I will cut my coat according to my cloth. {Edited by Forum team} 2019

hb2

Mooloo, I'm glad you were able to enjoy your Mothers' Day lunch yesterday, you have certainly earned it!

I hope your Gd enjoys her trip and that her shoulder doesn't give her any trouble.

I understand your need to make your plans for the future and agree with Thorsoak that you going away as planned might show SS that you do not intend to shoulder their responsibilities.

Yes, I loved Terry Pratchett too. Haven't watched any of the 'Victoria' TV series.

I'm afraid we still have beautiful sunshine here

WabbitWabbit

I think it is very sad when children are not allowed to see a parent, father or mother.
I don’t know about the law but If Social Services have decided that children cannot have contact or live with a parent then some sort of order should be in place. If you say that she may kidnap the children I am sure that is how she most probably sees things, she is still their mother.
They both did the drugs and both made the mess in the house and both did not clean up before moving to the new property. Then they both took their time getting their new home ready.
Debts that two people living together have should be joint debts and I am not sure how an attachment of earnings can be made for half a council tax bill.
Maybe it is just me but everything can’t be her fault.

This is just my view, I am sure this will make others angry but children need two parents.

beanielou

Children only need two parents if said parents can parent & are ready to take things on board which the GF does not seem able to do.

WabbitWabbit

Who has decided that she is not a good parent and can’t be with her children? If it is Social Services then I am sure that something official needs to be in place. I do think she should have been able to spend time with her children on Mothering Sunday.

thorsoak

WabbitWabbit wrote: »

Who has decided that she is not a good parent and can’t be with her children? If it is Social Services then I am sure that something official needs to be in place. I do think she should have been able to spend time with her children on Mothering Sunday.

If you go back to post 468, you will see that Mooloo wrote "My Son came in today to tell me he had had a visit from the health visitor and the social worker and they are suggesting that he doesn't wait until after the lads birthday to get out. They say he needs to do it now................. Of course there are going to be repercussions from the GF and her family, we will need the social worker to talk to the nursery about not letting the GF or her family to collect the lad."

WabbitWabbit

I still don’t understand why the children are not able to spend time with their mother. If Social Services feel that is the case then I am sure something legal needs to be in place, unless it is the mother is not kidnapping her own children..

thorsoak

Mooloo does not have to explain everything in detail on a public forum and in actual fact, she knows that she must not do so. This is Mooloo's story, not the story of her family (although of course, they do flit in and out of it).

JIL

WabbitWabbit wrote: »

I still don’t understand why the children are not able to spend time with their mother. If Social Services feel that is the case then I am sure something legal needs to be in place, unless it is the mother is not kidnapping her own children..

Perhaps the old saying walk a mile in my shoes is appropriate here?

You won't be able to understand from posts on here and neither should you. You just need to trust that social services and the police are involved and will do what is right.

I wish mooloo all the best, it is a very delicate situation.

Savvy_sewing

Already said I can't go into details.
So I will not be explaining.
Most people who follow my journey know that I follow and work with the advice from Social and on this occasion the Police. It is all about safe guarding the children not denying them to see the mum, although if she had not kicked off on Saturday she would have seen her children yesterday.
That's all I can say.
I am sure contact will be arranged in an appropriate children's centre etc with supervision.
The various debts are when DS was not living there. Debts in his name, we will have to agree payment plans as I cannot afford to pay them now, and having them here is going to impact on my expenses quite a bit.

pollyanna_26

JIL You took the words right out of my mouth . I remember using that walk in the shoes quote here a while ago .


WabbitWabbit If you truly don't understand try googling a little to educate yourself on the process . I've mentioned here a while ago that one of my dds is a senior safeguarding officer . How she and various associates wish they had magic wands and fairy dust so everything needed could be achieved in one day .
Cuts ,staff shortages make that impossible . There have to be case conferences between various agencies before any action can be agreed . Then solicitors and other legal teams need to be involved .
Please bear in mind it's only a week today since they came to Mooloo's and also that neither she or her son have refused contact at an arranged time . Now I think you must have had enough replies to lead you to your own research should you wish to do so .
Respect the privacy of all involved .
polly