Advice on girlfriend needed

Blackbeard_of_Perranporth

Turf her out. She is idle and would only want to spend money.

NBLondon

onomatopoeia99 wrote: »

Mind you, a woman that could cope with my closest friends being other women wouldn't be worth dating anyway.

Did you mean could or couldn't there? M'wife seems to have coped with the fact that I had (and still have) more close female friends than close male friends for 20+ years. In fact, she says it was a good sign.

But back to the OP. I agree, it may be depression and obviously he wants to help. But the question of when you discover you can't fix the problem and maybe have to decide you can't afford to subsidise it any more is a really tough one. Hope you can help her sort things out before you reach that point.

rachel6188

Hi,
I don't usually post here but I thought I should.
Myself and my oh have been together 13 years next month. We were 18/19 when we met. 3 months after we got together I became unwell with bowel obstructions and issues with pain. I have had depression since about 12 months after I got ill and he has stuck by me through it all. He was the one who originally made me go the doctors and tbh he has issues with anxiety and we work through it all together. I would suggest sit down and have a proper talk she needs to see the doctor even if it's just to rule out depression.
5 years a long relationship to throw away but also she does need to get herself sorted out even if it's counselling suggested by them. I wish you luck hun and I hope you are both OK xx

Red-Squirrel_2

NBLondon wrote: »

Did you mean could or couldn't there? M'wife seems to have coped with the fact that I had (and still have) more close female friends than close male friends for 20+ years. In fact, she says it was a good sign.

I agree, it means you see women as actual people!

I think it would be rare these days for a woman to be bothered about a male partner having female friends.

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She has to go ! My partner and I divorced in 2011...she was the main breadwinner and I chipped in for half the bills etc but holidays and treats she paid for...I took that for granted at the time and...hence she got fed up with me not trying to get a better paid job and doing my fair share of chores etc so she said on yer bike ! Fast forward 4 years and we re- married ...only on the terms that I do 50% of chores etc and I get a better job...which I have. During our divorce years I bought a flat. On getting married again I sold the flat and made funny enough £60k on it. I've put £25k back into the house that we have...the price she bought me out for in 2011. Now if I had spent that profit on myself...my beelix would now be in a pickle jar and we'd be divorced again. If your partner had put that money down as a deposit on a flat and you both moved in and worked...you'd probably be a happy couple....but after reading your story I believe you have no future whatsoever....if she has a sniff of that kind of money again she'll spend it again....on herself because she doesn't give a toss about you I'm afraid. Pack up your gear and move on...it's the only way.