Talk me down please 2

mellymoo74

Yesterday's call was awful
Just he's made a very serious allegation, my response being yes and the police told him to come back when he had evidence of a crime
And give us a lump sum
Er I have no money, I left with nothing

thorsoak

Melly ......I do hope that you are not communicating with this piece of excretia???  I hope that they are just going to a phone you can leave in a drawer and ignore????

mellymoo74

It's the housing so I spoke to her and suggested she went for a possession order 
Then email so I can ignore 

pollyanna_26

Mel you've got two seperate things to deal with. Housing are only interested in recovering any unpaid rent you owe. It's hard to work out what's happening with them. It looks as though they still have you as joint tenant .

What sort of help are you getting elsewhere? Shelter, aid agencies etc. The HA aren't working for you but Shelter and others will point you in the right direction.

It is possible to claim some benefits . As long as your friend is ok with you using the address you're living at the moment you can make a claim. However check it out with Shelter to clarify if any benefits your friend may claim will be impacted by you claiming.

Is any agency involved with finding you accommodation?

Housing association will just chase the debt to them.

They're aware you stopped living there six weeks ago but haven't changed the tenancy. Concentrate on speaking to Shelter and others who can best advise you. You will have arrears to pay but the sooner you get better advice the more likely your name can come off the tenancy. Any arrears to that time should be under an arrangement which once you're claiming benefits are affordable.

If you seek help to find somewhere to live with an address you can use things will be easier.

pollyx

mellymoo74

The hub is womens aid housing arm
They are perfect for dealing with this and went mad is been contacted. 
Be ok, just not going to be easy x

mellymoo74

I am using the job centre address to claim benefits whilst I look for work. 
Am multihomed at the moment and didn't want to use any of the addresses 

pollyanna_26

With WA in your corner things will be ok Mel.

Things may not be easy but look how far you've come in just a few weeks. Using the job centre is the best idea. It's obvious you're doing your best to sort things and move forward.

Just refer anything related to the rent arrears to the advisers.

I know it's hard but try and have a break this weekend from any messages he may send to the phone. I know you prefer to keep up to date but they'll still be there on Monday..

Just remember rent arrears etc can be sorted in time. With no proper income at the moment you aren't in a position to put a plan in place yet.

I've no idea if he's been paying his share of bills but that's his problem not yours.

The weather has taken a dive here, cold ,wet and miserable. Hope it's better where you are. I'm going to dig out the flannelette bedding. once I've done that we'll probably have a mini heatwave.

pollyx

mellymoo74

It's beautifully quiet
I had a great day yesterday, caught up with a really old friend who knew ex first. The one who wouldn't talk to me and helped me decide to go. 
It was really good. 

mellymoo74

Had a call for potential work
Out of my usual skill set but I think I need to look at stuff that's not as intense 
Oh
I also appear to be paying back exs overpayment so that's mother thing to sort out and one of the reasons I want to get back to work as soon as possible 

pollyanna_26

I think it would be a really good idea to take on a less intense role at the moment.

You can ease yourself back into work at a steady pace.

You've so much going on the less stress the better.

No idea why you find you're paying back exs overpayment but the sooner that's sorted the better. If you've had money deducted they need to credit back to you.

When you were planning to leave and I advised you sever any financial ties  did you check everything?

I hope you had a peaceful BH weekend.

pollyx