I will cut my coat according to my cloth. {Edited by Forum team} 2019

pollyanna_26

Mooloo he needs to forget his friends troubles and get his backside back to yours and put a block on whatever bank cards he holds. I'm sorry if I sound harsh but he's abusing your hospitality and causing you stress.You need to tell him you will not tolerate this behaviour any longer and if he wont sort out the things he needs to do and show respect he's no longer welcome under your roof . Just scare the h*ll out of him!
pollyx

supermezzo

You can ask the bank to block payments to certain companies, I think (we had to do it when booking a holiday and they kept taking the same payment over and over again!).

Or report it stolen and drop her in sh*t - sorry to be harsh but it sounds like he needs to be in order to stop her.

pollyanna_26

supermezzo wrote: »

You can ask the bank to block payments to certain companies, I think (we had to do it when booking a holiday and they kept taking the same payment over and over again!).

Or report it stolen and drop her in sh*t - sorry to be harsh but it sounds like he needs to be in order to stop her.

I don't believe he needs to be harsh or report the card or cards stolen . He needs to be proactive , get any cards in his name blocked now and find a bank not connected to his present one and open a new basic account there. Then he closes his previous bank account and transfers any dds etc to the new one . Once the cards are blocked any attempts by the gf to use those details will be invalid and will not go through.
I've no idea what the subscription is for but if it's for something he signed up for he's best cancelling it. If she signed up he needs to make it clear to the company what has happened .
He has today and tomorrow to sort this out . Friday and Monday are bank holidays . The longer he avoids this the worse it will get. If the card/cards are solely in his name he can expect a rollicking from his present bank and no chance of recovering any money she's used because he didn't follow the rules and protect his details.
polly

-taff

it may be a joint account.

pollyanna_26

Which is why I have said If the card/cards are solely in his name.
polly

hb2

Mooloo, I am very sorry to hear about your mum's friend (((huggs))).

I do agree that your son is letting things slip, when he should be proactive at trying to sort out the financial situation. Getting him to understand that might be rather more difficult though

I am pretty sure that I have seen notices in our local paper saying that X is no longer responsible for Y's debts, but I don't know exactly how that works.

-taff

Mooloo wrote: »

Bank said that subscriptions would roll over to any new card he had so it would not stop what she's already doing. Amazon said due to data protection they can't deal with DS ( even though she's used his details the account is in her name!)

If he goes online, he can go through the direct debits associated with that card and cancel them.

Little_Miss_Winner

Sorry about your mums friend. Hope you had a better day xx

Savvy_sewing

I had a good day with my Mum. We went all over the place. B and M for the randomness of a new loo seat and antihistamine tablets for her hay fever. The Garden Centre to look at the Workshops, lunch, popped in the hairdressers to book our appointment in May, and over to the Sewing warehouse to drop off the machines that need services, and buy threads.
Back via a different garden centre, and Aldi to pick up a salad for tea.
My brother came up on Skype and not long after my sister did, so we had great long chats. Then we chatted about anything and everything over a few brandy cokes.
DS called after midnight, he was coming home from work and had both left tyres blow out on a pothole. Unfortunately I didn't book him breakdown when I helped swap his car insurance, so at some ungodly hour I had to pay for a breakdown to go out to him, as he has nothing in the bank. So I used my business card as that was the only card to hand without disturbing my Mum.
I will find out later today what transpired but as both left tyres went, and he only had one spare, it's not going to be cheap.
So money discussion is priority today.
The council needs proof of his income and the children's birth certificates etc because of my council tax and housing benefits so I will have that to sort out too. My expenses are spiralling. It's very scary.
(I wonder if it was a pothole or if his car was tampered with outside his work?. Or am I just being cynical now?
Time to shower and leave Mums and go to work.

What next I ask

elisamoose

I am confused ......where are his children if he is at work until midnight or does not come home and you are at your mums?