Crazy Cat Lady Chapter 4 - The Aftermath

crazy_cat_lady

I read a couple of his books a few years ago and really enjoyed them TDQ. There was one where a kid's whole family disappeared - and I really wasn't disappointed by the ending. I'm desperate to find out how this one ends so I'll be watching it today. I watched Safe when it was first on there, but I am definitely adding The Five to the list as well. Thanks for letting me know  

foxgloves

DS was satisfied with L*dl?? You've been baking cookies??? Whatever next? Sounds like a nice productive half term ahead. I do hope Naughty Tortie gets on OK at the vet. I also catastrophise when we have a poorly cat but have got much better over the years at accepting that when it's their time, it's their time. I still hate losing them though. Your Tortie certainly knows how to run up a vet bill. My first cat was a regular vet visitor & apart from needing a major surgery, everything else was fight injuries. For such a beautiful & very charming, friendly cat, he could be a holy terror for fighting. He loved it. Even used to go & pitch into a fight between two other cats that was 4 gardens away & nothing to do with him!
When you've got your finances back on an even keel, you'll be able to think about maybe starting a pot for vet emergencies. I've got a Meow Fund now, as our lad is a good bit older than we thought & has a heart murmur. 
Fingers crossed NT will be fine. 
F x

jwil

Hope the vet isn't too major.  These animals are sent to try us!
I've heard loads of good things about The Stranger, and I also like Harlan Coben's books.  I must try and catch it.

triple_choc_chip

Ref. your coloured script  - Suffolk_lass has posted today on how to change the colour.  It’s her 2 last posts; a description first, then showing that it works.  I’m not techie enough to be bothered but hopefully if you understand how to apply it, you could revert to your previous colour.
HTH, TCC x

Edit to try and add link: Bottom of Page 113 and top of 114 https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/5593594/get-a-grip-woman/p113

crazy_cat_lady

Testing to see if the colour thing works - thanks for the tip regardless of whether it works TCC (and Suffolk_lass)
Lovely afternoon at my mam's having a bit of a catch up. I can tell I'm definitely hormonal though because I'm very tearful. I cry when I even mention naughty tortie - but I'm very much with you foxholes. I don't want to throw a load of money if it's not going to be any good in terms of her quality of life, and she's had so many near misses I think that she must be running out of luck a little bit. However, if I need to find some cash and she will be fine then I will do that. I'll just need to see what the vet says tomorrow afternoon. I have to survive the dentist before that.

crazy_cat_lady

Oooh, thank you

beanielou

How old is naughty tortie?
My best boy is 19 & 3/4's!!

crazy_cat_lady

We have no idea how old she is beanie - she was a rescue and they had no idea then, but she always seemed old, even when she first got here and we've had her for over 6 years now. I had a very sleepless night fretting about her - not that there's anything I can do. So I was hardly raring to go by the time I had to get up and take the kids to the dentist this morning. Our dentist has broken his shoulder and the replacement would be better suited in Little Shop of Horrors rather than my dentist. She was SO rude - talk about a lack of personal skills. And we went from always having good teeth to ds needing braces, dd having acid erosion and me needing a filling replaced. I refused to have it done today and I fully intend to get a second opinion for all of us. I have a lot of past trauma from the dentist and she was just awful - I was reminded of being 10 years old again. Managed to hold off my tears long enough to get out of the dentist. I'm not bothered about getting a filling replaced at the moment as I'm not in pain at all - just want my normal fella back there sooner rather than later. Walked home with the kids then me and dd popped to Mr S (or Arg0s more correctly) to return my toaster that I bought in the Christmas sales that has stopped working already. Thankfully there was no fuss there at all and I got a replacement to bring home. Bought some milk and more effing chicken goujons then came home and made proper chicken dinner for us. DD ate everything, ds ate everything except the veggies. Then popped to bestie's house for a quick cuppa and catch up. She picked up on my mood straight away and I was very tearful. Mostly about tortie but then I got in a rant about the dentist, and my debt. She says it's the aftermath of the court case, and now knowing exactly where I stand and having to get on with everything. And it will be fine, but at the moment it feels like I owe a lot of money and I just want to pay it back, but then something comes along that requires my money. Like the vet. I was in tears by the time I got there I was so wound up... but as always the vet was lovely. A couple of years ago this naughty tortie had a half mastectomy, and the tumour turned out to be benign, and it cost just over £900. She thinks it's the same thing again on the other side and thinks that she will make a good recovery again so she's booked in for surgery this Thursday, presumably at a similar cost to last time. I have already made it more than clear though that she is not to lose quality of life, and if she's a mess when the vet gets in there then they are to let her go. Anyway, we are hopeful that things will be ok, but there's only time that will tell and that is the worst thing. Waiting, and not being in control of what happens next. I am such a control freak. We also don't know that this tumour is benign so the sooner sorted out the better as far as I'm concerned. I'll deal with the cost aspect later. Anyway, enough of my wallowing in self pity for now. I'd best get on and do something a little bit more productive. I'm going to speak to my friend on the phone for a bit - she will cheer me up.

apple_muncher

You aren't wallowing in self-pity at all. You are a worrier, but you are worrying about a genuine issue. Hugs.

crazy_cat_lady

It's my anxiety apple - I wasn't diagnosed until I was in my 30's so I'd had 30+ years of completely out of control anxiety which I had no idea wasn't 'normal'. It's hard to change all of that programming and takes a lot of mental effort which can be quite tiring. When everything is getting a bit much, or I'm tired/hormonal I tend to revert back to my base programming, which is blind panic and predicting the very worst case scenario in any given situation. Hence where I'm at right now. I hate it though, because I have my rational voice then this complete panic that's always there as well. 
If I could earn money from worrying I'd be a billionaire