Adult 'Babies'

sweetsand

MalMonroe said:

sweetsand said:

Marvel1 said:

There's your bags, out you go.

I'd just like to add that if there is any hesitation a swift kick up the rear would not go amiss. 

Great parenting advice.

When it's gone as far as the OP states, then that is indeed good parenting as you put it. Thanks

Fireflyaway

Your situation reminds me of my husband's brother. He never lifted a hand at home because there was always a housekeeper. He worked at his mums business but really took the mick. Turning up late, taking 2 hour lunches, asking for advances in wages. He was very childish if things didn't go his way and he would shout or be demanding or rude and go into a strop. Basically mum in law put up with his demands / laziness for a quieter life. Things only improved when he got married. In short (sorry I do waffle) if you allow this behaviour it's going to continue. No matter how much you dislike it or ask nicely, it's not going to change because they don't have the conscious to want to stop. The only way you can stop it is to physically stop them. Sit them down, explain how upset you really are and that you love them but you can't continue to live like this. It's not good for your wellbeing and it's hampering them achieving their best. Set a date they have to move out. It may take a while but hopefully they will look back in years to come and thank you for it. 

bouicca21

After enabling this behaviour for so long, it will be a long haul to change it.  I’d suggest that OP has the talk and then picks one thing to change as the first step.  So what if the response is I’ll move out and sell drugs. That’s his choice, nothing to do with OP.

sweetsand

OP, have you taken decisive action as set out by me and some others - truf them out A-Sap?

suki1964

Whats truf and A-Sap?

sweetsand

bouicca21 said:

After enabling this behaviour for so long, it will be a long haul to change it.  I’d suggest that OP has the talk and then picks one thing to change as the first step.  So what if the response is I’ll move out and sell drugs. That’s his choice, nothing to do with OP.

A nice, gentle post. However, I must be blunt as the time to beating about the bush has long passed. The best I can offer is, tell them what is expected from right now or out on their rears the next morning. I've seen too many parents, grandparents suffer and this adult babies know how to play, fool, con people.

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suki1964 said:

Whats truf and A-Sap?

I believe they are big on the UK's Grime scene.

Fireflyaway

suki1964 said:

Whats truf and A-Sap?

Maybe Turf (as in throw out) and maybe 'as soon as possible...... ' but you kind of knew that methinks.

suki1964

Fireflyaway said:

suki1964 said:

Whats truf and A-Sap?

Maybe Turf (as in throw out) and maybe 'as soon as possible...... ' but you kind of knew that methinks.

Actually as a dyslexic I find the posts by this person very hard to follow

My brain will read a sentence, and where as most posters will come across a mis spelt word and auto correct, mine doesn't and I have to read and read again and some times I just cant work it out

Ive always been very upfront on these forums about being dyslexic and how much effort I have to take to make a legible post which is why I do have a pretty low post count compared to the amount of years Ive been here