My sister is getting married in New Zealand..

acp94

Red-Squirrel wrote: »

To be fair to your sister she lives in Australia and is getting married in New Zealand. It’s not like she lives here and is wanting to get married on the other side of the world for the fun of it.

I’m sure you would have anyway, but bear in mind that if anybody declines to attend your wedding for similar reasons you will have to be very gracious about it!

Yep I do agree, it is her home so I get why she wants to marry there.

I would be completely understanding if my sister, for example as it would be the same scenario distance wise, was unable to come to my wedding. It's a very special day, but I'd never want someone to be in debt just to make it.

Gloomendoom

Red-Squirrel wrote: »

To be fair to your sister she lives in Australia and is getting married in New Zealand. It’s not like she lives here and is wanting to get married on the other side of the world for the fun of it.!

acp94 wrote: »

Yep I do agree, it is her home so I get why she wants to marry there.

Australia is her home, not New Zealand. They are two separate countries, thousands of miles apart.

If she wants to get married abroad (from Australia) and would like her family to attend, why not get married in the UK?

Mojisola

Gloomendoom wrote: »

Australia is her home, not New Zealand. They are two separate countries, thousands of miles apart.

If she wants to get married abroad (from Australia) and would like her family to attend, why not get married in the UK?

Maybe her husband-to-be comes from New Zealand?

acp94

Mojisola wrote: »

Maybe her husband-to-be comes from New Zealand?

It is a long story, he is an Aussie but did spend alot of him time in NZ.

I know my sister has her reasons for wanting to marry there, and it's not my decision to dispute those.

I'm hoping we can get some time to talk whilst shes visiting the UK in the next few weeks and maybe see if she understands my financial situation. Hopefully she will and it will help making my decision alot easier!

Sncjw

If they insist on you both going. Tell them your finances then if they insist more tell them you pay for me to go then.

That will shut them up.

Mischiefmanaged

I married abroad 8 years ago. 10 people including me, dh and 2 dd's attended. There was a lot of family that couldn't come and nearly all for financial reasons and I absolutely understood the reason why. I remember my best friends saying she was going to get a loan to come and I asked her not too.

If people don't understand your situation it says a lot more about them than you and I certainly wouldn't be giving too much of a detailed explanation.

Until you speak to your sister you won't know what get reaction will be. She may be understanding, you never know. If I was in your shoes though I would expect my parents to understand especially if they know of your own situation.

Gloomendoom

We got married in the UK but family from Oz (including my wife's sister) did make the the effort to to come over. They could afford it but we would have understood and accepted it if they had said they couldn't come.

We travel back and forth regularly but is is time consuming and expensive.