Best dating sites

Single_Dad_Still

Hi, thanks everyone for your posts/advice.

I guess it's difficult knowing what level to come in at...i don't want to come across as only looking for one night stands (i'm definitely not) but also don't want to come across to serious.

I might try signing up to some of the other sites suggested and see if i get any more luck.

Part of the problem is i have absolutely no pictures of me to show, other than the one 'selfie' profile picture i took (which i hate so god knows what other people must think lol)

Are pictures really that important?

PeacefulWaters

Are pictures really that important?

They can certainly be a first impression, yes.

I'd suggest getting three or four together to share online, ideally not selfies. Ideally just you in the images.

Beyond that, messaging one or two short paragraphs at a time. Be yourself. Nothing lewd or suggestive. Give up if you don't receive a reply and move on.

It might be a game of great patience or you might get lucky. It might even be both.

caprikid1

Pictures are massively important do you look at them ? We start of with looking at the pictures and work from there. Most will exclude profiles with no pictures from their search.


Get a close female friend to either take some or go through your library of pictures.


I found one or two pictures that seemed to work and binned the rest, one bad picture can put people off.


Its a shallow world out there but everyone still wants that initial physical attraction.

NineDeuce

halogen wrote: »

yeah possibly I'm not. I'm sure some of the rare other women on there are and there is always general discusssion on the forums there about the % of men who think 'fill this in later' is a good profle.

Yeah, possibly the de facto name of that group is 'Women who arent worth the hassle'.

steph2901

I met my husband on POF nearly five years ago, we've been married nearly three years.

I also know others who met their husband/wife on dating sites, so they do really work.

But you must have photos or you give the impression you have something to hide (married, living with someone, not who you say you are etc)

vesper

I met my other half on POF and have had several friends that met their partners on dating websites. But its the case of being patient and sifting through the chancers. I found that I was mostly getting short comments or people that were just after one thing and didn't even take the time to read my profile properly.
Don't just put the usual in your profile, find something unique about yourself and put that in, that way if someone messages you and mentions that unique thing they really have took the time to read through properly. My other half was the first one to comment on my unique hobby and showed a real interest in it and that was what got us talking.


The day we got talking, I had only signed in to take myself off the site as I was really sick of people messaging me for only one thing. There are quite a lot of creeps on there, so just be patient.
My other half said the same thing, all the girls that he messaged were just on there for a bit of fun. But there are genuine people on there.

scaredofdebt

Met my wife on Match.com, now married 8 years with a 3 year old son.

Tried other sites at the same time and Match was the one with most genuine people on it, in my experience.

Obviously my experience is quite a long time ago now, so treat accordingly.

HealthyGirl

Thank you everyone for the advice and info, it's great to read other people's perspectives. I now plan to revise my profile and maybe my pics.

Some of my friends have been successful on Match and POF. Both sexes seem to have 'met' a few odd types or been sent lots of explicit photos on POF. And ladies who are a similar size to me, (size 22) have had abusive comments about their size so I've signed up for the free version of BBWCupid.
I've been single for eons so I'm out of practice regarding dating. I haven't been doing online dating very long - so far it seems to take quite a lot of time to respond to all the messages. I feel I should reply, even if it is only one of the 'two word' ones like Hey Sexy.
I'm sure there are genuine people on the site, fingers crossed I cross paths with them.
Good luck to everyone else currently searching.
:wave:

steph2901

There are genuine people on there, but there are also a lot of weirdos and people after only one thing! I wasn't on there long, but in the short time I was, I had some very odd messages, inappropriate photos, "hey sexy" messages, some just saying "sex?" and some old enough to be my grandad!

Luckily my now husband had read through my profile and sent a lovely message that made me want to reply to him

Good luck on whichever site you pick.

DUTR

steph2901 wrote: »

There are genuine people on there, but there are also a lot of weirdos and people after only one thing! I wasn't on there long, but in the short time I was, I had some very odd messages, inappropriate photos, "hey sexy" messages, some just saying "sex?" and some old enough to be my grandad!

Luckily my now husband had read through my profile and sent a lovely message that made me want to reply to him

Good luck on whichever site you pick.

POF limits to plus or minus 16, I hear some women are on there for just the same one thing, but I have not encountered any of the profiles lol.