Told my boss I can’t cope and he told me to take annual leave

Splatfoot

oneninezeropop said:

I’m actually bored of this now. People don’t seem to be offering advice other than I’m the issue. So therefore I’ll just follow my doctors advice of getting signed of.... which helps no one. 

Have you considered that it could just be your personality/highly strung and that's just how you are? Have you had problems at work before? Sometimes it helps to look at the bigger picture. Does your company have an occupational health department? Maybe counselling would help?

RyanHello

The OP sounds a bit attention seeking. Not trolling at all, but your boss has offered to help in 3 ways. But with all situations like debt, family problems and mental health problems, the only one who can help is yourself at the end of the day.

Take the annual leave, sort out what's actually wrong and go back to work.

You can talk to someone, but the buck stops with you OP.

Get your sh^t sorted, try and relax, man up and face the day. The world is full of too many weak minded people who easily jump on the mental health bandwagon because they're to lazy to sort it out for themselves. 
Everybody has bad days, that's human nature. 

warby68

Try and look at your bigger life picture rather than stropping off onto sick leave which is the impression you are giving.
It sounds obvious that this workplace doesn't suit you. Look to move on. Much easier to do that if you are in work, not off sick and actually performing well. Might be a case of fake it to make it until you have an exit plan.
Your boss cannot stop colleagues whingeing, that's what offices are like. I agree its disappointing sometime how unprofessional a so-called professional environment is.
Develop a professional persona that is not necessarily how you are in your personal life. It doesn't mean being false, it just means rubbing along and being friendly/neutral without trying to engage deeply with colleagues. Accept its a workplace not a friendship group. A bit like the saying ; you can choose your friends, but not your family if you substitute co-workers for family.
And right now is probably the worst possible time to expect the boss to tackle this sort of stuff - day to day survival will be uppermost in most managers' thoughts.
People here can't help you more without specifics. What insight you have given is petty, there is probably more but if its not for discussion noone can meaningfully advise on whatever it is.
There are many many people who just go to work, do the job and go home to their 'real lives'.

oneninezeropop

@Splatfoot Yes they also don’t like it because I tell them what I think. For example they wanted to bring a claim against their employer for working from home and using their own electricity - I said I’ll be thankful I have a job in a year and I’m leaving the video call. I’m we were also told no bonus this year because company is now struggling - to which a colleague tried to get me involved in her union dispute so I told her she needs to be realistic and look for another job if you aren’t happy with the salary, that was inflammatory. Lol. 

I am looking for a new job don’t worry.

oneninezeropop

@warby68 he doesn’t tackle anything at the best of times, so now would be no different to be fair. He’s already had 1/3 of his team of work due to stress in the last year lol, I forgot about that. I shouldn’t laugh but it is funny that’s he’s doing nothing to help me. Also I’ve not had a 121 for 6 months so I’ve asked for that. 

I really wish I could go to work drama free. How do people cope with annoying colleagues other than leave? 

theoretica

Have you asked them not to include you or let you know about their complaints?  Not that they shouldn't be making them, because that is you getting involved, but simply that you want to be left in ignorance, please.

warby68

oneninezeropop said:

@warby68 he doesn’t tackle anything at the best of times, so now would be no different to be fair. He’s already had 1/3 of his team of work due to stress in the last year lol, I forgot about that. I shouldn’t laugh but it is funny that’s he’s doing nothing to help me. Also I’ve not had a 121 for 6 months so I’ve asked for that. 

I really wish I could go to work drama free. How do people cope with annoying colleagues other than leave? 

By not getting overly involved either with them personally or with their issues. Its playground stuff half the time, trying to get people on their 'side' but it doesn't mean much. Learn to keep your opinions to yourself more and also learn to sympathise without actually agreeing, which is a great technique for avoiding conflict. Its not about right and wrong just knowing you don't have to attend every argument you're invited to. Make your day to day work life conflict free. 
Leaving shouldn't be about one or two annoying colleagues but if the whole environment is negative and you do not have confidence in management then moving on is more realistic than change from within. 
One thing to think about with the whingers is why are they still there? Perhaps the good people are moving on and leaving the dregs behind. Which one are you? From your management perspective they primarily want the job done - if that is happening despite the moaning never expect too much to happen on individual personality type grievances. You are expected to deal with that yourself for the most part. If it rolls into bullying or unacceptable conduct then there are protocols but in most cases the result is the same, you end up leaving whether fair or not. 

Potbellypig

Having only your comments to go on, it seems from the outside looking in that you just don't like your boss. I'm not sure that any solution she gave you would have helped. 
But the 3 options that she has given you are pretty much the 3 that she's paid to give. 

Fire_Fox

oneninezeropop said:

I’m actually bored of this now. People don’t seem to be offering advice other than I’m the issue. So therefore I’ll just follow my doctors advice of getting signed of.... which helps no one. 

It could help you a good deal if you are open rather than closed to it: not least a proper medical diagnosis. You sound as much depressed as stressed ... but I am not a doctor.

Time off allows breathing space and perspective, time to focus on your physical health (sleep quality, diet, physical activity, sunlight exposure, relaxation exercises) and thereby improve your mental wellbeing. Evidence-based self care.

unholyangel

You complain about how annoying your colleagues are, but have you considered that they might think the same about you? There is a fine line between confrontational and outspoken. You say you don't like drama but your response to them claiming electricity was OTT. They're not doing anything illegal that would warrant such a reaction. Why didn't you just respond with a casual "I can see why extra money would be appealing but I wouldn't feel right doing it because x, y and z"? 

Tbh I think you need to read back your posts. Because pretty much everything you're complaining about your colleages doing, you've done/said yourself on here. That they complain about their employer, the lack of goals/motivation/leadership - wasn't your reason for posting here to complain about your employer and how they're not taking charge of your issue with your colleagues, managing you or the situation?

Although I will agree with the above. It could be that the stress is secondary, a result of something else rather than the cause itself. You may want to explore that possibility with your GP next time you see them.

You will also be a lot happier if you learn to accept that you cannot control the actions of other people, only your reaction to it. Plus, life would be boring if we were all the exact same!