The Nice People No. 17

Cakeguts

PasturesNew said:

As a rule, I don't worry, I think about things and work out a gazillion solutions and work arounds and problems to encounter.... that's not worrying, that's planning  

That isn't planning it is problem solving.  Planning can go wrong in lots of unexpected ways. Problem solving can't because you have covered the unexpected.  Look this is why I have depression.  I  can always think of oodles and oodles of stuff that can go wrong. 

PasturesNew

Cakeguts said:

PasturesNew said:

As a rule, I don't worry, I think about things and work out a gazillion solutions and work arounds and problems to encounter.... that's not worrying, that's planning  

That isn't planning it is problem solving.  Planning can go wrong in lots of unexpected ways. Problem solving can't because you have covered the unexpected.  Look this is why I have depression.  I  can always think of oodles and oodles of stuff that can go wrong. 

Ah, yes, the worry that you didn't yet think of everything  

Pyxis

There was a programme  on a few years ago about how to survive.

Practical things like getting a room in a hotel that’s not above a certain number of floors...ie above the height that a fire brigade ladder could reach. 

Things like, when you get to your hotel room, locate the fire exit and walk to it in terms of  which way do you turn, how many steps to get to it etc., because in the dark and smoke you lose sense of direction. Walking it through helps to map it in your brain.

Stuff like that.
The difference between surviving or not.
Takes a few minutes but could save your life. Etc.

Anyway, what the programme said was that it is the people who are seen as being the ‘worriers’  who are the survivors; the ‘pessimists’, who see danger everywhere, who live.
Whereas the optimists who think that everything will be ok are the ones that get caught out.

Ok, sweeping generalisation, and extremes of either can be bad, but they had a point. It’s the being aware of the worst-case scenario and making reasonable preps to avoid it, without it taking over your life, natch, in a pro-active way.

For worrier, read warrior.

Cakeguts

Pyxis said:

There was a programme  on a few years ago about how to survive.

Practical things like getting a room in a hotel that’s not above a certain number of floors...ie above the height that a fire brigade ladder could reach. 

Things like, when you get to your hotel room, locate the fire exit and walk to it in terms of  which way do you turn, how many steps to get to it etc., because in the dark and smoke you lose sense of direction. Walking it through helps to map it in your brain.

Stuff like that.
The difference between surviving or not.
Takes a few minutes but could save your life. Etc.

Anyway, what the programme said was that it is the people who are seen as being the ‘worriers’  who are the survivors; the ‘pessimists’, who see danger everywhere, who live.
Whereas the optimists who think that everything will be ok are the ones that get caught out.

Ok, sweeping generalisation, and extremes of either can be bad, but they had a point. It’s the being aware of the worst-case scenario and making reasonable preps to avoid it, without it taking over your life, natch, in a pro-active way.

For worrier, read warrior.

Oh yes I know about worst case scenario. I could get a Phd in worst case scenario on any subject on earth and I wouldn't need to study for it. It comes naturally all wired into my brain.  I got it as a freebe when I was born. 

Pyxis

Cakeguts said:

Pyxis said:

There was a programme  on a few years ago about how to survive.

Practical things like getting a room in a hotel that’s not above a certain number of floors...ie above the height that a fire brigade ladder could reach. 

Things like, when you get to your hotel room, locate the fire exit and walk to it in terms of  which way do you turn, how many steps to get to it etc., because in the dark and smoke you lose sense of direction. Walking it through helps to map it in your brain.

Stuff like that.
The difference between surviving or not.
Takes a few minutes but could save your life. Etc.

Anyway, what the programme said was that it is the people who are seen as being the ‘worriers’  who are the survivors; the ‘pessimists’, who see danger everywhere, who live.
Whereas the optimists who think that everything will be ok are the ones that get caught out.

Ok, sweeping generalisation, and extremes of either can be bad, but they had a point. It’s the being aware of the worst-case scenario and making reasonable preps to avoid it, without it taking over your life, natch, in a pro-active way.

For worrier, read warrior.

Oh yes I know about worst case scenario. I could get a Phd in worst case scenario on any subject on earth and I wouldn't need to study for it. It comes naturally all wired into my brain.  I got it as a freebe when I was born. 

You’ll live forever then! 😁

Cakeguts

Pyxis said:

Cakeguts said:

Pyxis said:

There was a programme  on a few years ago about how to survive.

Practical things like getting a room in a hotel that’s not above a certain number of floors...ie above the height that a fire brigade ladder could reach. 

Things like, when you get to your hotel room, locate the fire exit and walk to it in terms of  which way do you turn, how many steps to get to it etc., because in the dark and smoke you lose sense of direction. Walking it through helps to map it in your brain.

Stuff like that.
The difference between surviving or not.
Takes a few minutes but could save your life. Etc.

Anyway, what the programme said was that it is the people who are seen as being the ‘worriers’  who are the survivors; the ‘pessimists’, who see danger everywhere, who live.
Whereas the optimists who think that everything will be ok are the ones that get caught out.

Ok, sweeping generalisation, and extremes of either can be bad, but they had a point. It’s the being aware of the worst-case scenario and making reasonable preps to avoid it, without it taking over your life, natch, in a pro-active way.

For worrier, read warrior.

Oh yes I know about worst case scenario. I could get a Phd in worst case scenario on any subject on earth and I wouldn't need to study for it. It comes naturally all wired into my brain.  I got it as a freebe when I was born. 

You’ll live forever then! 😁

Yes but as a nervous wreck. At least now I know why I think like that.

Pyxis

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Cakeguts

Pyxis said:

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That looks like me last week.  Kept getting into the worst case scenario loop.  Oh and I can do catastrophizing as well without even practising it. Just comes naturally.

Cakeguts

PasturesNew said:

Don't quote, will delete. 

Just endured Stirfry-fest.  45 minutes, at first the male was on speakerphone in a foreign language and rustling... eventually I snapped and shouted out loud "S.... T.... F.... U...." and he immediately went to the far end of the kitchen.... but it still took 30 minutes of cooking, then the eating began.... !!!!!! SLURPER!!!  Bowl of stirfry and slurping... slurp, chink of the spoon, slurp, chink, slurp, chink....  and he was listening to something/music via headphones which I could also hear.... 10 far quin minutes..... 

Thought he'd never f*** off.  

EDIT: Well, that was 7pm, it's now 7.30 and LL & bf are back ... and hopefully not making a far quin stirfry.  Just coffee at the moment on the go. 

I am going to have to make sure that I don't get too interested in these Stirfrys. I thought I ought to check the side effects of my SSRIs again and there it is. Increased appetite. 

I haven't actually got anything to make a stir fry out of so probably that is a good thing.  I will have to drink tea or water if I get too peckish until the side effect goes away.  They usually do.

Pyxis

Stirfries can be quite healthy, though...lots of veg etc.

What’s worse is people in The Arms talking about doughnuts. 
(Yes, I’m talking about you, @colinw !😁)