any housewives out there?

fibonarchie

onlyroz wrote: »

Hmmm no. We both work full time. We do use childcare but have also asked for flexible hours to minimise the amount needed (at the moment my daughter goes to the after school club 3 days a week and I pick her up at 6pm. My son is now a teenager so can look after himself). Housework and laundry gets done a bit at a time (e.g. wipe down the kitchen after cooking, wipe down the sink after washing, run the hoover round a few times a week, give the bathroom a deeper clean maybe once a month, do a laundry load when the basket gets full). Cooking is shared between us. Gardening is a pleasant summer activity that we all enjoy. The only jobs I "hire out" would be household repairs or improvements that I doubt a traditional housewife would tackle anyway.

6pm is about the time a 9 year old should be sitting down to have supper, not being picked up from daycare after a very long day by a harried parent who probably hasn't even started cooking the family meal yet..

And as for leaving a teenager to his own devices, you might want to educate yourself on the dangers of unsupervised internet use for children.

Here's some reading to get you started:

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Dark-Net-Jamie-Bartlett/dp/0099592029/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1534927171&sr=8-1&keywords=the+dark+net

https://www.huffingtonpost.com/suren-ramasubbu/teenagers-and-the-internet_b_7012050.html?guccounter=1

https://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/home-news/choking-game-parents-warn-of-choking-game-craze-after-death-of-12-year-old-son-a7067256.html

and as for cleaning the bathroom once a month.. :rotfl::rotfl:
I think your post describes perfectly how necessary it is to have a housewife there, not how unnecessary!

pickledonionspaceraider

fibonarchie - are you a housewife, yourself?

Red-Squirrel_2

fibonarchie wrote: »

6pm is about the time a 9 year old should be sitting down to have supper, not being picked up from daycare after a very long day by a harried parent who probably hasn't even started cooking the family meal yet..

And as for leaving a teenager to his own devices, you might want to educate yourself on the dangers of unsupervised internet use for children.

Here's some reading to get you started:

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Dark-Net-Jamie-Bartlett/dp/0099592029/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1534927171&sr=8-1&keywords=the+dark+net

https://www.huffingtonpost.com/suren-ramasubbu/teenagers-and-the-internet_b_7012050.html?guccounter=1

https://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/home-news/choking-game-parents-warn-of-choking-game-craze-after-death-of-12-year-old-son-a7067256.html

and as for cleaning the bathroom once a month.. :rotfl::rotfl:
I think your post describes perfectly how necessary it is to have a housewife there, not how unnecessary!

Still claiming you aren't just winding us up? :cool:

Red-Squirrel_2

I really want to know what people who believe women should stop working when they have children say when their daughters tell them they want to be a doctor or an astronaut, or a judge or a hairdresser or a florist or a scientist or the prime minister.

pickledonionspaceraider

And, at what age for your children - does being a housewife become just being lazy? I mean when there is no childcare to be done


I know of a lady who stopped working when she was pregnant, and never did again, and her youngest is 20 now


The husband however has had to work longer hours for the last two decades.

lisyloo

does being a housewife become just being lazy?

What's wrong with being lazy if you aren't asking the state for benefits?


If the husband has a good job, then often the wife would be doing other duties e.g. keeping up the house, garden, company accounts, acting as a PA, taking the car in for a service, planning their social life etc.

The husband however has had to work longer hours for the last two decades.

Why is that anyone else's business?


Did he have to work long hours to earn the money or was it what his job demanded?


I'd love to go part-time but my job in IT demands full time plus weekends.


Most of the time people don't choose their working hours but have to do what the business demands.

pickledonionspaceraider

lisyloo wrote: »

Why is that anyone else's business?


Did he have to work long hours to earn the money or was it what his job demanded?


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I would like to tell you, but it is no one else's business (your words)

lisyloo

Great answer :-)



I'd just say that there are often explanations beyond the obvious (he's hardworking, she's lazy).
Sometimes one person's earning power can mean it makes sense for one person to maximise earning and the other to support them with all the chores.


But it's up to them (if they aren't asking for handouts).
If they want taxpayers money then it is our business as taxpayers.

fibonarchie

Red-Squirrel wrote: »

Still claiming you aren't just winding us up? :cool:

I take it you've read the links, then?

maman

pickledonionspaceraider wrote: »

The husband however has had to work longer hours for the last two decades.

lisyloo wrote: »

Why is that anyone else's business?


Did he have to work long hours to earn the money or was it what his job demanded?


I'd love to go part-time but my job in IT demands full time plus weekends.


Most of the time people don't choose their working hours but have to do what the business demands.

I'd agree that it's for the couple to decide what suits them best.


But as you said yourself you would like to work part time but your line of business doesn't allow for it.


This contrasts with another poster who could only afford to be a 'housewife' because her partner worked long hours and overtime to fund it. I read that as 'voluntary' overtime. While it's none of my business (other than that the thread invites opinions on the subject) I would say that the decision has to suit both parties in a partnership. It seems very unfair for one to be working additional hours just for the other to sit at home. Or worse still IMO sit at home and make out they never stop.


That, of course, is unless you subscribe to the theory that being a housewife is a full time job.