Aspergers/ASD support thread

seven-day-weekend

Haven't been on this thread for ages, but have something to say that will make you all laugh, I hope!

As you know, my nearly-28-year-old son almost certainly has AS. His 20-year-old girlfrind is diagnosed with it.

Well he went round to the girlfriend's house for his Christmas dinner and received his Chritmas present from her mum. It was just the right present for him, in fact he was so delighted with it he rang us up and gave us an ear-bending about it.

It's obvious his girlfriend's mum knows all about dealing with Aspies and their 'different' interests and obsessions.

What other sort of mum would buy a 28-year-old guy a remote controlled scorpion???

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ms_piggy

What other sort of mum would buy a 28-year-old guy a remote controlled scorpion???

:rotfl:


Lol I hope you are well stocked up on batteries!

shazrobo

i bought my 12 year old lads laptop, ps2 nintendo ds lite, and because one of lads constantly watches noddy bought him a large talking noddy, the other lad is mad on dogs, so bought him a cuddly one which barks when you press his paw. my parents thought i was mad buying my 12 year old twins items like these.

guess what they played with most of the day?
noddy and the cuddly dog:o

Savvy_Sue

My 20 yo is getting either very easy or very difficult to buy for. He doesn't want anything, doesn't need anything, and would rather we didn't buy him 'stuff' just for the sake of it.

He did eventually decide there were a couple of computing books he'd be quite interested in, as it would save him having to borrow them from the Game Design Society Library at Uni - £30+ each they were! :eek:

But his godfather would like to know what he wants for his 21st, it will be a special present as after that it will be cards only. His grandparents will want to know the same, and they won't accept 'nothing'. We've got a few months to think about it, but he has NO idea. He doesn't wear a watch, and doesn't want to. He certainly wouldn't wear a signet ring, gold chain, or bracelet. If desperate, I might suggest a decent pen and pencil set, but I'm not convinced DS1 will be that thrilled, and will either worry about losing it or lose it ...

Ho hum ...

seven-day-weekend

My son is the same; he usually justs asks for the money.

Maybe the grandparents could do this instead?

I'm the same, I can never think of anything I want and do not want people to buy 'stuff' as it is a waste of money.

blue_monkey_2

Good evening everyone,

Just thought I would pop back before we start getting 'back to normal' tomorrow. I've been poping in over xmas to see what has been going on. I hope Xmas has been not too stressful for everyone and Santa has been kind to you all!! I managed to bag a few bits for the kids in the sales so i am happy. My husband got his Wii and he did not have a clue I had managed to get one. However, this will make you LOL, he opened it and I said that he now had to share lie ins now and alternate them (which he has never done - and it's a very sore point) but I have told him that if he does not I am going to hide the Wii for one whole week. LOL!!

I have sad news though.... my son broke his beloved thomas track this week and after various calls (OK, screams) to fix it I managed to dig out some superglue, only it did not come out of the tube so I squeezed it and just in slow motion it came out of the tube much quicker than I expected..... and you think.... where did that go, it's not on me, phew, until.......... I look down and it has gone onto my new uggs which cost a shocking £90...... I don't get a great deal for myself (that's a lie, I don;t get anything for myself) and really wanted some for Xmas so I got them early but now they are brown with white spots on them. *sigh* Damn train track!!

Thanks for all your advice last week, it is appreciated but there always seems to be so much going on to deal with from one day to the next. I had a think of the diary thing and now I know I have to keep a record (which I have not started doing as I thought I would wait to get Xmas out of the way) I am noticing much more in way of the behaviour that has been daily life but I had not really noticed before - did anyone else find this? These are things I would have usually ignored I guess.

Also about the letter for the council for his room, we have not seen CAMHS as they said Ryan was too young and not yet 4 - despite him turning 4 in 6 weeks time - but they didn;t even tell us, just the docotr but the doctor has reffered us to the CP and the HV said we would get seen quicker. I guess I could go and speak to the doctor next week and ask, I feel like I am being a drain on everyone and do I need an appointment just for a letter? I do think maybe now would be a good time seeing as today we looked at his hands it is is covered in cuts but would this show the doctor he needs his own room. He is up a lot in the night (or he has been recently) so his screaming would wake my other daughter. Anyhow, these cuts seem to be from the hamster which he repeatedly harasses by thusting his hand in to the cage to get her out at all times of day. I tell him day in and out to stop and nothing will make him listen, if he does then 20 seconds late he is back in there again. The thing is, it must hurt as she is drawing blood but he still does it over and over. Do you think that the doctor would see that this is a problem - do other children do this? I know it sounds stupid to ask, my daughter would not do it as she has been bitten once and now hates the thing but do other children act like this. Sorry, I feel really embarrassed asking stuff like this as it sounds so stupid. The other question is whether you think I should give the hamster to a new home as he never leaves it alone and maybe I just want 5 minutes peace and quiet - or is that the easy way out and he'll just start to focus on something else - I was more worried about the cuts to be honest.

blue_monkey_2

Oh, and this will make you laugh. because he is always touching her we thought next time we would get something more 'hands on' so we are going to get him some rats (don't shudder, they would be ideal for him as they love being picked up). Anyway, we told him one day last week and when he went to bed still going on about it we thought maybe if he slept on it then he would forget about. So we got up, he mentioned the rat, I turned on the news, it was about rats, I opened a magazine it was about rats. my husband got in from work and I told him about my day and the kids were watching Smart and sure enough someone drew a picture - of a RAT!! We were in hysterics but lesson learnt. Keep your thoughts to yourself as he now goes around telling people 'I am getting a rat when Dora dies'. Dora is the hamster but heaven knows what everyone else is thinking. LOL!! See, there is always something to keep you smiling.

blue_monkey_2

In regard to the presents, maybe ask for some money to go into a savings account as a present. One day there might be something that he really, really needs/wants that is out of his/your price range and then he will have the money there to pay for it. It is just a thought other than spending the money on stuff he does not need or want right now. it is then there for him to fall back on if he takes up some other interest that becomes too expensive!!

Savvy_Sue

I think the grandparents and even his godfather would be happy to give money if it was going towards something specific which was more than they wanted to spend, or if he needed to choose it himself. But I am pretty sure they will all want him to have something to remember his 21st by.

And therein lies the problem: what's another birthday? It's just a day, isn't it?

I may suggest his godfather buys him a quality bible - in fact if I threaten that he may give it a bit more thought! :rotfl:

seven-day-weekend

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

I think the grandparents and even his godfather would be happy to give money if it was going towards something specific which was more than they wanted to spend, or if he needed to choose it himself. But I am pretty sure they will all want him to have something to remember his 21st by.

And therein lies the problem: what's another birthday? It's just a day, isn't it?

I may suggest his godfather buys him a quality bible - in fact if I threaten that he may give it a bit more thought! :rotfl:

Premium Bonds???

Bible an excellent idea if your son will appreciate it.