Your biggest regret

davenport151

Thank you SandraX and Ilona for the correction!

Lets put it another way. Life is too short for regrets. We make choices based on the information and knowledge we have at the time. In hindsight maybe we would have done things differently.
Sometimes those seemingly wrong choices take us to something good that would not have happened if we had chosen the other option.

moneyistooshorttomention

Well another way to put it is sometimes we make choices because of societal pressure, our hormones or a "drink too many"....

I expect we've all made choices due to at least one of those reasons...:cool:

There is another side to this as well - those choices where we were sensible enough to make the correct decision and have come to see (over the years since) JUST how disastrous "the other choice" would have been for us. In my own case - I thank heaven frequently I had the sense not to marry my first boyfriend (or I'd have been stuck out in the Middle East in his country with him and almost certainly got divorced before long).

Yesterday's "Thank goodness" was that I was daft enough to temporarily contemplate going into the womens armed forces briefly when a teenager - eg be a Wren. Thank goodness I had the sense to change my mind pdq on that and landed up in the peace movement instead.

silverspirit

Davenport is right, hindsight is a wonderful thing

silverspirit

I cannot do thanks, there are posts I want to thank, maybe because I am new

SandraX

Sorry Davenport - I did hesitate but for some reason was convinced you was a male, apologies again

thorsoak

Eight years ago, I bitterly regretted that it had taken us too long to find our downsized retirement home, as my much loved OH was reluctant to take on somewhere with a "normal" sized garden after our half acre. He was only able to enjoy it for 2 years before he succumbed to pancreatic cancer - a wicked cancer which took him within eight weeks of diagnosis.

Now, eight years on, with No 3 son & wife having just had twins, and needing to save and buy a bigger house, this bungalow with its still bl**dy big garden is the solution to their problems - I am selling it to them and will then build a granny annexe in the back garden.

Win-win solution - they will have another pair of hands to help with the twins, a bigger house and garden - at 75% of its value (son's "share" of any inheritance) I - now aged 75 - will have someone close by if and when I need some help - and my other 3 children are more than happy with the situation. And it wouldn't have happened if I'd pressured my OH to go for something with a smaller garden!

SandraX

thorsoak wrote: »

Eight years ago, I bitterly regretted that it had taken us too long to find our downsized retirement home, as my much loved OH was reluctant to take on somewhere with a "normal" sized garden after our half acre. He was only able to enjoy it for 2 years before he succumbed to pancreatic cancer - a wicked cancer which took him within eight weeks of diagnosis.

Now, eight years on, with No 3 son & wife having just had twins, and needing to save and buy a bigger house, this bungalow with its still bl**dy big garden is the solution to their problems - I am selling it to them and will then build a granny annexe in the back garden.

Win-win solution - they will have another pair of hands to help with the twins, a bigger house and garden - at 75% of its value (son's "share" of any inheritance) I - now aged 75 - will have someone close by if and when I need some help - and my other 3 children are more than happy with the situation. And it wouldn't have happened if I'd pressured my OH to go for something with a smaller garden!

Looks like you had a great hubby, have a great family that and a family that is sensible as too many children want to get away from their parents and pay hideous prices for nanny care/etc, cost they can ill afford.

Good luck with your plans and please ensure your bathroom is a wet room so it will see you to the ends of oyou days in 50 years plus, time

MEM62

SandraX wrote: »

What regret/s do you have?

I only have one - not marrying the love of my life. 30 Years have passed since and I still think of it.

gabriel1980

cheating in past relationships

moneyistooshorttomention

MEM62 wrote: »

I only have one - not marrying the love of my life. 30 Years have passed since and I still think of it.

That is sad:(.

Do you mind my asking why you didn't?

Is there any way you might be able to "put the clock back on that" (ie you could get in touch with them again) - or have they married someone else since?