Frump to Fab 2019 - Here We Go Again

humptydumptybits

I'm a hopeless case with umbrellas, I lose them as quick as I get them. Well I gave up on them years ago, sometimes you have to accept something isn't for you.


Maman I need to have a sort out of the airing cupboard. I was just saying to dh that we aren't going camping again, like we haven't in 25 years, so it is probably time the old sleeping bags went. He agreed, I think he might be some sort of alien that just looks like my husband. I think I might buy some new bed linen in the autumn.

lessonlearned

Wahaaaaaay. The sun is back but with much gentler temperatures forecast, low to mid 20s. Perfick.

Good morning lovely ladies.

Feeling stiff and sore again but happy and cheerful. Going to try and book a massage for tomorrow. Also need to book a car service and apparently one of the brake lights isn't working.

My son is coming this morning to tweak the inside fitments to the wardrobes and lift some heavy items for me. He will also help me switch energy providers. I did a quick search yesterday and I can probably save around the £200 mark, so worth doing.

This evening I'm off out with a friend to see "Yesterday". I fell in love with John Lennon when I was 13. My first love.:rotfl: there's nothing like first love is there, it stays with you forever I still have a great fondness for the Beatles music.

My first real life kiss was with a boy called Paul. We went out together for 2 months and then he dumped me. My first broken heart. I was 14. :rotfl: Sweet memories.

I've got a nice social week planned.

I'm currently reading "Yes Man". Not quite what I expected because his "yeses" are totally random. He says "yes" to absolutely everything, no matter how bizarre and often he knows in advance it's not going to turn out well but the terms of his self imposed contract means he has no get out clause. But as the book progresses he's starting to learn some valuable lessons.

It's written for comic effect of course and he knows how to embroider a story. It has made me chuckle but it has also made me think. (To me always the mark of a good book).

It made me think about how life can often seem like a series of unrelated coincidences but in reality actions do have consequences, some unintended and some unexpected, but always there are forces at work.

.....Oooooh a bit deep for a Monday morning. :rotfl:

But it reminded me of the power of that little word "yes" and how it can transform our lives.

It is exactly how I met my husband.

One Monday evening there was a knock at my door at around 7pm. It was two girlfriends inviting me to go to the local pub with them. I really didn't want to go. I declined but they badgered me until I caved in. I sent them off with a promise to join them later. I faffed around and eventually rocked up at around 9pm. I made no effort other than a bath and washing my hair. Casually dressed and no make up.

And there he was......:rotfl:

It only occurred to me the other day, after reading "Yes Man" how different my life would have been if I had stuck with "No".

maman

That's a lovely story LL. Thanks for sharing it with us.:)

It's lovely here again today.

I seem to be obsessed with washing at the moment, taking full advantage of lovely drying weather. Yesterday I washed a throw and some cushion covers after I'd done the bedding. My plan is to do my loose covers on the sitting room sofas and the bedroom curtains over the next few weeks so they're all fresh for the autumn. It's not the washing that's a problem though but they have to be ironed.:(

I'm out dancing tonight. This is a sort of 'pop up' group that just meets in the summer while the usual classes are closed. It's a mix of people and a good standard of dancing. I'm hoping I'll to wear one of my summer skirts. I've been avoiding them as anything pressing on my (too fat because of holiday gain ) stomach has been uncomfortable but I think I'm getting back to normal at last.

Have a good day all, whatever you're up to.:)

Wednesday2000

My husband is on the late shift this week so I'm going to finish up watching The Real Housewives of Atlanta. I think I have about 6 episodes left of that series.

I'm going to use my facial brush, pore strip, exfoliator and moisturiser. I'm also going to use my foot spa and start my teeth whitening today.:)

humptydumptybits wrote: »

I'm a hopeless case with umbrellas, I lose them as quick as I get them. Well I gave up on them years ago, sometimes you have to accept something isn't for you.

My husband constantly loses his at work!

melodyladygunslinger

Good morning everyone. I hope you have all had a good week, even with the really got weather🌞

Had a very mixed week this week. My weight was going ok and I was finally going back down. Unfortunately that time of the month hit on Friday so I gained a bit of weight but i expected it but i was still lighter than I was last week. However, I weighed myself this morning and I'm heavier than before so I'm depressed and really hate myself again:(

Had a very emotional day yesterday as I met my birth Dad for the first time. We met up for a coffee in our local garden centre and had a chat for over 3 hours. Lots of past stories and catching up. I'm very happy to have found him and hope that we continue talking to each other:j It did affect my sleep as my brain could not turn off so I'm exhausted today. I also had zumba class so my legs feel like dead weights now:p

So all in all I'm not in a good place mentally or physically to say and I don't know what to do about it

lessonlearned

Melody.....you don't have to "do" anything.

You just have to "be".

Trust me........that's how the process works.

It's all about acceptance and love. I know that might be hard for you to believe right now but honestly, this fabbing stuff works. Not quite sure how but give it time and it will transform your life.

I'm not trying to pull rank and say I had it rougher than you......that's just plain daft but I think it's fair to say that at the beginning of my journey, when I started this thread, I was in very dark place. I couldn't see light at the end of the tunnel, I just had to have faith that it was there.

Have faith and be patient. Keep a brave heart and a open mind. And trust yourself. You are stronger than you know.

I'm glad you met up with your birth father and that the meeting went well. That's HUGE. No wonder you couldnt don't sleep afterwards. But reconnecting with your father will help you of that I'm sure.

Now down to business.......

You will have heard the one about how a 1000 mile journey starts with one step....

Well here's something that builds on that saying and takes it to another level.

Whenever you feel like throwing in the towel and giving up remember the following. It helped me when I was in that long dark tunnel.

"Success begins with one step, and then another and then another. No matter how long your journey seems, if you take enough steps in the right direction, you WILL eventually arrive at your destination and truly, you will have the life you've always wanted".

As Churchill said......"Never, never give up".

He also said "when you are walking through hell, you have to keep going".

The difference between success and failure is the ability to stay focussed on your goals and not to let setbacks derail you. To be able to roll with the punches, to pick yourself up, again and again and again and again........

No matter how long it takes.

Have you ever watched a baby learning to walk. How many times do they stumble and fall, how many times do they get back up and try again. They just keep going until they achieve success.

When you fall off the wagon, get back on it. If you falter and stumble and fall, then get back up again.....no matter how many times it takes.

Rome wasnt built in a day.

It usually takes years of neglect to become a frump. It doesn't just happen overnight so it will take at least several months, if not years to defrump. It's difficult to ditch old bad habits and replace them with new better ones. It takes time.

We are often our own worst enemy. We endlessly criticise ourselves and we judge ourselves harshly.

We would never speak to our loved ones the way we sometimes speak to ourselves. We would never tell our children that they are fat, ugly and useless. Instead we would gently encourage them to do better, to reach their full potential. We would speak kind words of comfort and encouragement to boost their confidence and maybe just the occasional gentle persuasion when they need a kick up the derrière.:rotfl:

I think we have to treat ourselves with the same respect and courtesy we show to others, and we need to shower ourselves with the same TLC that we give to our partners and children.

My advice......be kind to yourself. Don't put unrealistic time pressures on yourself and don't take it to heart when you falter.

It's a long journey, so enjoy it, take the scenic route and try to enjoy the ride. It's not just about the destination, it's about how you travel.

What's the point in being a perfect size 10 if you have had to torture yourself to achieve it. Instead of being fat and miserable, you
will just be thin and miserable and your life won't have changed.

Losing weight won't necessarily make you happy, but being happy might help you lose weight.

Work on the happiness first. Do things that give you pleasure, focus on the good stuff, make the small changes, build new better habits.

One small step at a time.

And if you fall by the wayside......well you know what to do.

Just start again..... no matter how many times you have to do so.

Oh......

And .......


Remember the elephant:rotfl:

humptydumptybits

Wednesday2000 wrote: »

My husband is on the late shift this week so I'm going to finish up watching The Real Housewives of Atlanta. I think I have about 6 episodes left of that series.

I'm going to use my facial brush, pore strip, exfoliator and moisturiser. I'm also going to use my foot spa and start my teeth whitening today.:)



My husband constantly loses his at work!

There must be a huge stash of lost umbrellas somewhere. Fortunately I quite like the rain and arriving home like a drowned rat doesn't bother me, I always say I was designed for the climate on the west coast of Ireland and it does rain there from time to time.:rotfl:


Happy with ebay today, added £200 to my savings, might have a bit more but left some in my paypal account to pay my fees for the month and I have probably over estimated but I'd rather do that than have a nasty shock. I'm taking a break for August just because I can't have piles of stuff everywhere with the GC about but September here I come. Does anyone know what ebay is like round Christmas and New Year, do people spend or is it better to wait till people have recovered from Christmas spending?


My BTL goes on the market in two weeks, well hopefully unless the tenant has left it in a mess and I have to do some work before we can market it. The agent did a visit and said it looked OK so fingers crossed.


No rain yet but it looks like we might get some so I can go out and dance in the rain which will be fun.


Hope everyone is well, Melody hope you are feeling a bit brighter, it is probably the hormones and you will feel fighting fit in a day or two and your weight will sort it self out. Good luck.

lessonlearned

Had to share.....

Had a bit of a prang in the car in the cinema car park of all places. Not sure how it happened, I think the sun dazzled me. Anyway I misjudged a weird curb arrangement, with a drop of several feet on the left hand side. The car somehow got wedged and I had to have a tow truck to get it lifted off.

I was a bit shaken but am fine.....it could have been so much worse if the car hadn't got wedged and had fallen into the drop on the left hand side. The truck driver said the car seems to have escaped unscathed too, although of course it will have to be checked out properly.

How lucky am I. Someone, somewhere is definitely watching over me.:A.

Anyway once the car had been towed away we went to the cinema as planned to see "Yesterday". Great little film.

So all my plans for the next couple of days are now in disarray. I'll have to do some rescheduling.

No worries, there's nothing spoiling.

maman

So glad you're safe LL . That's the most important thing.:)

lessonlearned

Thanks Maman.

Slept ok, but feel absolutely dreadful this morning, probably delayed shock.

The insurance company have this arrangement where the tow truck had to deliver the car to my home rather than take it to a garage so now I have to get the insurance company to sort out an inspection.

It can be driven and the tow truck guy couldn't see any visible damage underneath but it really needs checking .....

What a performance. It would have been much easier all round if it had been taken to a garage. The last thing I feel like this morning is having to sort it all out. Hey ho, it's nothing in the grand scale of things. Just a minor setback.

Of course it would be when I've got a really busy week.

I'm supposed to be taking some of the Venezuelan lot to Alton Towers on Saturday (not my favourite place, in fact I hate it:rotfl:) but they are looking to me for transport.

What a headache.....literally. I have got a splitting headache and feel really queasy this morning......I feel like crawling back into bed and staying there for a week until it's all over.....:rotfl:

On a more positive note......I changed my energy provider yesterday and saved some money. Plus because I went through Compare the Market I got the 2 for 1 meerkat deal.

So not all bad......;)