Buffy's 30 Month Plan

Buffythedebtslayer

Shoulder is still being weird - hurts when I breath - !!!!!!?? Not crippling me but very odd.

Anyhow today was good.

Online bloke wants to stay friends and I do think he is sweet so hey, I 'll take it.

Post the lovely party (GOD I LOVE MY FRIENDS ) I came home and made a list which I then proceeded to ignore(!) and organise both chest of drawers, my shelves and the under the bed storage. I filled another bag for the charity shop and found two more things to sell.

This process is taking me far longer than in the past but I suspect that is because I going through EVERYTHING. Every memory, every note book, every random piece of clothing. There is so much I don't want. Room is still a tip and I have lots of books. Some of it is difficult. so many mistakes and unmade decisions.

Saying all that, things do feel better, I am pleased I fixed the chest of drawers tho. I would have had to dump it, this way I can sell the little one and put the new bigger one in it's place. If everything sells I will "make" 70 quid. That is a big if! but am optimistic.

And if all this works out with my room, I will have a sanctuary.

Any how must go to bed. I need lunch for tomorrow. Damnit.

XXXX

Buffythedebtslayer

in_need_of_direction wrote: »

Maybe ring the vet equivalent for your shoulder pain

:rotfl:

If it carries on I shall:rotfl:

Buffythedebtslayer

I forgot to say I have clean sheets! And I sorted ALL my toiletries, I don't need to buy any for a while! so I can do my night time face routine - I am so sad but this makes me feel happy

XX

Sun_Addict

I like the sound of your neighbour, maybe keep him on a back burner in case he ditches the GF

I sorted my toiletries and bought a hairdressers trolley from Amazon to keep them in. I have so many lotions and potions but now there's a drawer for everything, all listed on a spreadsheet too And I don't need to buy anything for the foreseeable future

Pooky

I must be really low maintenance, aside from the one bottle of shampoo, one of conditioner, a face scrub, a bar of soap, a pot of basic Nivea moisturiser and a pot of hair wax, there's a tub of cocoa butter. And that's me.

Oh and a deodorant.

Not having lots of lotions and potions or any make up means no storage issues.

I do however have a whole dresser full of wool and fabric. Which is utterly justifiable

Buffythedebtslayer

SO tired.

went out last night, have spent much of today tired and hungover!

It was good evening mind.

Do need to check the damage tho. (40 quid - a result!!)

Work has been awful (hence the night out and getting stupidly drunk!)

Money wise, well. I needed to pay for my union fees and I forgot that I set up a SO for the CC = 200! So I am skint and have had to borrow (or use) my savings.


Union fees 134
SO 200



so that lead to CC of 318 - which I have paid with my savings My normal spends and Union fees and I have borrowed 100 as a float to stop any accidental use of the Overdraft

Tho they aren't really savings, they are the tax rebate.

the ISA = 1605
Tax rebate = 1600

Summer = 550

Christmas = 300

Penny a day = 509

(both mini emergency funds are less than a 100)

So I have about 4000


Debt - 3449.


I hope this push of progress continues.


xxx

Buffythedebtslayer

I have quit the exam marking. It is too hard with Mum now she is alone all the time I can't go upstairs, plus it isn't as tho I have a place to work there either. She just kept interrupting me and didn't seem to get that I couldn't watch TV or wasn't bothered about watching TV. And I get it, she is alone all day every day and it is taking its toll on both of us. She hasn't anything to balance her negativity and seems so sad all the time. It is like any illness I guess, everyone (to a great extent me included) has accepted the situation with my sister - BIL isn't in hospital and they have a routine - which doesn't include Mum at all and that must hurt enormously. And this is her life now, one daughter abroad, me working 12 hrs a day and the previous success is now in a sort of hell.

I am pretty gutted to be honest and feeling like a failure. All the music on the radio is sad and I am sad too.

I shall watch Harry Potter for a bit.

beanielou

So does your mum not have any hobbies? Friends? Social activities?
It cant all fall to you buffy.
IT's time to break free in more way than one.
YOU have to think of YOUR mental health & your well being xxx

Buffythedebtslayer

I watched HP and then cleaned out the car. And brought in my new (flat packed) chest of drawers....fingers crossed it being banged about in the car for 3 weeks hasn't damaged it....

the only stuff she did was with my sister. I remember years ago reading Susan Jeffers and she wrote a piece in her book, "how whole is your whole life"

And you had to fill in a grid with all the people/hobbies/stuff in your life. I worked so hard after I broke up with my partner from Uni to build a life again and it really worked. Her book worked well for that(plus I was young and bit more resilient) , so I have some truly lovely friends and a good social life(when I can manage it) but I think Mum (like a lot of mums?) had her kids, hubby and house. And now really she has me and the house. Which she can't manage.

She has given up gardening, seeing our neighbour. I am just not here much. I keep thinking if I can sort the house out she could have the neighbour round. But honestly she hates any kind of sorting out or tidying. And I am too busy for it all. Although without the exam marking I should be able to do some more.

Sun_Addict

It's a shame your mum hasn't got any mates she can meet up with. Unfortunately when your world revolves around kids and hubby it's easy to let friends fall by the wayside. It shouldn't all fall to you Buffster as Beanie says - you have your own life to lead xx