Both parents are very ill and very elderly. One of them is in hospital and has been for a couple of weeks and is basically "bed-blocking". Hospital parent has been having carers coming in at home 3 times a day (reasonable care firm for reasonable length visits) for months now to deal with them and the hospital says a higher degree of care is now needed for them, but not giving much indication as to how to proceed.
The parents are having to pay for these carers that are already coming in from their savings and have been doing so for months, but myself and the relative with POA have decreed my parents are to keep having these carers in and they are continuing to go in whilst parent still in house is on their own (in order to keep an eye on them).
So that's current position - one parent bedblocking and the other still having those carers going in for them and online shopping done for them and the money for this coming from their savings. They only have pretty modest means - a pretty standard 3 bedroom house and their savings must be heading down close to the allowed limit (think that's about £14,000 each???) by now.
The hospital is pushing to get the bedblocking one outs and wants them in a "nursing home" (not care home) now. We all think the Bedblocker Parent can't have that much longer to live now (90s/very ill physically/vascular dementia). I've said I will accept them staying in the hospital till Day Zero (ie when they die), I will accept them being transferred to a small community hospital, I believe they should go into the Hospice now. Hospital just wants them Out and doesn't seem to care if it's into a bad "nursing home", doesn't seem to care if there is probably not enough savings left over the £28,000 or so ??? they are allowed to keep.
Now what? Is the hospital likely to shove Bedblocker Parent out into a nursing home anyway, whether we approve of the one they have in mind or no? (I've inspected ones in their town in case and there is literally only one I would accept, as it ticks all the boxes and is clearly a good home. The other one possible is awful and I would not accept it).
1. If they did shove Bedblocker Parent out into a nursing home where would the money would come from to pay for it, as the State can't "grab the house", as the other parent still needs it to live in?
2. Could the State forcibly shove Bedblocker Parent into a nursing home other than the only one good enough for them (ie into the bad one or into one not local to other parent)?
At the moment we seem to be in impasse. I won't accept any nursing home other than the Good Local One. Hospital is being pushy. I don't see where the money would come from for a nursing home anyway, whilst the other parent needs the house the State would want to grab in order to live in it. Obviously, I wouldnt accept the State shoving other parent out of their home so they could "grab" - as they would then be homeless.
There is no question of me paying anything towards a nursing home, as I can't afford it (I'm still struggling financially myself). I don't know the financial position of relative with POA, but I've not noted them offering to pay anything towards it and know they wouldn't use their own money anyway for this.