Dealing with Debt and Depression.

Sea78

hugs hon- if it makes you feel any better you are not alone in this - I too have put on over half a stone in just a few weeks and there seems to be no stopping me I have put on some clothes this morning and they barely fit. I am stuffed as don't have many clothes anyway.

I'm hoping that once I get my head sorted out a bit, the eating will follow suit. I just can't seem to stop.

Sea xx

Lucy1982_2

Sea78 wrote: »

hugs hon- if it makes you feel any better you are not alone in this - I too have put on over half a stone in just a few weeks and there seems to be no stopping me I have put on some clothes this morning and they barely fit. I am stuffed as don't have many clothes anyway.

I'm hoping that once I get my head sorted out a bit, the eating will follow suit. I just can't seem to stop.

Sea xx

I can understand that. So much of my mood seems to depend on what I am eating. I am going to try and be really good, but I have my christmas party night and I think we are having a take-away with some friend on Saturday. Problem is when I feel low I want to eat, which means I am really trying hard not to... It's not going to take much to make me eat chocolate.

Thank you x

Sea78

I ate the whole of a slecetion box the other day - I don't even like the chocolate that much!! Just stuff stuff stuff. Already eying up the chocolate coins I bought yesterday....

What are we like? Have to laugh really or I would end up even more fed up with myself!

Sea xx

Lucy1982_2

Sea78 wrote: »

I ate the whole of a slecetion box the other day - I don't even like the chocolate that much!! Just stuff stuff stuff. Already eying up the chocolate coins I bought yesterday....

What are we like? Have to laugh really or I would end up even more fed up with myself!

Sea xx

I bought some friends the sweet tudes (the mars planet type ones) I've had to replace them 3 times I've given them to them now as I was running the risk again.

I'm in the office and have very little cash on my until lunchtime so can't really have any chocolate right now.... I need to be good so I am going to try really hard. I have to lose this, I've but on nearly a stone and a half in the last few months.

giggal

Big hugs to you both Lucy and Sea - I know how you feel. Having put on quite a lot of weight this year, I was asked the other week if I was pregnant! I was gutted and very upset, and of course all it makes me want to do is eat more!
Lucy, I know it's hard but try to stay positive - you've achieved so much, this is only a minor setback hon.
Sea - you're making me hungry dammit!;) xx

Lucy1982_2

I know. I'm going to try and stay positive and challenge myself to get back into the skirt by mu cousins 21st on the 2nd Feb.

I know I can do it, it's just believe I can again

4maxine

Hi Lucy,

I have just found your thread and I found it very compelling.

I understand exactly how you feel. I have been suffering from chronic depression for over 30 years - it started when I was 13. I spent years battling it and feeling guilty about feeling so down without real reasons. People kept telling me to get a grip, that I was young, healthy and with a roof over my head and that I should stop being so self centered. :mad:. I was on anti depressants but they didn't really work because I was unconsciously fighting them - probably beacause so many people kept telling me I didn't need them as I was not really sick !)

This went on, on and off for about 20 years until I found a new doctor who had a very pragmatic approach. He explained that depression is a real illness and that I had to treat it as such.

This put things in a very different light. I have learnt how to recognize the symptoms. I can see the difference between feeling a bit down and the onset of a new bout of real depression. In that case I don't even think twice about going to my GP and asking for Prozac (I have been taking it when needed since it first came out and it works a treat on me although it certainly does not for everyone).

All this to tell you that when you are depressed, you are entitled to feel down. You are entitled to a good cry for no other reason than you just feel like it. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Depression is very difficult for non-sufferers to understand.

The best advice I can give you is to try to make fun fo it - yeah, I know this is a bit strange :rolleyes: but it works.

Lucy1982_2

I can sort of understand that I think.

I keep telling myself that the people in my life love me otherwise they wouldn't be there! Which is sort of helping and I have got to the stage with OH where I will cry infront of him and have a good rant. Which really helps as I am not bottling it all so much.

I've also realise that it's a bit like having flu, I need to take some time out for myself to help myself get better. It is an illness and should be treated like one. When I have flu i take time off and don't do anything, why is it I think depression is going to be any different?

Although I really need to control the food thing as that is a HUGE trigger for me.

Thank you x

4maxine

It is great that you feel you can cry in front of your OH. It is a huge step forward. Very often people feel ashamed of their "weakness" and try to hide it. When it happens to me, I tend to think "here we go again" with a kind of giggle. It makes it feel more like a symptom of something that a bad thing.

Obviously I have the advantage of years of practice . It has gotten to the point where I don't even feel bad about being depressed (if that makes sense).

Learning that I can manage it has changed my life completely. It has made me feel that I can handle anything that life throws me. When I lost my job - which I hated with passion - I decided to rethink what I wanted and decided to go self employed. It scared the **** out of me but it was the best thing I have done in a long time. I have arthritis and sometimes I can't function very well. As I now work from home it is not a problem anymore.

Alltogether things tend to work themselves out. The hard bit is to learn how to see the positive possibility in what happens - and THAT is not and easy trick to learn when you are depressed :rolleyes:.

All I can tell you is that if you accept it instead of fighting it, things get easier.

As for your weight don't fret, you can't win them all at the same time. For the time being, you're not fat, you are curvaceous (well, that's my story and I stick to it :rotfl:)

Lucy1982_2

4maxine wrote: »

As for your weight don't fret, you can't win them all at the same time. For the time being, you're not fat, you are curvaceous (well, that's my story and I stick to it :rotfl:)

:rotfl: I keep telling myself it's my winter coat. I'm just building up a layer against the cold

I know when the feelings start and really need to relax and chill out at that time, but at the moment I still go into panic, this can't be happening again mode. But it doesn't seem to be lasting so long, which can only be a good thing!