An update on me

dekaspace

Tabbytabitha wrote: »

Actually, it doesn't but anyway, apologies for thinking you were at university.

Don't you need to go out and use the library for your course?

But before I started college again I didn't go out for 4-14 days at a time, my parents visit me maybe once every two months, the two friends I have are unreliable (one serious mental health problems) basically I don't leave the house and even if I force myself, I have been single for like 10 years, haven't worked in 10 years because I freak out easily and cannot make friends and due to my timidness and nerves cannot find a partner which makes mental heatlh worse.

Even when I did go out it was a case of get bus to town walk around shops for like 30 minutes then go home, couldn't handle more than that.

So im isolated as I cannot interact with the world very well to improve my situation even at college I don't communicate outside of class, don't go to student union its straight home (though thats understandable given by time I get home anyway its like 6pm and I need to leave the house around 7.30 to get to class)

dekaspace

Another update saw the same kids today but at busy bus stop, ignored one at first and when they started insulted I calmly said "whatever, police are after you for breaking that window" cue them with the swearing insults.

Then one decided tot ry and intimidate me by sitting both sides of me at the chairs then whispering "im going to (swear) do you in you fat (swear)" I calmly just laughed and said "whatever I had bigger (easy to guess) what than you" and got "aye rite" and he walked off but then as he knew he couldnt get anywhere they resorted to calling me the p word for people who like children in a certain way and telling passers by, there was one man at the bus stop who told them to stop being little (swear)

Quite proud really I didn't lose it and they were the ones that got annoyed.

Also how stupid one of them was, he went into the same place he assaulted me before, but in school uniform and with a cut on his head (shop has 5 CCTV cameras) so easily identifyable.

Bogof_Babe

If you know which school they are from then get in touch with the head and report them.

I did that once when a load of teenagers in school uniform were kicking off on a train - got a nice emailed apology and a promise that action would be taken to prevent future occurrences.

BorisThomson

dekaspace wrote: »

Another update saw the same kids today but at busy bus stop, ignored one at first and when they started insulted I calmly said "whatever, police are after you for breaking that window" cue them with the swearing insults.

Then one decided tot ry and intimidate me by sitting both sides of me at the chairs then whispering "im going to (swear) do you in you fat (swear)" I calmly just laughed and said "whatever I had bigger (easy to guess) what than you" and got "aye rite" and he walked off but then as he knew he couldnt get anywhere they resorted to calling me the p word for people who like children in a certain way and telling passers by, there was one man at the bus stop who told them to stop being little (swear)

Quite proud really I didn't lose it and they were the ones that got annoyed.

Also how stupid one of them was, he went into the same place he assaulted me before, but in school uniform and with a cut on his head (shop has 5 CCTV cameras) so easily identifyable.

You've been told not to engage with them so you deliberately do so. They weren't getting annoyed, they continued to call you names.

When are you going to stop making things so much more difficult for yourself?

happyandcontented

Just ignore them and move away from them. They want a reaction and they are getting one. I agree about reporting to the school though but if they are damaging property that should be done by the shop concerned.

Jox

School kids can be cruel and immature, be the bigger person and ignore them, try to avoid them where you can and concentrate on your own life. Take care

dekaspace

BorisThomson wrote: »

You've been told not to engage with them so you deliberately do so. They weren't getting annoyed, they continued to call you names.

When are you going to stop making things so much more difficult for yourself?

Excuse me, I said all of like two sentences to them in a calm way, zero body language.

How would you react when someones intentionally sitting around you and keeps changing seats.

I responded but just to mention the police thing then to laugh at them and then blanked them, it was that that upset them as they started getting agitated then OTHER people were getting annoyed with them and telling them to clear off.

So to say im making things more difficult for myself is somewhat rude. I had to watch my back to make sure they didnt steal something from my bag

I think I handled it rather well, first stating a fact then laughing at them when they tried insulting me and acting like they were not there.

Bogof_Babe

If you must engage with them, I find the expression "oh grow up" can work, as it belittles them in front of their mates.

BorisThomson

dekaspace wrote: »

Excuse me, I said all of like two sentences to them in a calm way, zero body language.

How would you react when someones intentionally sitting around you and keeps changing seats.

I responded but just to mention the police thing then to laugh at them and then blanked them, it was that that upset them as they started getting agitated then OTHER people were getting annoyed with them and telling them to clear off.

So to say im making things more difficult for myself is somewhat rude. I had to watch my back to make sure they didnt steal something from my bag

I think I handled it rather well, first stating a fact then laughing at them when they tried insulting me and acting like they were not there.

I've been in that situation, I expect most of us have. I would ignore them. You might think you're not showing any emotion to them but you are, if you weren't they wouldn't keep goading you.

If you were concerned for your personal safety, or them stealing from you, remove yourself from the situation. Even if that means missing the bus.

Your behaviour is giving them the upper hand. Give them nothing to respond to and they will eventually get bored.

dekaspace

BorisThomson wrote: »

I've been in that situation, I expect most of us have. I would ignore them. You might think you're not showing any emotion to them but you are, if you weren't they wouldn't keep goading you.

If you were concerned for your personal safety, or them stealing from you, remove yourself from the situation. Even if that means missing the bus.

Your behaviour is giving them the upper hand. Give them nothing to respond to and they will eventually get bored.

Well the first thing I said was basically "whatever the police are involved and on the lookout for you" and smiled and blanked them

I stayed for a bus but got a different one than I intended (got to mine but rather than 5 minutes took 15) I felt ignoring them and just smiling and saying those two comments made them think they didn't get to me

I would assume walking off would just make them worse as that would be admitting they got to me.

After that second comment I made they were clearly agitated and beginning to walk off because I didn't react (even took offense to me talking about one of their sizes)

Different than last time when it was a constant attack and abuse from them.