Feeling over whelmed over new house

Jarviscocker

I’ve got the keys to my new home and feeling regret. I have left my big HMO to move into an area that I don’t feel safe in and also by myself. I have no reason not to feel safe, other than I don’t know the area.

I feel like I’ve paid too much for the house and all the things you didn’t notice before, now I do. I cleaned the house all day because it wasn’t too dirty, but it was obviously not my dirt.

I just feel like I’m so out of my depth. I have no idea what to do, where to start. I need new carpets as I’ve just found out I’m allergic to dogs, owner had a dog. I’ve never lived with a dog.

I have odd jobs that need doing, but I just don’t know anyone in the area that can help me. I always get ripped of as well

Plus now I think my Ikea mattress won’t fit up the stairs lol.

FtbDreaming

Youll be fine. Its just nerves and change. Good luck x

suki1964

I think we have all felt the same at some point in our lives when moving to a new home for the first time, rented or bought, especially alone

My first home alone was a studio flat in Putney, SW London. Oh I thought I had landed on my feet big time, got burgled 5 times in 3 years

Moved to a better flat in a much less salubrious area of London , better only in it was a flat, but OMG it was filthy and needed complete decoration throughout and alive with cockroaches . It was in a nice new purpose built block, backing onto a pubs car park where the local drug dealers and prostitutes plied their trade I think I spent the first months in tears not wanting to go home

But slowly, room by room I turned that flat into a wonderful place to live. The block was secure and there was never any bother in it at all. Soon made friends with the neighbours and local shop keepers and I was very sorry to leave it when I finally got to buy my own house

Rent a rug doctor and deep clean the carpets for now. Then do one room at a time. Start with your bedroom so you have a haven to retreat to whilst you do the rest of the place. Don't expect it to be a show home for the foreseeable , hell my first house I bought I lived without a back wall and kitchen for near on a year, cooking on a BBQ or getting take out and doing the dishes in the bathroom

Changeoffortunes

It's all probably a bit daunting and maybe quieter than your previous HMO? Take a deep breath relax and have a good night's sleep, things will feel better soon. As Suki says, concentrate on 1 room at a time, you will get there. Good luck

[Deleted User]

Its not ideal but I use antihistamine tablets when going to bed if I am having an allergic reaction to something. It will help temporarily. Look for a hoover with a Hepa filter. I bought this (I have dogs) https://www.amazon.co.uk/Miele-Complete-Powerline-Bagged-Cleaner/dp/B074P7X6MP/ref=sr_1_2?keywords=miele+hoover&qid=1569711671&s=gateway&sr=8-2 - best hoover I have ever purchased for removing dust and dog hair. After years of buying cheap hoovers which didn't clean well/didn't last long, I started buying decent hoovers and saving myself money in the long run.

You probably will be able to get your mattress up the stairs. Do it slowly and carefully. They normally have some flexibility. I have been known to fold them in half when needed lol.

Youtube has been wonderful to me. You will probably find a lot of 'odd jobs' can be found on there. List the top 3 jobs you want to do, look for something that tells you how to do it. I've repaired washing machines, improved my decorating skills and cleaned umpteen things more easily than before that I thought were uncleanable in the past because of YouTube. Not all of the advice is any good, so I tend to look at more than one video and adopt an experimental approach. Its actually fun with the right attitude.

BTW there is nothing wrong with cleaning a new house. Its just what you do. Yes I have cleaned the old house when moving out and then straight away started cleaning the new place because previous owners couldn't be bothered. But a great deal of satisfaction gained when you know its been done properly. Makes the place more yours somehow even while you are wishing unpleasant karmic things under your breath to the previous owners. Having moved in and out of a few places by now, I expect it lol.

Jarviscocker

Thanks. I just can’t see how I can sleep in the house with the carpet. I’ve hoovered five times. The place stinks of dog although it’s a lot better (space of a day) it still smells.

I have lots of questions and o feel overwhelmed because I just don’t know who to ask.

I also have to remember that someone else was living here, and I’ve seen worse.

Jarviscocker

The carpet looked a little dirty when I moved in, like not too bad (and I’ve got high cleaning standards) this is what came out of two rooms and stairs. Imgur . Com/a/j5BhJPB

suki1964

Jarviscocker wrote: »

Thanks. I just can’t see how I can sleep in the house with the carpet. I’ve hoovered five times. The place stinks of dog although it’s a lot better (space of a day) it still smells.

I have lots of questions and o feel overwhelmed because I just don’t know who to ask.

I also have to remember that someone else was living here, and I’ve seen worse.

And deep breathe

The carpet probably isn't that bad, its just its the straw breaking the camels back. Tomorrow go get some fabreeze or bicarb of soda and either spray the fabreeze or give the carpet a good sprinkle of the bicarb, leave sit for an hour and vacuum it up

Matresses do go up stairs, it may take some brute force and you may need a hand, but it will go. Go knock on a neighbours door and ask for help if you need to

Neighbours are a great help for knowing who to ask and where to find. This house Im in now, day we moved in, I had to knock on the neighbours door to ask for help with the boiler who found out we had no oil and rang her supplier and got us sorted that day

These forums are a great place to ask for advice as well. Not one of us were born with the knowledge we have, we all learned somewhere along the line

franklee

Carpet cleaning tips for removing dog odour:

http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showpost.php?p=64616159&postcount=42

http://wholelifestylenutrition.com/articles/get-rid-of-dog-and-cat-urine-odors-the-all-natural-way/

http://www.howtocleanstuff.net/how-to-remove-odors-from-carpet/

PasturesNew

Most people feel this. There's a weight of responsibility and fear that swamps you once it's yours.

If you're alone there's nobody there to input their opinion, nobody else to rely on, just a big yawning silence and your own thoughts.

RelievedSheff

It is completely normal to feel overwhelmed on your first few days in your new home.

It will start to feel more like home as you start to unpack your belongings.

Hire a carpet cleaner and do the carpets a couple of times to get rid of the dog smell. Also open the windows to air the place.