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  • savingholmes
    savingholmes Posts: 29,130 Forumite
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    That's actually part of what I'm looking forward to when my kids completely move out. When they are here I feel fully responsible for them. When they stay overnight elsewhere I don't. Glad I'm not the only one. And the peace. When Ex moved out taking all of his annoying noise with him it was such a physical relief...
    Achieve FIRE/Mortgage Neutrality in 2030
    1) MFW Nov 21 £202K now £171.3K Equity 36.55%
    2) £2.6K Net savings after CCs 10/10/25
    3) Mortgage neutral by 06/30 (AVC £30.9K + Lump Sums DB £4.6K + (25% of SIPP 1.25K) = 35.5/£127.5K target 27.8% 14/11/25
    (If took bigger lump sum = 62K or 48.6%)
    4) FI Age 60 income target £17.1/30K 57% (if mortgage and debts repaid - need more otherwise) (If bigger lump sum £15.8/30K 52.67%)
    5) SIPP £5.1K updated 14/11/25
  • Sistergold
    Sistergold Posts: 2,146 Forumite
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    savingholmes said:
    And the peace. When Ex moved out taking all of his annoying noise with him it was such a physical relief...
    It is sad to say that we get to a point where you are just glad someone is gone! I am so glad to have the bedroom to myself now 🙊 no bumping into each other in bed, no snoring keeping me awake! To be honest I am now living THE LIFE! 
    Initial mortgage bal £487.5k, current £258k, target £243,750(halfway!)
    Mortgage start date first week of July 2019,
    Mortgage term 23yrs(end of June 2042🙇🏽♀️), 
    Target is to pay it off in 10years(by 2030🥳). 
    MFW#10 (2022/23 mfw#34)(2021 mfw#47)(2020 mfw#136)
    £12K in 2021 #54 (in 2020 #148)
    MFiT-T6#27
    To save £100K in 48months start 01/07/2020 Achieved 30/05/2023 👯♀️
    Am a single mom of 4. 
    Do not wait to buy a property, Buy a property and wait. 🤓
  • savingholmes
    savingholmes Posts: 29,130 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture 10,000 Posts Name Dropper Photogenic
    Good to hear
    Achieve FIRE/Mortgage Neutrality in 2030
    1) MFW Nov 21 £202K now £171.3K Equity 36.55%
    2) £2.6K Net savings after CCs 10/10/25
    3) Mortgage neutral by 06/30 (AVC £30.9K + Lump Sums DB £4.6K + (25% of SIPP 1.25K) = 35.5/£127.5K target 27.8% 14/11/25
    (If took bigger lump sum = 62K or 48.6%)
    4) FI Age 60 income target £17.1/30K 57% (if mortgage and debts repaid - need more otherwise) (If bigger lump sum £15.8/30K 52.67%)
    5) SIPP £5.1K updated 14/11/25
  • Sistergold
    Sistergold Posts: 2,146 Forumite
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    Hello ladies 
    Well December is well under way and new year and new year resolutions and all? One resolution I really need to make is to get back to my ideal body weight. In readiness to have a good start I would like to get back onto the 5:2 diet. Tough times call for this. To make eating 800 calories on my fasting days interesting I have bought an 800calorie recipe book. Hope this will take the maths out of the whole plan?  Let’s see if I will be motivated enough to lose any weight? 
    Initial mortgage bal £487.5k, current £258k, target £243,750(halfway!)
    Mortgage start date first week of July 2019,
    Mortgage term 23yrs(end of June 2042🙇🏽♀️), 
    Target is to pay it off in 10years(by 2030🥳). 
    MFW#10 (2022/23 mfw#34)(2021 mfw#47)(2020 mfw#136)
    £12K in 2021 #54 (in 2020 #148)
    MFiT-T6#27
    To save £100K in 48months start 01/07/2020 Achieved 30/05/2023 👯♀️
    Am a single mom of 4. 
    Do not wait to buy a property, Buy a property and wait. 🤓
  • savingholmes
    savingholmes Posts: 29,130 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture 10,000 Posts Name Dropper Photogenic
    Could you reward yourself for losing weight?
    Achieve FIRE/Mortgage Neutrality in 2030
    1) MFW Nov 21 £202K now £171.3K Equity 36.55%
    2) £2.6K Net savings after CCs 10/10/25
    3) Mortgage neutral by 06/30 (AVC £30.9K + Lump Sums DB £4.6K + (25% of SIPP 1.25K) = 35.5/£127.5K target 27.8% 14/11/25
    (If took bigger lump sum = 62K or 48.6%)
    4) FI Age 60 income target £17.1/30K 57% (if mortgage and debts repaid - need more otherwise) (If bigger lump sum £15.8/30K 52.67%)
    5) SIPP £5.1K updated 14/11/25
  • Sistergold
    Sistergold Posts: 2,146 Forumite
    Sixth Anniversary 1,000 Posts Name Dropper Photogenic
    edited 6 December 2021 at 10:48PM
    savingholmes said:
    Could you reward yourself for losing weight?
    Good suggestion, will need to think of ways to reward myself? Anyone with what rewards worked for them? Xx
    Initial mortgage bal £487.5k, current £258k, target £243,750(halfway!)
    Mortgage start date first week of July 2019,
    Mortgage term 23yrs(end of June 2042🙇🏽♀️), 
    Target is to pay it off in 10years(by 2030🥳). 
    MFW#10 (2022/23 mfw#34)(2021 mfw#47)(2020 mfw#136)
    £12K in 2021 #54 (in 2020 #148)
    MFiT-T6#27
    To save £100K in 48months start 01/07/2020 Achieved 30/05/2023 👯♀️
    Am a single mom of 4. 
    Do not wait to buy a property, Buy a property and wait. 🤓
  • savingholmes
    savingholmes Posts: 29,130 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture 10,000 Posts Name Dropper Photogenic
    Perhaps make a list of your wants / what makes you happy

    Then say for every half stone or stone you can have X or points towards X depending on how big X is. 

    Achieve FIRE/Mortgage Neutrality in 2030
    1) MFW Nov 21 £202K now £171.3K Equity 36.55%
    2) £2.6K Net savings after CCs 10/10/25
    3) Mortgage neutral by 06/30 (AVC £30.9K + Lump Sums DB £4.6K + (25% of SIPP 1.25K) = 35.5/£127.5K target 27.8% 14/11/25
    (If took bigger lump sum = 62K or 48.6%)
    4) FI Age 60 income target £17.1/30K 57% (if mortgage and debts repaid - need more otherwise) (If bigger lump sum £15.8/30K 52.67%)
    5) SIPP £5.1K updated 14/11/25
  • Sistergold
    Sistergold Posts: 2,146 Forumite
    Sixth Anniversary 1,000 Posts Name Dropper Photogenic
    Yes, I will have to find a way of celebrating every 5kg I lose. Going out for dinner with a friend for that occasion sounds appealing. 🎉🥳
    Initial mortgage bal £487.5k, current £258k, target £243,750(halfway!)
    Mortgage start date first week of July 2019,
    Mortgage term 23yrs(end of June 2042🙇🏽♀️), 
    Target is to pay it off in 10years(by 2030🥳). 
    MFW#10 (2022/23 mfw#34)(2021 mfw#47)(2020 mfw#136)
    £12K in 2021 #54 (in 2020 #148)
    MFiT-T6#27
    To save £100K in 48months start 01/07/2020 Achieved 30/05/2023 👯♀️
    Am a single mom of 4. 
    Do not wait to buy a property, Buy a property and wait. 🤓
  • savingholmes
    savingholmes Posts: 29,130 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture 10,000 Posts Name Dropper Photogenic
    As long as you eat well while out
    Achieve FIRE/Mortgage Neutrality in 2030
    1) MFW Nov 21 £202K now £171.3K Equity 36.55%
    2) £2.6K Net savings after CCs 10/10/25
    3) Mortgage neutral by 06/30 (AVC £30.9K + Lump Sums DB £4.6K + (25% of SIPP 1.25K) = 35.5/£127.5K target 27.8% 14/11/25
    (If took bigger lump sum = 62K or 48.6%)
    4) FI Age 60 income target £17.1/30K 57% (if mortgage and debts repaid - need more otherwise) (If bigger lump sum £15.8/30K 52.67%)
    5) SIPP £5.1K updated 14/11/25
  • Sistergold
    Sistergold Posts: 2,146 Forumite
    Sixth Anniversary 1,000 Posts Name Dropper Photogenic
    savingholmes said:
    As long as you eat well while out
    Yes make sure I don’t gain all the weight back! 
    Initial mortgage bal £487.5k, current £258k, target £243,750(halfway!)
    Mortgage start date first week of July 2019,
    Mortgage term 23yrs(end of June 2042🙇🏽♀️), 
    Target is to pay it off in 10years(by 2030🥳). 
    MFW#10 (2022/23 mfw#34)(2021 mfw#47)(2020 mfw#136)
    £12K in 2021 #54 (in 2020 #148)
    MFiT-T6#27
    To save £100K in 48months start 01/07/2020 Achieved 30/05/2023 👯♀️
    Am a single mom of 4. 
    Do not wait to buy a property, Buy a property and wait. 🤓
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