Weekly Flylady Thread 1st June 2020

Goodintentions

I was going to say Good Morning, but it's not!! 
Good afternoon!
I was up at a reasonable time, and dressed! I have checked the bank accounts and emails, paid a bill, hung out the washing that DH did earlier and put on a hot wash of towels. I have also had a SD catch in the front garden with a friend who came to collect some puzzles I was re-homing, which was nice. Other than that, not much else has been done! I know I need to get to the allotment, but it is hot now! It is cooler tomorrow, but DH and I have planned a visit out for a walk, as it is officially our week off - we had planned to go for week to Cornwall, via a night or 2 camping in the New Forest, so a walk at a localish (about 30 mins away) river side will have to suffice! I managed to get SR flour yesterday, so I may make some scones so we can take our own cream tea  
I think I will make some lunch in a mo, then I may need to make a little list so I can motivate myself!

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Hi ladies,

Have lost most of the morning to being on the phone. My mum is very unwell (mentally and physically) and as an only child a lot of it falls to me. Having said that, when I got off the phone this morning I realised there is nothing EVER that I can say/do/fix for her that will make her well again. It's a sad thought and I feel somewhat in mourning, but the sooner I accept this the better. I have spent too long being the parent and trying to make her better. She wants to make some very bad choices now and I can't talk her round. Sorry to moan, I have no one else to talk to about this. Anyone else have similar experiences with parents? 

As a consequence of the above the kids spent way too long on devices to occupy them so I will be coaxing them outside soon. Lunch made, three bags of clothes taken to the clothing bank, laundry over the airer in the sun. I now intend to enjoy a cuppa in the sun and attempt to lose myself in a book. 

Take care all xx

Mudbath

Hugs sparkly...it's a horrid feeling but I know what you mean about mourning them when they are still with us...and then we feel guilty for feeling that. Extra hugs xx
Kazw - exciting that new house is getting closer. Kitchens and bathrooms are both ridiculously expensive!

Doing bare minimum today. Think my CBA feelings might be a bug as can't stay awake. Going to do very little and maybe just delegate and put the odd thing away if / when I get up for whatever reason. Might declutter a book that I'm half way through! 

pigpen

roundtuit said:

lol - DS told me months ago that I needed to catch up with the world as 'even Grandad has a smartphone'   Grandad also has an iPad and can Facetime people - go Grandad lol. I hate taking on something new. I know I'll be fine once the phone is here and working and the DD is running nicely but until then I've paid for a heap of trouble and they're going to empty my bank account. 

You can imagine how much I am looking forward to replacing Pip   

Rxx

It will be fine.. grandad can help you ... be brave...

OH fixed the kitchen unit door.. and is back to sanding.
I feel pretty shocking today.. narrowed it down to covid, severe hayfever attack or lead poisoning from 130 years of paint being inhaled!  .. I'm going with lead poisoning.. it sounds very medieval!

I'm stripping wallpaper next.. and OH has the toilet stickers to do next.. I am not looking forward to him returning to work in July!

Best move with my sticky wheezing chest..

roundtuit

Go steady piggers xx You are allowed a day off if you're not well. Hope you are feeling better soon vibes heading north over the bridge to you . I won't send purple dust - it may aggravate your wheeze!

Round 1 completed + filled the bird bath, washed and recycled all the plastics, took Pip for a run to keep battery charged, and called at PO to pay leccy bill and rent. Last night I asked DS to bring down his bedding when he got up today so that I could wash it. He hasn't and I cba to remind him. 

I've emptied the magazine rack and had a sort out. 9 newspapers and 18 magazines are now in the recycling, Unread newspapers and magazines  Fer-ling.  It's never been known. Finally dawned on me that just because I am given a magazine, or a newspaper comes through the door, it is not compulsory for me to read it cover to cover including ads. I've kept the ones that I want to read and fer-lung the rest. There is a small part of me that still thinks the earth will stop turning because I've done this - but I'm prepared to risk it. All part of the healing journey. (I still get a kick out of recycling beer bottles with the labels still on - it's so much quicker to get rid of them. Eternal gratitude to Jojo for that one. Waves to Jojo in case she is lurking )

My new phone will be delivered by Dave between 16.03 and 17.03 apparently. What's with the .03? Shrug. And I don't have to sign for it but Dave will need to see photo ID and take a photo of the door open and the parcel on the doorstep to prove it's been delivered. Yeah, ok. How will they prove it's my doorstep - do they look for identifying weeds marks?

Rxx

skint_breeder_5

Checking back in.....
ASB my heart goes out to you. My mum was in and out of hospital since I was 7. Although I was in my 20s when I found out from my Dad what the explanation was behind the triggering event, it gave me a greater understanding of why she couldn't just pull " herself together". Parenting the parent is incredibly emotionally and physically difficult situation to be in, especially if you are an only child or have emotionally absent siblings even if they physically live with the parent. I have had more 3am phone calls than I bare to recollect, even when my Dad and sister were in the same house. Ultimately we can't stop the march of time and we can't undo the natural consequences of poor choices made by others, We can mitigate the fallout sometimes, but it is important to accept that all our woulds/coulds/shoulds only work for us, we can't action replay every event when we haven't been able to hear/see/think from inside their soul and it's ok to forgive yourself for that . hugs XXX.
Hopped up on painkillers today, flying off piste......so I will list what I have done .
DS bedding and soft plushie toys through the wash
Regular WM X2 and pegged out
Recycling hunt for crafts for DD4 later.
LR and DR windowsills cleaned
Leather sofas spot cleaned
Cat toilets x2 washed and dried in garden
Kitchen counters S&S
WUDUPA
Trip to bnm for a few garden bits for Young Skints for personal growth/education and bits for me to hide the scruffy grass permanently, so I can save on getting a man in to do the garden and hopefully eliminate the hayfever.
Right time to declutter a coffee, and do a little bit more 

Hugs, stick and spoons for all in need XXX

Valli

kazwookie said:

Blimey, it has been some years since I have even looked at kitchens as in new the whole kitchen, I am totally shocked at prices     how much for a tap and sinks they are  arm and leg jobbies.    off to search the internet for reasonable quality but not an arm and leg..................

Apparently you can get ex-sdisplay kitchen and all sorts of bargains IF you search (according to the people on HUTH etc)
A Very pleasant 3 hours spent in the Country park with my friends.  Now to madly catch up.

roundtuit

Smartphone has arrived. An instruction book would have helped!!! But I'll work it out eventually.  If I haven't flung the beep thing at a wall.
Rxx

pigpen

I have stripped some wall.. burned my finger quite badly.. I will live! Been very brave and messaged people saying they can plan what they like for Twinkles birthday they are not coming here.. not knowing what my chest/cough/headache are caused by made the deision pretty simple. I am keeping my germs inthe house.. the app says get a CV test.. but I am 100% it is not that.. more likely the lead poisoning but almost certainly the hayfever.. there has been a massive pollen spike this week so like as not it is that.

Off to throw food in for the girls as I am a rubbish parent and didn't realise how late it has got.. and I need to pick up paper and paint scrapings and vacuum the hallway. Progress with decorating it halted until we get poly filler and I realised I haven't actually decided what colour I want the paintwork though stripping the bit I has an unearther absulotely pristine victorian stained skirtings.. They are beautiful... but not in keeping with my silver sparkle life... I am going dark grey I think..

and one steam stripper blew an element and the other has had its noonoo eaten by shed rats... FLING!!!!!! and I resorted to cood old soapy water and a car sponge.... I wonder what Soappie is up to... been such a long time since she visited..

kazwookie

Thanks Valli, I did ring a kitchen place who told me they are not back working yet, as they cannot visit private houses to measure up to do a quote................the house is not lived in and empty except for the cat and his clutter, most odd, but it is what it is for now. I'll keep looking online and using my imagination.

My 3 new doors for the bedrooms were delivered today, ment to be coming on Friday...........

I cut my back lawn today, blimey it was a real effort as it is so neglected, but now at least I can see which way to go and what needs to be done.

The cat had 1 hour out in the back garden sniffing around, first time he has been out since 20th March when he was taken to the cattery, he came back when called, I'll do another hour tomorrow and so on to get him use to where he is.

Grilled cleaned in rental.