Frump to Fab - A Whole New World.

helensbiggestfan

Hello lovely ladies....

well I'm done for. 😂. I love looking after the human tornado but today I'm worn out (as are his poor mum and dad😂🤣).  I wish I had half his energy.  So now I'm just resting on the sofa.  

Just about to watch a bit of Designated Survivor - Keiffer Sutherland as POTUS. Terrorists have blown up The Capitol and the serving government and Sutherland is the Designated Survivor of the title who is thrust into the hot seat.  Basically he's Jack Bauer (24) again, although he leaves all the action stuff to others.  Of course he's a brilliant president.....alas the sort of leader we can only dream of.  Totally incorruptible and completely selfless and dedicated to serving his country, as well as being brilliant and inspirational. 

 If only .....😌.  

I watched in absolute horror last night as the so called US presidential debate unfolded on our tv screens.  There is nothing presidential about Trump.....he belongs in jail. 🤬   And what's his face doesn't actually inspire does he.......he has made such a strong impression I can't even remember his name without looking it up.  Is this really the best they can come up with for the position of "Leader of the Free World". 

Tbh I am steering well clear of the news at the moment........both sides of the pond.  It's just too soul destroying.  I catch the headlines so I can keep roughly up to speed but I just can't watch it. It's just not good for my emotional health, 😉   

Our leaders are pygmies When what we need right now is giants.  Hey ho. I'm just going to carry on fabbing, and getting on with my life. I'm going to paint my toenails.  

Frivolous yes, but I just feel life is more bearable when I paint my toenails Chinese Red.  They make me smile.  

And the human tornado is fascinated by them.  😂🤣

savingfortomorrow

wednesday - the bargains sound great. 
LL - So much is beyond our control, at least we can look after ourselves and make ourselves feel better. 

thepurplepixie

My lovely dustmen took all my rubbish including the three large bags of shredded paper.  Apparently they don't want shredded paper for the recycling which is a shame.  I am also happy to say we haven't had a plumbing disaster for nearly 48 hours which is good going this week.  I also had my Sainsbury's delivery so the cupboards are full.  I'm not feeling great, like others I found Johnson depressing and the Americans even worse, I can't believe how awful they are and on top of covid it is just too much.  

maddiemay

LL I was thinking that if the human tornado was a girl, she would be demanding that you paint her nails too.
Currently I watch/listen to the news headlines and have to completely tune out from the things that you have mentioned.
The three most difficult things that we are dealing with presently are:-
Dear BIL (63) and my DSis were on holiday approx 100 miles from home and he  experienced a stroke type episode, scans indicated that his cancer has spread to his brain. After much difficulty he has been relocated to his home hospital and meetings on Monday may well decide if any treatment will  extend his life and how long he might have.
Aged mother advancing rapidly with dementia, now delusional, paranoid and convinced that patients in the home are being ill treated, locked in rooms etc. and that she is being bullied by staff, all family 100% convinced that this is untrue.
OH and I now find that our beloved Border Collie has liver cancer, home on steroids and acting like a 5 year old, days/weeks? we just do not know how long we have her for, as you can imagine your kind comments the other day mean a lot to me, thank you so much.

sugarbaby125

Oh Maddie May,

You really do have so much to deal with at the moment. I am so sorry that you and your husband are so burdened with so many serious issues presently. 

On Monday I hope your sister and brother-in-law have the strength to deal with his diagnosis as to whether there is any viable treatment that he could now be offered. I am sure your sister and brother-in-law, you and your family must all be holding your breath for now until you know where your brother-in-law stands. 

My mother had dementia for years. My mother and father ended their lives in care homes. Unfortunately I saw enough incidents in each care home to know that there are care workers that are verbally and physically abusive to care home vulnerable residents.   Both of my parents had money and items of value stolen from their rooms. On more than one occasion we had to threaten to call the police to have the items returned. In one care home the manager repaid the stolen money from the care home budget because he did not want me or any other member of my family to get the police involved. I did have to make a statement to Police about physically abusive behaviour that had happened to other residents when I was visiting my mother, which I witnessed. When my mother complained of not being given enough to eat, I was assured that my Mother's dementia was making her forget that she had eaten her meals. This was not true. I just started to fill my Mother's room with biscuits, crisps. fresh fruit and other portable snacks that she could help herself to whenever she felt hungry. Also every time I visited her, 3 times a week, I took her cooked food to supplement her diet.  My Father died a painful death in a care home, without anyone there for him. He was dreadfully neglected on his last day on this Earth. We were not notified as a family until hours after my Father's death, as the  care home manager and staff scrambled around falsifying records and trying to cover up their neglect of my Father and the exact manner of his death.

I just want you and your family to consider the possibility that not all of the claims your Mother is making may be due to her being delusional and/or paranoid. I do not want to give you any more cause for concern, but you may need to be more vigilant. 

I do not even pretend to be a dog lover, but I am sure you and your husband are already starting to feel the pain of the impending loss of your dog. 

Let us support you in any way that we can, even if it is only with words of support. Take care 

sheilavw

Maddiemay , what a lot you have to contend with. Everything comes at once doesnt it.

LL what a busy day you had, at the same time rewarding.

Sugarbaby sorry your Parents had a tough time. My Mum also had dementia, terrible condition, you lose the person they are. My Mum lost her ability to walk even.

Feeling sad this morning, it would have been Mick's 60th Birthday, his second Heavenly Birthday. I feel sad each day, but today especially so. I was cheated out of our future to that cruel illness. I hope that some time in the future things will feel better for me.

My Daughter is feeling better but her covid test is still positive, she needs a negative to return to work. She should have been going to Turkey on the 10th, but thats off too. Where will this all end?

helensbiggestfan

Good morning lovely ladies.  

Oh my goodness, what sad posts this morning.  

My dear Maddie.......I am so sorry to hear your dreadful news today.  So many terrible blows raining down on you and your family.  Sending you virtual hugs, my friend.  

SUgarbaby.......sorry to hear that your experience of care Homes was so distressing. As you know both my mum and my husband ended up in care.  I practically moved in with my husband, eventually renting a bungalow in the grounds so that I could be close to him.  I was devastated when he had to go into care.  On the whole it was a good care home but even so I had some battles with them ........I couldn't visit mum very often because I was so wrapped up with my husbands care but my sister did go regularly.  

All I would say to anyone faced with putting a loved one care, is make sure you visit regularly, and don't be afraid to do spot checks. Dont stick to regular visiting times, vary your routines and pop in at unexpected times.  Keep a diary of anything that gives you any concern.  I am not sure what the legality is but I honestly think that cameras are the way forward. 😟.  

Sheila......today is a red letter day for you. There are many of them scattered through the calendar, birthdays, anniversaries, Christmas etc.  They are the hardest to bear.  Do they get easier, I'm not sure. I think maybe we just get better at dealing with them. I think what happens is that we learn how to cope with our grief, it never really goes away but as time passes it becomes less raw and we learn to live with it.  But there's no denying that it changes us.  

Your comment about feeling cheated is so true.......because when you lose your partner you dont just lose them but you lose your entire way of life.  Everything changes and your plans and dreams for the future simply fly out of the window.  Your whole world changes.  Even now I watch my married friends enjoying their retirements or I see couples out and about and it's very hard not to feel a pang of envy.   I do sometimes feel isolated and cut off......a bit of a spectator in my own life.  😟.  

Hey ho.......

And, like so many of us have said, the current situation really doesn't help.  

When and where it will end is anyone's guess.  Apparently Trump has been tested positive.  Hope it's not too serious for him but maybe the covid deniers will finally wake up now. 

And here in the U.K. yet another politician has been flouting the rules - Margaret Ferrier travelling on public transport when positive.  🤬  And they wonder why we are losing faith. 

And even the weather is grim........

I had to smile.  They are calling it Storm Alex.....I jokingly refer to my grandson as the human tornado.  His name is Alex.  😂

maddiemay

Sugarbaby I totally take your comments on board, I know it happens and it is completely unacceptable.  Due to the proximity of the home to my SSis's house she knows the majority of the staff well from her previous work in schools, nursery schools, work with young adults etc, many she has known since they were at nursery and they are now parents themselves, very few Agency staff and those from a regular pool.  We will continue to be as vigilant as we can whilst no visiting under Covid19 restrictions, one of her persistent complaints at present is that she has been moved to another room upstairs, "it might have No X on the door, but it is not my room" makes family have a sad smile as they can be stood at the window of her GF room talking to her whilst she is saying that.
sheilavw Sending you many virtual hugs on this sad anniversary, it must be so hard for you and your family.

Wednesday2000

((Hugs)) to all on here.xxx

LL - Designated Survivor starts off very well but it goes in a weird direction as I think there were two directors or something and we stopped watching it. We didn't see how it ended, maybe it improved.

helensbiggestfan

Wednesday.....thanks for that.  Just finished series 1, so I'll see how it goes.  Apparently they only did 3 series so I guessed there were some issues.  

I've just ordered my new cooker.  Delivery next week. It's nothing fancy, it's just a stop gap really. If I sell the house within the next couple of years it will be fine.  If I stay and eventually put in a new kitchen then I'll get what I really want then.  At least I will be able to cook a turkey this year.  😂