Equity - Boyfriend - new house argument

Comms69

gycraig wrote: »

I'm no legal expert and won't pretend to be. Surely you can't be tenants in common if his name isn't on the mortgage., surely the mortgage company wouldn't let him be on deeds without him being responsible for the mortgage.

Seek legal advice but no way is he getting 50 percent based on the pittance he has put in.

Well he is, because that's what he owns...

anna_1977 wrote: »

I'm sorry but I really don't understand why you are still in this relationship. You state you have feelings for him, fair enough but do you really want to live like this.
He doesn't contribute and from the sounds of it sits of his !!!! all day doing sweet FA - and you support him. I am wondering what impression this is giving to both his son and your daughters.

If it were me I'd be kicking him out in a shot because down the line, when you do decide to split, he will more than likely take you for everything he can

I agree with the sentiment. But she cant kick him out.

anna_1977

Annieireland71 wrote: »

it is not acceptable to me that he doesn't work - how can it be? hes a 53 year old grown man.

he should be working. hes not my child hes a grown up

but you are letting it be acceptable by financially supporting him

gycraig_2

Never mind just re read, unfortunately you are screwed really if you have signed a legal document saying you own the house 50/50 you own the house 50/50 who pays what isn't important.

If he's willing to give up his half for 12k pay him the money take the equity back and get rid of him he's a leach

anna_1977

Comms69 wrote: »

I agree with the sentiment. But she cant kick him out.

Ahh yes, I forgot he was on the current house deeds...... but she can stop him living in the new house if it is 100% in her name

Comms69

anna_1977 wrote: »

Ahh yes, I forgot he was on the current house deeds...... but she can stop him living in the new house if it is 100% in her name

Agreed. She should just give him his share and move on. It's all very complex


Happy to continue the relationship, but willing to go to court and unwilling to share future equity, but madly in love.

MovingForwards

Sorry for being blunt....

Pay him off and get rid, you and your children deserve better.

Get counseling for yourself to build your confidence and allow you to see why this relationship is wrong.

Do you want to see your girls in this kind of relationship? Where they think it's the way things are by being treated as a pushover?

Yes other people have one working and one as a stay at home parent, but they do housework, they get up, they plan to get a job round when the kids are a bit older, they do stuff as a family.

spookyhelen

How much equity will you get from the house? Is he using the 12k to rid the debt so he is an better position going forward to help in the new home?
Then you say he will pay 25% of the bills going forward in the new house, with no job, loads of debt/no incentive to work.....

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I cannot believe how gullible some people are to think a relationship like this is love.


He is a user and its better you woke up to this now than later. How can you possibly have any respect for a grown man who leeches off his partner and dictates / blackmails the odds over how equity will be split whilst contributing so little. He is treating you like a business.




Have some respect for yourself and show your daughters this is not the way relationships should be, bin him off.

Annieireland71

Comms69 wrote: »

Agreed. She should just give him his share and move on. It's all very complex


Happy to continue the relationship, but willing to go to court and unwilling to share future equity, but madly in love.

I share - that's ben my problem!!!

hes stating he will sue me!!

Comms69

Annieireland71 wrote: »

I share - that's ben my problem!!!

hes stating he will sue me!!

So sell, give him half and move on.


I'm sure he will if you try to take his share of the property