Embracing the new family dynamics and looking forward to the future with optimism

tooldle

Can i ask what camper an you have bought? We’ve had a selection over the years and currently have a 7m motorhome.

beanielou

Sorry that things are so tough 

hb2

beanielou said:

Sorry that things are so tough 

Me too. It seems so unfair that one person has so much carp to deal with

Savvy_sewing

thorsoak said:

When you go to bed tonight Ss, unplug your router and take it to bed with you!  OK - so your doorbell and security light won't work - but you don't want your doorbell ringing in the middle of the night and and security light won't be needed if everybody is at home and inside.   Tell them it goes on again when you want it on and not before!

But do I expect you to really do this??????   sigh!    Just glad that I'm not in your shoes xxx

I have only just seen your post, but I think I will do that tonight. 

Savvy_sewing

tooldle said:

Can i ask what camper an you have bought? We’ve had a selection over the years and currently have a 7m motorhome.

It is a Daytona, something or other with an iveco engine. It's very old, 1984
so will need some work if I ever want to get it Road worthy. It's sound, the company that moved it for me said there was no sign of rust, but the brakes are not working so we had to have it brought by truck. 

I am regretting it already, especially because it's 4ft longer than the seller said so it's overhanging the pavement.

Savvy_sewing

beanielou said:

Sorry that things are so tough 

Oh don't worry, I think that some days I just start getting overwhelmed because of the lack of help. I know that I need to change and put my foot down more often and insist more until change happens.
 I just get rather emotionally exhausted every now and then.
 I have a long way to go to get my head around this new life, not only lock down but the continued change in life at home and work. I don't cope so well if I have too much time to think, which is at the moment.
 I think I have scuppered my dreams and I am floundering while physically unable to achieve much. I hurt that I have to ask for help and it's not automatic with my family, but of course it is my own fault for being so independent before.
 I need to be resilient and I need to find a back bone as well as the big girls knickers.
 The boys have daycare today, so I am going to at least get respite for a few hours from them, and I can insist dgd and DS help. 

I have a conference call at 11 to discuss the coordination of the scrubs etc
there are 350 volunteers, £5,000 has been raised to buy the fabric etc, and there are orders from gp surgeries and paediatrics for scrubs.
 I need to see if we can source reasonable priced childrens prints for those. My fabrics are the wrong mix unfortunately. 

tooldle

Savvy_sewing said:

tooldle said:

Can i ask what camper an you have bought? We’ve had a selection over the years and currently have a 7m motorhome.

It is a Daytona, something or other with an iveco engine. It's very old, 1984
so will need some work if I ever want to get it Road worthy. It's sound, the company that moved it for me said there was no sign of rust, but the brakes are not working so we had to have it brought by truck. 

I am regretting it already, especially because it's 4ft longer than the seller said so it's overhanging the pavement.

Sounds as though it is long wheel base? It's not a conversion I am familiar with. Is it fully winterised, do you know?
We've had lots of fun with ours over the years. Perhaps an alternate retirement dream / plan  for you? Lots of UK motor-homers in Spain and Portugal over the winter months. Campsite costs can be very low, and even cheaper if you are using the aire network.

Molly41

Hugs Moo hope today is better I had a melt down on Monday as have four men at home  - Ive had to set some ground rules and don't feel guilty - so wont you feel guilty either xx

hb2

I think women have an inbuilt 'guilt' gene! Don't forget that household chores are everyone's responsibility, doing these is not 'helping you', it is being an adult and doing what is needed.

tooldle

Agreed, household chores are everyone's responsibility including the little ones. In our house whoever cooks does not wash up. There is normally a conversation at the end of the meal around who is going to deal with the dishes.