Dealing with Debt and Depression.

giggal

Hi Lucy
I'd like to join, and offer whatever support I can - I'm new to the forums, but your posts struck a real chord as I also suffer from depression. I find it's a vicious circle - I feel depressed so I spend money to cheer myself up, but then I have no money and am depressed/anxious about it! I can really identify with so much of what you say. Having had a very difficult few months, I know that doing positive things, even really small ones, makes me feel a lot better about my financial situation, which of course makes me feel better in general.
Love the idea of the treat box, that sounds great - might have to give it a try!
Let me know if you ever want to chat, I'd be happy to help in any way I can xx

Lucy1982_2

giggal wrote: »

Hi Lucy
I'd like to join, and offer whatever support I can - I'm new to the forums, but your posts struck a real chord as I also suffer from depression. I find it's a vicious circle - I feel depressed so I spend money to cheer myself up, but then I have no money and am depressed/anxious about it! I can really identify with so much of what you say. Having had a very difficult few months, I know that doing positive things, even really small ones, makes me feel a lot better about my financial situation, which of course makes me feel better in general.
Love the idea of the treat box, that sounds great - might have to give it a try!
Let me know if you ever want to chat, I'd be happy to help in any way I can xx

Hi!

Thanks for that, I think looking at the positive things in your life really help, things that you have achieved as well.

It's a long road but we will get there and all the better if we make some good friends along the way!

x

Jacks_xxx

Lucy1982 wrote: »

Hi Jacks

My day is going ok.

I have realised that I have got to be proactive about getting this sorted. So I am trying loads of little tricks.

It's still a bit of a struggle and I really couldn't be bothered to come into work, but I am here. Which can only be a good things.

Problem is I feel so overwhelmed sometimes I don't know what to do. It's those days I really don't like as I feel so pop and low about everything. I guess its those days that I feel useless and a failure. But those days will become less I guess.

I don't suppose you know anything about spreadsheets? I want to get some really good ones and I'm not very good with them

Thanks for asking though x

I am clueless about spreadsheets honey - but I want one!

I have a tendency to beat myself up a bit, and I have to force myself to do stuff sometimes but once I get going I'm usually Ok.

I've put on weight since I stopped being a stress head - and it doesn't suit me! :rolleyes:

But I'm trying to be nice to myself - and treat myself the way I'd treat a friend who was feeling pooey rather than get cross with myself - so I might have to make myself a treat box as well.

We'll be all right chick.

Love Jacks xxx

chevalier

I have had depression for about 18 months and liken it to going up stairs. You start at the bottom and slowly with pills or counselling start climbing the stairs. For me it was pills. I had got quite a way up last February when we found out that the move we had been planning wasn't going to happen. That really floored me again. But now I have done a OU course this year which has helped distract me from it a bit. I am now about to do battle with an insurance company which is going to be hard going. But at least this time I am a bit more prepared for the low. And I KNOW that I am not at the bottom of the stair case again, which helps.

I always have big lists of things I HAVE to do in my head. Most days little on it gets done. But I have learnt now that if I have managed to do one thing that is positive to not beat myself up over all the other things I should have done!

After all that is what tomorrow is for!
chev

chevalier

ps there are lots of make up etc freebies on the freebies board, so maybe you can make yourself up pampering baskets for nothing?

Lucy1982_2

Jacks_xxx wrote: »

I am clueless about spreadsheets honey - but I want one!

I have a tendency to beat myself up a bit, and I have to force myself to do stuff sometimes but once I get going I'm usually Ok.

I've put on weight since I stopped being a stress head - and it doesn't suit me! :rolleyes:

But I'm trying to be nice to myself - and treat myself the way I'd treat a friend who was feeling pooey rather than get cross with myself - so I might have to make myself a treat box as well.

We'll be all right chick.

Love Jacks xxx

This is a very good way of looking at it. I desperately trying to not put on more weight, but that alone stresses me out!

chevalier

I needed to lose weight for my sisters wedding. The only thing I did was cut out sugar in tea and went from 2 sugars in coffee to a half. I lost half a stone! So maybe again just making a small change will help with the weight too?

Lucy1982_2

chevalier wrote: »

I have had depression for about 18 months and liken it to going up stairs. You start at the bottom and slowly with pills or counselling start climbing the stairs. For me it was pills. I had got quite a way up last February when we found out that the move we had been planning wasn't going to happen. That really floored me again. But now I have done a OU course this year which has helped distract me from it a bit. I am now about to do battle with an insurance company which is going to be hard going. But at least this time I am a bit more prepared for the low. And I KNOW that I am not at the bottom of the stair case again, which helps.

I always have big lists of things I HAVE to do in my head. Most days little on it gets done. But I have learnt now that if I have managed to do one thing that is positive to not beat myself up over all the other things I should have done!

After all that is what tomorrow is for!
chev

I think that this is a very good point, I find that when I am busy doing things I feel ok, it's when I run out of things that the problems really start.

I need to stop beating myself up, I can alway race myself, sometimes things need to be done a bit slower

x

Lucy1982_2

chevalier wrote: »

I needed to lose weight for my sisters wedding. The only thing I did was cut out sugar in tea and went from 2 sugars in coffee to a half. I lost half a stone! So maybe again just making a small change will help with the weight too?

I've been doing Slimming World so the small change would be to stick to the plan and get back into losing weight again.

But that is easier said than done :rolleyes:

Jacks_xxx

chevalier wrote: »

I have had depression for about 18 months and liken it to going up stairs. You start at the bottom and slowly with pills or counselling start climbing the stairs. For me it was pills. I had got quite a way up last February when we found out that the move we had been planning wasn't going to happen. That really floored me again. But now I have done a OU course this year which has helped distract me from it a bit. I am now about to do battle with an insurance company which is going to be hard going. But at least this time I am a bit more prepared for the low. And I KNOW that I am not at the bottom of the stair case again, which helps.

I always have big lists of things I HAVE to do in my head. Most days little on it gets done. But I have learnt now that if I have managed to do one thing that is positive to not beat myself up over all the other things I should have done!

After all that is what tomorrow is for!
chev

:wave: That's all sounding very familiar to me honey. I feel like a slave to the blimmin' lists - but I never seem to get to the end of one! :rolleyes:

I do what you do and try and focus on what I have achieved today, rather than what I failed to make happen - otherwise I beat myself up about it and I can't sleep at night.

Love Jacks xxx