Don't really know what to do

Penguin_

Thank you Dreaming, I am certainly very very lucky in terms of her having her head screwed on. I think you are right, the fact we are traveling makes talking in the car seem less intense than say if we were sat on the couch. I'm not saying this is all dealt with but for now I remain a very happy father who is incredibly proud of my daughter.

Savvy_Sue

dreaming wrote: »

I have often found that we have the most open conversations when driving. I think it is because it is less intense as most of the focus is on the driving (hopefully). Best wishes to you both.

It's a recognised fact: having a conversation when you're in the car can become more 'personal' because there's no chance of you fixing your beady eye on them, you have to keep your eyes on the road! My never-to-be-forgotten car conversation was "I've got a lump on my testicle"!

Apparently washing up is another good activity for parent / child chats. Never found that myself.

dreaming

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

It's a recognised fact: having a conversation when you're in the car can become more 'personal' because there's no chance of you fixing your beady eye on them, you have to keep your eyes on the road! My never-to-be-forgotten car conversation was "I've got a lump on my testicle"!

Apparently washing up is another good activity for parent / child chats. Never found that myself.

I hope your loved one's problem was resolved. I have always had a dishwasher so can't vouch for washing up as a conversational aid but I think any shared activity can help.

Penguin_

Just wanted to post to say that my daughter seems to be much happier since she has been with her GF & I've met her parents (during a drop off/collection) & they seem nice.


Also have met a very nice lady who I have started dating too.

dreaming

Penguin_ wrote: »

Just wanted to post to say that my daughter seems to be much happier since she has been with her GF & I've met her parents (during a drop off/collection) & they seem nice.


Also have met a very nice lady who I have started dating too.

Thanks for the update. Best wishes to you both for your continued happiness.

Skiddaw1

Oooh! What a wonderful start to the year!! Hope your respective relationships prove to be long-lasting and extremely happy. You both deserve it

Penguin_

Hello all,

Hope you're all keeping as safe as possible!

Just wanted to provide you with another recent update: a fortnight ago my daughter asked me if I could order some clothes & bits for her, as always I said to send me the links. When I collated the items I noticed that the clothes were quite girly & not something she would normally order & there was a bit of make up too. I didn't say anything initially & when they came she was busy trying on the clothes etc. Yesterday I asked if I could have a quick chat with her, I said "You seem a lot happier at the moment & you seem more confident in yourself. I've noticed the clothes you've been wearing & I think they look great but I just wanted to ask if what you said in the chat we had last year still stood?"

She smiled & said "I think it was a phase & possibly influenced by the people I was hanging around with at the time. I don't know what I was thinking."

We carried on chatting, with me saying I am glad she felt she could come to me about something so personal & she was glad that we didn't have any immediate actions in place. She has said she is still a lesbian but she is more than happy with who she is & her body.

Again thank you to all who took time to read & comment to help my head when it was well & truly in the shed last year!!

Fireflyaway

Being a parent is the hardest job! Such responsibility and no one size fits all solutions when unexpected things happen. I'm a parent to a teenager too. I think it so complicated now with social media causing a lot of added confusion. I'm pleased to hear everything is going well. 

Drawingaline

What a wonderful update. The teen years are such a voyage of discovery in so many ways and sometimes things are a phase and other times they are the beginning of a change in direction. That your daughter felt comfortable enough to talk to you about it and you took a very laid back approach, neither dismissing her thoughts and ideas or pushing a 'definate' onto her either way, seems to have paid off in that her decisions, have been made by herself without influence. It does seem that her emerging thoughts on her sexuality maybe became mixed up with her ideas on how to fit them into her life. 

Your acceptance of her as she is and views herself seems to have paid off in a wonderful relationship with her and hopefully she will continue to feel able to come to you with any other worries and concerns she may have. 

carefullycautious

Drawingaline has summed it up perfectly. Best wishes to you and your daughter