Your biggest regret

MEM62

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

That is sad:(.

Do you mind my asking why you didn't?

Is there any way you might be able to "put the clock back on that" (ie you could get in touch with them again) - or have they married someone else since?

I wanted to see the world so left to live in the USA.

She is married with two children. I am also in a relationship and happy - although I did spend more than 20 years as a single man before my OH and I met.

I don't feel sad about it but I cannot look back on it without regretting the choices I made at that time. I should be clear that that in no way is indicative on anything missing or lacking in my current relationship - just a case of when reflecting on the past I view it as something that should have been but wasn't.

pickledonionspaceraider

Allowing my parents and sister to treat me like a second class citizen for decades - and not having the balls to do anything about it.

I could have saved myself decades of drama if I had more confidence and spoken up

SandraX

pickledonionspaceraider wrote: »

Allowing my parents and sister to treat me like a second class citizen for decades - and not having the balls to do anything about it.

I could have saved myself decades of drama if I had more confidence and spoken up

su

Though you suffered for decades, but now realising this makes a stronger person. A person that could point people in the right direction if you noted that kind of abuse.

Stay strong and never let it happen to you again

x

steph2901

I regret a boyfriend I had when I was young, he could be mentally abusive at times and I was naïve.

There are other things I would've done differently, not necessarily regrets though.

pickledonionspaceraider

SandraX wrote: »

su

Though you suffered for decades, but now realising this makes a stronger person. A person that could point people in the right direction if you noted that kind of abuse.

Stay strong and never let it happen to you again

x

Thank you

What a nice person you are x

Robisere

Treating two former partners badly, hasten to say without physical or mental abuse. The first I don't feel too bad about, as it turned out she was seeing someone else whilst I had just joined the Army. She was obviously unfaithful, as she became pregnant by the guy, more than 10 years her senior.


The second was many years later and is the shame and regret of my life. She had two boys that I got on with, she was lovely, AFAIK totally faithful but I could not make up my mind. At the time I was living with and caring for elderly and ill parents. The dad I loved with all my heart was dying with cancer, I was working and running the home: washing, ironing, shopping, cooking, cleaning and running their finances. Eventually things reached a head, when her eldest lad (18) turned out to be gay and had stolen money, valuables and bank cards in burglaries with his much older lover. His mum found all the stuff in his room and he broke her nose. I came in just as it had happened. I made a right mess of him, which I also deeply regret. We returned all the stolen property and gave him up to the law.


After dad died, I met the wonderful lady who has been my wife for almost 30 years. But I still recall those two women with shame and have tried to live my life with a lovely close family as well as I can.

SandraX

Robisere
I hope you sharing your thoughts here has made your heart a little lighter.

You are not alone, we all make mistakes


xx

newatc

So many regrets, i envy those who say they only look forward.

Not learning more skills in my youth covers a number. Being braver when dealing with relationships (never ended a relationship well) and a few will haunt me for ever.

There are few things on the other side of the equation which i try to remember.

AubreyMac

I regret sacrificing too much of myself which in turn affected my health for a former job. I was appreciated by my managers and colleagues but a re-structure had it that performance counted for nothing and I lost that job anyway.


I also regret two things about a former partner of mine. First was pressuring him to choose between me and his son from a previous relationship (he chose me), and wasting 7 years of my life with him.

butter_peanut

Hi all. I'm new here. I joined because I was looking for money advice. I've been a long time reader but not wrote anything until I read these posts. They are all very moving. My positive energy to you all.

I regret a lots of things I have done. There are things I have changed since having made those mistakes because of my actions in the past.
Regrets and mistakes I made will live with me but I must not dwell on them or repeat them.
I make it a point to tell my family I love them. I really do mean it when I tell them.

Peace and love and good thoughts to you all.