work really well: https://www.screwfix.com/p/ear-defenders-27-6db-snr/6191D

Funnily enough, I like the sound of children playing. It's full of joy, innocence, and hope. Maybe, if you concentrate on the positive side, it may help to make the noise less irritating?

Sophie_10

wilfred30 said:

Sophie_10 said:

Deleted_User said:

I'm kind of in the same boat so know how you feel. I'm in a semi-detached but get noise not only from the neighbours we're attached to but also the brats next door who not only scream and shout in the garden but also stand on the trampoline, which is conveniently placed as far down the garden as possible and stare into our property and at us. Not to mention the expletives the 9 year old shouts at his mother and grandmother on a daily basis. 

Needless to say we're currently looking into moving! 

Oh no, I really do feel for you there, it must be so frustrating. It makes you feel so unlucky, doesn't it? Our last two neighbours have been loud (he rents the property out next to us) so I just wonder if we'll get our third loud neighbour before we move!

So this current family are your third set of 'noisy' neighbours.  As I said, you must indeed be very unlucky or ............. you are the common denominator.

Hey, thank you so much for pointing my error out! I meant to say my last neighbour, not last two neighbours, so thanks again for pointing this out!! 

To expand, our first neighbours at our last house were absolutely fine, the problem was the walls were just quite thin (thin walls seem to be a common denominator here). In our current house, the neighbour tended to shout and scream through the walls at 6am most mornings so it woke us up a lot, but apart from that she was quiet, bless her. And obviously these neighbours with the noisy kids  

Sophie_10

GDB2222 said:

Unless the noise is absolutely unreasonable, you don't have any legal recourse. So, all you can do is ask the neighbours (nicely) to do what they can to calm the kids down a bit. 

Apart from that, have you tried foam earplugs?
You can buy ear defenders very cheaply, and these reduce noise levels A LOT!  These ones are under £3, and they work really well: https://www.screwfix.com/p/ear-defenders-27-6db-snr/6191D

Funnily enough, I like the sound of children playing. It's full of joy, innocence, and hope. Maybe, if you concentrate on the positive side, it may help to make the noise less irritating?

Thanks for the advice, GDB2222.
Foam ear plugs are my life saver at the weekends, without them I would get woken up a lot! Unfortunately, I can't wear them all the time as they can hurt my ears.
Ok, I will try, but it is understandably quite difficult to focus on the positive side of constant loud banging up and down the stairs when I'm desperately trying to concentrate on a deadline haha! I wouldn't say that is much of a positive noise perhaps?

SpiderLegs

Sophie_10 said:

I think the stairs are fixed to my wall. I will definitely look into doing that and hopefully second time lucky he will understand!
Exactly, I feel like sometimes people use the fact that they have kids in a terrace or semi detached as an excuse to make whatever noise they like. I'm sure if I was playing music at 8pm quite loudly through their walls while his kids were asleep, he would let me know!

I think you’re starting to come across as a bit entitled to be honest.
The kids are playing. They make noise. If you have kids you’ll soon understand that, and you will probably enjoy the fact that they do so. The fact that you are trying to work during the day in a terrace next door with thin walls isn’t really anyone else’s problem to deal with except your own. There are plenty good of suggestions being made by others, none of which involve blaming the children or their parents for living, what by the sounds of it, is a normal life.

Good luck fixing this issue, but please try to understand that it’s your circumstances that are the cause of the problem.

steampowered

Get some noise cancelling headphones.

Anyway a few kids running up and down stairs shouldn't stop you from concentrating. Concentrating is hard, and not everyone can do it effectively: it's easy to start looking for things to blame, when you need to focus on yourself!