Dealing with Debt and Depression.

bathgatebuyer

ZTD wrote: »

Munchausen's by proxy?

Ha ha!!! At least 4 or 5 other people have said that too about her!!!

Poor little pink haired kiddies!

kassytbag

Hi, i have been following this thread for the past few days and suffering from depression too - its great hearing you arent alone - just a couple of things i want to add - my 13 year old died her fringe pink in the summer - not for attention she just hates being 'normal' anyway before they went back to school we had it taken out which left her with a bleached blonde fringe - school went ballistic and told her she had to have the fringe dyed back to her normal colour because they didnt want two hair colours (Brown and blonde) can you beleive it!!!!!!!!!!!! she had it dyed brown and stuck it till last week but said she couldnt stand being so boring so we have had two side strips bleached and no one has said a word!!!! i think we should have just left the pink in!!!!!!

On a more serious note - i have suffered with depression on and off for years - but now my 17 year old is showing all the symptoms - she is all work and no play putting so much effort into her a levels she is just burnout - she says she feels like such a bad person and hates herself and just doesnt want to get up in the morning - any one have any tips for teenagers??? - she works so hard and im so worried she will burnout before her exams - we have told her not to worry can retake them etc but she just seems hell bent on burning herself out - she says she feels terrible because she keeps thinking about sex - she goes to an all girls school and at 17 hasnt had a boyfriend - i have told her its perfectly normal to think about it as her hormones are going wild but she seems to be going downhill fast i am desperate for any advice

sorry to take up so much space

Lucy1982_2

I think life can be very difficult for teenagers. I burnt out while I was at uni, was hosiptalised over night and then sent back to Mum for 2 weeks I had to learn that I needed time to relax. I started to stop work at about 8pm to give me time to wind down.

But it's hard to see it yourself. I guess you can just be there for her, hopefully she will have a nice break over Christmas and be able to recharge her batteries. Good Luck.

I've been doing a load of recharging myself, Did a bit for Christmas shopping yesterday and came home shellshocked... The shops were so busy I was almost in a perminant panic I only lasted 2 hours. Still I have finish Mum, just OH and his Mum to do and then that's it till next year :T. But I have had a really nasty head ache since yesterday afternoon so I am currently being really lazy, possiblily going for an afternoon nap

Will sign in tomorrow x

skintscotslass

bathgatebuyer wrote: »

That is soo right. About 8 years ago I went to my GP - which took a helluva lot to go and see him as I was concerned about having the 'mental health' label on my records (particularly as I've had to decalre on every insuracne policy, pension, mortgage and job medical I've had since:mad: - and after breaking down in tears in his office, he said, "What's making you depressed?" like I could just easily answer. I ended up walking out. He thought that the year or so of depression I'd suffered could just be settled with a quick 5 mins in his surgery!

I ended up changing doctor and met a wonderful young GP who offered me counselling and / or medication. Th counselling was fine, tiring, but fine! I don't know if that helped me get over my depression (although I'm not sure you ever get over it, just accept the waves when they come and ride them out). Now I avoiud the things that make me angry and depressed - usually other people if I'm honest. Tried very hard to make friends when I moved to the city. Some of them treated me quite badly, and that's probably why I went on a mammoth pick-me-up spending spree that lasted about 5 years :rotfl:

Anyhoo, spending is under control, and I can nearly see an end to my debts, but if I'm honest with myself, the only way I can cope is by distancing myself from people, not trying too hard with people to make friends. I used to get so hurt when time after time I'd ask people, "Want to go for a coffee / cinema / shopping / football / pub / gym / etc this lunchtime / weekend / evening.................." and always get a straight 'no' or 'ok' and then they never turned up. Hell, it even happened at the Millenium Hogmanay Street Party!!!!! I waited 8 hours for my mate to turn up. The 'bells' rang at midnight and of the half million people in Edinburgh that night, I was on my own crying my eyes out. That was the point I probably felt most alone in life. The irony is, that year I'd had radiotherapy and getting over that should have been the start of a wonderful period in my life.

Jeez, just remembering how awful that was has really cheered me up as I'm generally quite enjoying life at the moment - even with £6K out of £34K worth of debt remaining!

Oh luv, that's just awful. Some 'mate'! I'm assuming you dont have anything to do with that mate anymore? xx

skintscotslass

Sea78 wrote: »

No, seems to swing wildly at the moment, but a tiny part of me keeps thinking that perhaps I'm making it happen, that perhaps I'm causing it, or in someway making it happen...I think people's views about attention seeking business is ingrained. I don't know. I feel like it's all a bit unreal, if I'm making any sense at all?

I had a really low point a for a couple of weeks, then felt much better and now seem to be up and down like a yo-yo. I'm on meds for depression so dread to think what I'd be like without them!

People have said to me that I'm too young to be on prozac and going through all this etc but it doesn't help!

Sea xx

Sea, if your GP thinks you should be on meds then surely thats good enough! I worry about coming off the prozac, but I've got at least 6 months. I'll worry about it then. xx

Lucy1982_2

Afternoon.

Hope everyone is ok today. I'm off sick with the tail ends of a migraine, it's lasted since Saturday so the weekend has been a bit of a waste, still I have got loads of sleeping done!

I've had all the finance paperwork through for my laptop which I can overpay and have an early repayment option if I pay for it all before 28th May 08, so that's the aim. I have about £170 spare to play with a month if I stick to the budget which means in theory I can do this.

I have to weigh in tonight and a few naughty foods crept in over the weekend as I was feeling sorry for myself, still I have been sticking to the plan which has to be a good thing and I do feel better for it. Just off to check my SOA and see if I can cut back anywhere and save myself some money to put towards my Laptop.

Take Care xx

Lucy1982_2

Morning all.

Still feeling terrible. I have a Dr's appointment at 9.50 so will see how I get on. Woke up this morning to a red and swollen eye :eek: Feeling sick and achy, not sounding good is it. Still I will let you know how I get on. My Mum thinks my body is trying to tell me to stop and relax, but we shall see what the Dr thinks.

Take care everyone and I hope that you are all ok

x

SortingIt_2

Hi Lucy,

I hope the docs goes ok. Rest up well and take care of yourself.

Lucy1982_2

Hi!

Well I have been signed off for the rest of the week :eek: Apparently I have a viral infection that could get worse before it gets better :eek: :eek: So currently feeling very sorry for myself, however it will be a very DFW week as I wont be going anywhere So there are silver linings to every cloud. I just wish I didn't feel so bad. Just hope I'm feeling ok by Saturday as OH is taking me Christmas shopping, we need to get each others Christmas presents, he needs to get his families and I need to get something for his Mum.

I guess there is another good thing, I can't be blamed for infecting the people I work with, just a shame that I have dropped my boss in at the deep end on his own. Still I need to take care of myself, apparently the Dr couldn't see the point in letting me go to work as I could feel like this for a good few more days. Oh well looks like I might have to spend some time here then!

x

esthomizzy

Hope you start to feel better soon Lucy. Keep snuggled and warm and look after yourself.

XXX
Esthomizzy