Keeping our options open

becky170

We'll DD's bed is up and she's sleeping well in it she's not fallen out so far, but I've probably jinxed it now  we also managed to reorganise her room so it's looking a bit tidier. I've listed another couple of bits on Faceb00k marketplace and I donated a load of clothes to a local charity so things are slowly leaving the house....hooray! Still a a lot of stuff to sort and get rid of but it's a start. We also did a tip run and it looks like they have reponed the clothes recycling section so we'll get another slot booked in to get rid of some of our clothes which can't be sold/donated. So all in all we had a productive weekend. 

School are being supportive with DS. I'm finding it quiet difficult to stay on top of my feelings, but I am feeling much more positive after talking to different people and hopefully some behavioural strategies will help improve thongs. Because I'm trying really hard to stay positive and calm with the kids I find that the only time I get to think about things is when I'm driving to work, so I then end up crying on my way to work which isn't great. Hopefully things will improve and life will look rosier soon

debtfreeoneday

Feel for you with the whole school thing. Many a time I cried on the way to work after dropping them off.  Hope things improve soon x

becky170

debtfreeoneday said:

Feel for you with the whole school thing. Many a time I cried on the way to work after dropping them off.  Hope things improve soon x

Thanks debtfreeoneday, it's nice to know I'm not alone. 

Our regular overpayment of £210 has gone out today. I want to make that up to £250 so will try and remember to transfer another £40 later. Not having a very money saving week so far. I ordered our online shop for the wrong week by accident so had to resort to takeaway as we had run out of food and time to go to the supermarket and I sent my brother's birthday card to the wrong address so have had to send another one   

Hettyhound

I sympathise with the whole school thing as my son struggles.  I seem to have been particularly weepy about it recently.  They have this app called Seesaw for homework, which we don’t do as it’s all I can do to keep some resemblance of a home together and food on the table.  The latest thing is the teacher posting other kids work as examples of excellent or WAGOLL (what a good one looks like).  To me it’s an electronic version of the school gate mums boasting about how good their kids and life are.  If it makes me cry how does it make my son feel?  There seems to be no consideration that not all families are having a jolly time, Covid or no Covid.  I’m sure this will pass for both of us and I know we are not alone in this but it’s not easy ❤️

savingholmes

Sorry it is so hard. My DS got diagnosed ADHD at 22 and my DD with ASD at 16... kids need the help when they are younger - I hope you manage to get it for your DS.

debtfreeoneday

So agree with the above. They should get the help and input earlier. Our diagnosis took over 3 years. 

savingholmes

debtfreeoneday said:

So agree with the above. They should get the help and input earlier. Our diagnosis took over 3 years. 

It's so frustrating. I think the school are supposed to provide help based on needs even without formal diagnosis. You may find your council can help.  

becky170

Hettyhound said:

I sympathise with the whole school thing as my son struggles.  I seem to have been particularly weepy about it recently.  They have this app called Seesaw for homework, which we don’t do as it’s all I can do to keep some resemblance of a home together and food on the table.  The latest thing is the teacher posting other kids work as examples of excellent or WAGOLL (what a good one looks like).  To me it’s an electronic version of the school gate mums boasting about how good their kids and life are.  If it makes me cry how does it make my son feel?  There seems to be no consideration that not all families are having a jolly time, Covid or no Covid.  I’m sure this will pass for both of us and I know we are not alone in this but it’s not easy ❤️

I'm really sorry to hear that you're not having a great time Hetty. That's really poor practice from your teacher. When we started home schooling other parents started posting their children's work on the noticeboard and our school we're very quick to nip it in the bud and direct them to other portals for sharing the work with the teachers. Hugs to you and your son x

becky170

Thanks for all the support guys  DS had a slightly better week last week and has so far started this week well. We've booked a day out on Sunday so we've got something to look forward to. We've just got to survive the next two weeks and then it's the holiday 

I remembered to overpay £43 so our overpayment total for July is £253. I also remembered to top up my regular savers so that's done too. The last money saving thing to do this month is to decide what to do when my fixed rate ends with my energy provider. Their fixed rate offerings don't look very appealing...in fact their standard rate is cheaper currently so may let it roll over onto standard rate and shop around. 

fionaandphil

becky170 said:

Thanks for all the support guys  DS had a slightly better week last week and has so far started this week well. We've booked a day out on Sunday so we've got something to look forward to. We've just got to survive the next two weeks and then it's the holiday 

I remembered to overpay £43 so our overpayment total for July is £253. I also remembered to top up my regular savers so that's done too. The last money saving thing to do this month is to decide what to do when my fixed rate ends with my energy provider. Their fixed rate offerings don't look very appealing...in fact their standard rate is cheaper currently so may let it roll over onto standard rate and shop around. 

Oct0pus energy had some decent fixes when I checked last month but they don't seem to appear on the comparison sites now so it may be worth looking direct with them.  You're not tied in so can leave if you see a better deal.  I signed up for another 2 year deal and its about £10 a month more than I'm paying just now so not a huge increase.  If you know anybody who is with them, get them to refer you and you will both get a £50 credit on your account.