Equity - Boyfriend - new house argument

Annieireland71

Grezz24 wrote: »

the fact you are considering taking him to court further down the line, but still want to stay with him...before you buy a house you need to seriously think about if this is the right guy for you..id say hell no personally.

I was talking bout taking him to court now... not in the future

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Annieireland71 wrote: »

I was talking bout taking him to court now... not in the future

What do you think you can take him to court for?

Annieireland71

Comms69 wrote: »

You have no actionable options.


He already owns 50% of the house, 50% of the equity.


You aren't willing to split up, but are willing to take him to court? That seems unlikely anyway.


You are living as one household. It's common in literally millions of relationships for one party to work and one to stay at home - why do you think your situation is any different in reality?

it is not acceptable to me that he doesn't work - how can it be? hes a 53 year old grown man.

he should be working. hes not my child hes a grown up

Annieireland71

Lover_of_Lycra wrote: »

What do you think you can take him to court for?

Non contribution

Comms69

Annieireland71 wrote: »

it is not acceptable to me that he doesn't work - how can it be? hes a 53 year old grown man.

he should be working. hes not my child hes a grown up

So you expect a court to sort out your relationship?!


If it's not acceptable - split up.

skint_chick

He will get the 50% as that is how you own the house. If he's willing to accept the £12,000 on the basis that he continues to live with you in the new place, but isn't named on the mortgage or deeds then I would suggest you him to write a letter to your solicitor confirming that he is happy for the proceeds of sale to go into your sole named bank account after the solicitor has given him the £12k. I would then suggest taking a short term let - for a month or so between the two houses, at which point you tell him it's over and you are moving to the new house alone. That gives him a few weeks to find somewhere else to live or make alternative arrangements. The fact that you've suggested taking him to court means the relationship is over. If he moves to the new house it will be harder for you to finally deal with this.

gycraig_2

I'm no legal expert and won't pretend to be. Surely you can't be tenants in common if his name isn't on the mortgage., surely the mortgage company wouldn't let him be on deeds without him being responsible for the mortgage.

Seek legal advice but no way is he getting 50 percent based on the pittance he has put in.

Comms69

Annieireland71 wrote: »

Non contribution

You cant. That's the end of it. You are one household. You either accept it or you split up. That's how these things are dealt with.


As I said millions of couples have this set up, the courts couldn't care less (rightly) about the relationship issues.

anna_1977

I'm sorry but I really don't understand why you are still in this relationship. You state you have feelings for him, fair enough but do you really want to live like this.
He doesn't contribute and from the sounds of it sits on his !!!! all day doing sweet FA - and you support him. I am wondering what impression this is giving to both his son and your daughters.

If it were me I'd be kicking him out in a shot because down the line, when you do decide to split, he will more than likely take you for everything he can

Comms69

skint_chick wrote: »

He will get the 50% as that is how you own the house. If he's willing to accept the £12,000 on the basis that he continues to live with you in the new place, but isn't named on the mortgage or deeds then I would suggest you him to write a letter to your solicitor confirming that he is happy for the proceeds of sale to go into your sole named bank account after the solicitor has given him the £12k. I would then suggest taking a short term let - for a month or so between the two houses, at which point you tell him it's over and you are moving to the new house alone. That gives him a few weeks to find somewhere else to live or make alternative arrangements. The fact that you've suggested taking him to court means the relationship is over. If he moves to the new house it will be harder for you to finally deal with this.

And he sues her for the remaining amount?!


NO - just give him half and split up.