Frump to Fab 2019 - Here We Go Again

sugarbaby125

Hello Ladies,

Happy Anniversary to you and your husband MaMan. I hope you both have a delicious meal tonight :heartpuls

I decided to resume my social life last Thursday and what a difference it has made to my overall ability to cope with my Arthritis pain and deal with my life on every level each day. :j:D I have had so much fun watching films at Odeon cinemas and having dance nights out.

My joy in my own life obviously makes me feel and look absolutely fabulous at the moment. :j It comes as a surprise to all of the men that find me attractive, that I do not drink as they always comment that my joy of dancing and the smile that is inevitably on my face makes me stand out. They are shocked when they find out that I am literally tee total and simply get high on life when I am listening to music that I simply can not sit still to.

Now that I am single, I enjoy men showing interest in me, asking me to dance and wanting to get to know me better.:D It is gratifying and flattering, but it is not the be all and end all of my life. I have 2 men in particular who would like me to start a relationship with them but I am holding back as I do not think that I am yet ready to open up to them in a fair way. :cool:

Remarkably, I still talk to Wayne and dance with him on occasion when I see him in the pub we are both regulars at. He still wants me back (more chance of him becoming a transgender woman :rotfl: ), but he has zero chance of that happening. I delight in reminding him that he chose to treat me disgracefully and can not be surprised that he lost me in the end.

On Saturday when I was in the pub looking sexy and fabulous Wayne was mesmerised, so was Tony ( a man I dated about 3 years ago for a month or so). I was wearing this lacy front plunging and almost backless halter neck Jane Norman black top with a M & S black lacy bra underneath which was necessary to try to protect my modesty. It is the most daring top that I own and Saturday was the 1st time I had the confidence to wear this top. I wore my black coast long swirly chiffon skirt. I wore solid gold jewellery and my gold plated Tissot watch with a black patent leather with gold cut outs Van Dal sling back shoes. I wore my lightweight black coat with gold lining and I was carrying my black patent leather with gold trim and clasp Osprey handbag. I wore clear nail polish on my fingernails and gold nail polish on my toenails. I layered my perfume with the matching body powder and body lotion and I wore black mascara, gold eye shadow and clear lip gloss.

On Sunday I looked a lot less glamorous because people do not over dress on Sunday dance nights at the wine bar, but was still attracting male attention. I danced with a really good dancer and also a man that has made it clear that he likes me since I first started going to this particular wine bar.

I was wearing a red, pink and white patterned skirt, my red v neck Kaleidoscope top with my white leather Van Dal sling back sandals, my white cotton cardigan and carried one of my red leather Osprey handbags. I was not wearing any make up but I layered my perfume with the matching body lotion and the body powder.

Conversely my Arthritis has settled down again, so being active in my social life works for my pleasure and for my Arthritis, so I will keep on enjoying my life without breaking into my savings

lessonlearned

Good for you SUgarbaby.....so glad the pain has subsided and you feel more like your old self. I do find my arthritis pain comes and goes. And yes, I agree, you don't need alcohol to have fun.

I never drink and drive and because I nearly always drive on my nights out I am to all intents and purposes tee total when I go out. It doesn't bothered me at all, I still have a great time.

I seem to have developed arthritis in one of my big toes, it's been very sore for the past couple of days and I can't wiggle it much. Hey ho. I'll still keep dancing. . :rotfl: I will dig out my paraffin wax footbath if it gets too bad. Just making do with voltarol for now.

Generally, the pain in my feet has been a lot easier since I lost weight though I think I need to go back to wearing copper insoles again. I know some people pooh pooh the idea of copper as a healing power but I find both my bangle and my shoe inserts very helpful.

Enjoyed my afternoon tea.....bit of a carb overload though. :rotfl: will need to fast a bit tomorrow.

The cafe was part of a farm shop complex. I bought organic eggs and had a good look at their meat.......all organic and farm reared. Surprisingly low prices. The meat looked very good so I think I will give it a whirl. You know where it is sourced, how it is reared, and that the animals are treated well.

This is something that is becoming increasingly more important to me, not just because I have a soft heart and can't stand cruelty to neither man nor beast but because I also believe that good quality unadulturated food is better for human health.

I love the produce at the Chatsworth farm shop but where I went today was much nearer to home and tbh a bit cheaper too. So worth a try. No game or venison but I can still buy that when I next visit Chatsworth at Christmas.

Still feeling a tad chilly. Definitely an autumn nip in the air......

maman

Wow! That outfit on Saturday night sounds hugely glamorous sugarbaby. I loved your post, so positive and full of joy. :T

I think many people are turning to quality meats but in smaller portions LL. So the cost can stay fairly similar and it's probably healthier too. We have a very upmarket butcher near here that has a good sense of humour. When the horsemeat scandal was on he had a poster outside saying 'Save the New Forest ponies. Buy your meat here!:D'

Thanks for your good wishes. We had a really lovely time last night. It's a restaurant that we keep for special occasions so don't get bored with the menu. I did wear my spotty Zara dress and DH was very complimentary.:):love:

It was a dry, bright but not particularly warm evening so I decided to wear a slip underneath my dress as it's quite light and floaty. I've not worn a petticoat for an age. I've kept some of various lengths mainly to wear with skirts/tights that have static. Anyone else wear or even own petticoats?;)

Today we have a tiler and a plumber here. The tiler (he did ask) has a music station on the radio so there's noise as well as mess.:(

I'm off to the dental hygienist in a moment and tomorrow we're out for lunch. It's good to escape.

lessonlearned

Funny how construction workers cannot function without a radio blaring out.....:rotfl: bad enough to have to put up with the expense, mess and disruption but add the inane drivel of your average DJ and I could climb the walls.....good idea to escape.

Well I've bitten the bullet and ordered my new windows.,.....I have to wait until October. I know the window guy. He's done work for me before. He does a good job and charges a fair price so I'm prepared to wait.

I have decided not to replace the gas fire for now. I think the windows will make a huge difference to both my comfort and the fuel bills.

Maman I think I might copy your idea of fairy lights and candles and just save using the fire for when it's really cold if I need it. It works perfectly well and it does look pretty. It does seem extravagant to get rid of it just because it's doesn't conform to modern standards of efficiency. I can always change my mind.

I might paint the fire surround when I decorate. Sounds sacriligous I know, but it's not real wood, only a fake mahogany veneer on chipboard so I have no scruples about painting it.:rotfl: i think it would look much better. The actual insert is black cast iron stamped with Edwardian style motifs of flowers and fruit etc. It is lovely so revamping the surround would enhance it. As it is I think the fake wood cheapens it.

Very dull, damp and miserable here and actually quite chilly again. Storms are forecast. Let's hope we get a nice Indian summer. I'm not quite ready for autumn just yet.:o

Just nipping out to Asda and then one final purge to finish loading the skip. They remove it on Friday so I may as well load it to the gunnels....:rotfl:

Elmo_luvs_you

Hello everyone

I have rediscovered the mse forums after many many years, and I'd like to join in here.
I'm trying to simplify my life - declutter, buy less things, focus more on experiences, etc.

I'm actually super proud of my progress since the beginning of last year, but I want to keep going and continue to develop good habits

crazy_cat_lady

Hello lovely people :hello:
I have been directed over here by some lovely readers of my diary, who have taken pity on me and my non existent self esteem and suggested that this may be the place for me.
I see that there are 107 pages of the thread so it may take me some time to read it all through, but I will introduce myself briefly (or as briefly as I ever manage).
I am in my early 40's, recently divorced after about 16 years in a relationship which was never particularly good for me. Whilst the divorce is through, the financials are not sorted and the court 'battle' is dragging out and costing thousands.
I have 2 children aged 14 and 10, work as a teacher full time and a senior examiner for about 4 months of the year (Christmas and Summer). I'm financially independent, strong and will try my hand at anything, but I have very little time or regard for myself. I'm overweight and basically look and feel awful most of the time. Non existent self esteem and constant 'fear' of being judged by other people (my anxiety). Very smart and self aware but just not looking after myself well enough. I want to feel better about myself and apparently this is the place to start. No pressure everyone :rotfl:
Looking forward to getting to know you all :coffee:

maddiemay

I should be getting ready to go out and hopefully will post later, but just wanted to say a quick hello and welcome to Elmo and CCL, this is a friendly and happy place to hang out whilst trying to make progress with self esteem, appearance etc.:)

Elmo_luvs_you

I realise, after reading crazy_cat_lady's post that I didn't say much about myself.

I'm 32, I work as a hostess in a new care home. We're getting busier but are understaffed so I work hard and am tired quite a lot. I try to make the most of my days off.

I'm relatively recently divorced too (fortunately we had very little connecting us - no kids, no property and no finances to quarrel over) - but splitting with my husband was the kick I needed to put self care first.

I don't like to spend money on myself. Especially on things like hair cuts, or decent lingerie (last Summer I actually cried with guilt after investing in some desperately needed new bras).

Elmo_luvs_you

Hello maddiemay
Thank you, I'm excited! And I'm going to start right now by giving myself a little pedicure ^_^

lessonlearned

Hello to our newbies. You are both very welcome to our gang.

Give us 6 months and I promise you, you will be transformed.......lots of TLC and self care and you will be kissing the Frump goodbye for ever. I guarantee that you will soon start to reap the benefits and start feeling better and happier in your skin.

Well today is cancelled,.it's now descended into a filthy day, chucking it down and apparently storms are on the way. I ve just checked and it's 13C out there......no wonder I felt chilly.

So I'm going to forget Asda and battling the wind and the rain. I'm going nowhere:rotfl: I'm going to catch up with some handsewing and a little light dusting and then some paperwork needs my attention, cook something nice and maybe watch a chick flick later.

A perfect winters day. :rotfl::rotfl: