Keeping Going For My Furbabies

StartingAgainAt29

Morning everyone, happy Saturday!

Yesterday was a NSD as expected. I went to the library on my lunch break and picked up The Unexpected Joy of The Ordinary (which is beautiful as a hardback btw!). Finished work a little early, then came home, ran 3 miles, and chilled. One of the girls left some white wine here and as it was open I felt it was rude not to have a glass

Got up fairly early this morning for my monthly hospital appointment, they saw me quickly as normal so back home now. Spent £1.20 on parking.

I've got some bits to do round the flat before I get ready to leave for London. It's a late lunch then drinks for my uni friend's bday, and I'll be seeing one of my really good friends and ex-housemate and her partner, I love them both so should be a good day. I've looked at the menu and I'm hoping to spend around £30 max, might not have any alcoholic drinks there to save, we'll see.

I've been talking to a guy from Uni who lives round here, I didn't really know him that well when we were both at uni 12 years ago (jeez how has it been that long :eek:) but I knew him enough, he was on my course and I was seeing his housemate for a little while. He's been really supportive since my ex left, when I first put something on SM he messaged me and said that he doesn't know what I'm going through, but he knows out of anyone I'll get through it. That was a world away from the message from one of my ex's mates basically propositioning me! Anyway, the reason I mention it is we're going out next Thursday, I suggested drinks but he wants to pick me up and take me mini-golfing. He knows I've had a rough time so it'll be nice to go out (and for someone to take the initiative to plan things, ex would never!), but I'm not looking at it as a date, and I'm pretty sure he knows too. Plus I've never had someone else drive me in a romantic sense as ex can't drive :rotfl:

I've had a 'mare trying to work out what percentage I've paid off the CC, I've paid off another £14 today as my Monzo pot hit the goal, I THINK I'm at 14%, but if you see my sig changing regularly it's because I'm not great at maths :rotfl:

Anyway, I might update later if I get back at a sensible time Hope everyone has a good day!

StartingAgainAt29

Hi everyone, it's a late night check-in!

Well getting into London was a nightmare. I was waiting for the bus for half an hour when I realised they'd cancelled two buses, and the one that went by me was so full the driver wouldn't let me on. The nearest train station was out of bounds as that line is having works done. So I came home, and rang the Taxi of Mum, who luckily was able to run me down to the other station near me so I could jump on the Central Line. I had to get an Uber once in town to get to the restaurant, and I was 30 mins late, but I made it! The uber was £10, the TFL charge won't show yet until tomorrow.

The meal was good, I haven't seen this group since my ex left so there was a lot of catching up to do. The meal was £25, and I spent £10 at the pub after. I headed home around 9, again Taxi of Mum picked me up (I am very grateful!), and instead of getting a takeaway like I would've done before I made some pasta and had my lentil bolognese. I have £28 to last me until payday, I think I can make it! (Although will be around £7 less once the TFL charge shows).

Plan for tomorrow is to run 7.5 miles, make lentil soup, do my clothes washing and finishing cleaning the flat.

Night everyone!

little_green

StartingAgainAt29 wrote: »

Hi little_green, thanks for sticking with me! It is really difficult finding new people to socialise with. I started this book club with the girls from my ex's circle, because we realised we all love reading! Been doing it around 7/8 months now. I wonder if you have any local book clubs in libraries? I struggle a bit as my best friends don't live round here anymore. I have debated joining a local running group, but running for me has always been a solo activity.

So book club was good, didn't get to bed until midnight :rotfl: We had takeaway from the sushi place I like, I paid and they all paid me back so I spent just over £6 in total. I now have hundreds of those plastic boxes for leftovers/meal portions. They also left loads of snacks so that's a plus! :P One of the girls doesn't like cats, but when she saw my two she couldn't get over them (cat1 in particular is very striking, often people say he looks like a cartoon). Cat2 was in her bag all night, she gave them treats and now she likes cats :rotfl: We talked about going to Bath at some point in March/April, it's something we've talked about previously and one of the girls is from there so can show us all the good sights. Thinking about how to fund that. It's my turn to pick the book so will have fun deciding that.

Ex was meant to be coming round today to paint, but he's emailed this morning to say he's got a work emergency so can't do it. But he's going to come over at lunch to look at the meter for me as he got a notification to say the reading was due (the account is in his name). He wants to do weekends to decorate from now on, I told him Saturdays would be ok but to give me notice so I can be out the flat all day. Considering he was gung-ho on the flat being on the market by 1st Feb I think I can safely say that isn't happening!

Today should be a NSD, just working and then will go home, run (hopefully) and I desperately need to redo my nails. Tomorrow I've got my monthly hospital appointment, and then my friend's 30th in London. It's my uni circle that are going and that I don't get to see them very often, so looking forward to it. It's a late lunch and then drinks, I will try and head off early-ish as I've got a long run to do on Sunday!

I think that's it for now, so if I don't post again today, Happy Friday! :beer:

no problem at all :beer: i enjoy being around!
omg i love sushi!!!! even better that your cost got diluted with everyone else pitching in & left over snacks & drinks are always a bonus.

I had to lol @ the taxi of mum, i've been there too. :rotfl:

hoping the rest of your weekend went well

StartingAgainAt29

Hi little_green, it was good thanks, I hope you had a good one! I'm glad I'm not the only one that takes advantage of their mum sometimes :rotfl:

So to update -
Yesterday was a NSD. Got up around 9, then heading out for my 7.5 mile run. Actually went really well, if I can carry on at that pace on the day I could decrease my time from 2 hours 25 mins to 2 hours 20!! As long as I beat my previous time though that's the goal.

I made lentil soup, had one lot for dinner and another 4 portions for work lunches this week. I got 5 of ex's items on ebay, no sales yet though. Did my washing, and hoovered and mopped the flat.

I finished the book In Your Defence, it was really interesting. I did a law degree but didn't follow it further, so it's fascinating to read stories about people that made it their career.

I got a notification that two books are at the library for me to collect (including one where it said last week I was 9th in the queue, not sure how that works), so might head out later today to collect them, and I need to get cotton pads, fabric softener and packaging for ebay sales.

StartingAgainAt29

I don't think I mentioned this, but although ex didn't decorate on Friday he did go round and do the meter reading for the electric. The amount dropped on the app from the predicted £90 for Jan to £66!

The tfl charge went onto my Monzo for Saturday, that was £5.90, so I've got £22 for the rest of the week :eek: will be tight, but hopefully doable...

I'm having a bit of a dilemma about going out on Thursday. For me it's just a friendly thing, but I think he thinks it's a date, there's certain things he's said over the weekend that makes me wonder if he's expecting this to be a seeing each other type thing. He knows I'm fresh out of a relationship, and I'm honestly not looking to get into anything right now. Would you still go; say something; or cancel? It would be nice to go out and have some fun, I just don't want to lead the poor bloke on!

astrocytic_kitten

Ohhhh that’s a sticky one. I’m not sure my advice on this stuff is worth anything as I’m happily single, but I’d say something now, before you see him on Thursday. Give him a chance to reset expectations and save face ahead of time. If he wants to cancel it when he realises you only want to see him as a friend so be it, but you’ve been looking forward to it so I wouldn’t cancel unless you feel uneasy about it.

Take it from the person who went for a drink and to the cinema with her male friend and only realised he thought they were on a date when they had a stand off over who was paying for the cinema tickets - clear it up in advance if at all possible :rotfl:

little_green

agree clear it up in advance.
you probably don't want to hurt his feelings but if you don't clear things up initially he'll probably end up being a total !!!!! & hurting your feelings about how you "lead him on" even if you were just trying to be nice.

StartingAgainAt29

Thank you both astrocytic and little_green, you were right. I decided it was best I be upfront with him and just said I'm not interested in more than friends at the moment due to my circumstances but would like to enjoy his company as friends. He said he hadn't been sure what it was either so glad I cleared it up! We're still going





I spent £5 today in the pound shop on cotton pads, fabric conditioner and some packaging for ebay sales (not that I've sold anything yet!)

Blondetotty

Bit of a lurker delurking! I'll wager he thinks it's a date. In fact I just read it out to my other half and his mate and they both said "he thinks it's a date, we just don't think the same way you lot do"
You've started a right debate here between us all!
His mate has just said if a "bird" shows any kind of interest, then she's interested in hooking up. There's no middle ground. No friends thing. Either she's up for it or she isn't. Doesn't matter if she's just broken up because apparently the best way to get over an old relationship is to get under a new one
*sigh*

little_green

:money:

Blondetotty wrote: »

Bit of a lurker delurking! I'll wager he thinks it's a date. In fact I just read it out to my other half and his mate and they both said "he thinks it's a date, we just don't think the same way you lot do"
You've started a right debate here between us all!
His mate has just said if a "bird" shows any kind of interest, then she's interested in hooking up. There's no middle ground. No friends thing. Either she's up for it or she isn't. Doesn't matter if she's just broken up because apparently the best way to get over an old relationship is to get under a new one
*sigh*

yup i quite believe this. Not to sound sexist but its kinda just male mentality.