oh driving me mad!

nodwah

Yeah my dh: what do you want for dinner? - oh anything.... chops. Every time!
Mind you he's not fussy and will truly eat anything, the only thing I can remember him refusing was when I tried to do a HM version of campbell's tomato rice soup - it really was disgusting.
I would just like a little feedback sometimes tho', coz his mother is a demented maniac - like one of Les Dawson's ladies x100, he is very reticent about talking about food shall we say? i'd realy like him to say "that was nice" or something, but no it's just nosebag on and troughs away!

ixwood

Not too controlling then. Some people seem to treat their husband/kids like pet dogs.

morganb

Also meant to say, before I posted my recipe, that they 'get what they're given' in this house ... after 2 years of cooking just what DS1 WOULD eat I have spent the last 3 years cooking what I think everyone SHOULD eat .. and they do, and they enjoy it, and they eat healthily.

thriftlady_2

morganb wrote: »

that I have spent the last 3 years cooking what I think everyone SHOULD eat .. and they do, and they enjoy it, and they eat healthily.

Yep, that's how it works in my house -nobody has to eat things they hate because, with a few minor exceptions they like everything. I'm convinced this is because I've kept plugging away at giving them real food and not pandered to fads and whims. OH won't eat broccoli or cabbagey veg and I certainly don't make him but if I asked everyone what they wanted for tea I'd get 4 different answers (probably more cos they'd change their minds). I don't see my choosing what we eat as controlling but as common sense.

Mrs_A_4

Whatever happened to equal rights? Let him cook half the time and be done with it! I'm on holiday this week so will rediscover my kitchen - the rest of the time he does most cooking, because he starts work later and finishes earlier than me.

thriftmonster

I cook because I'm at home and dh doesn't get in till after seven - we'd be eating at 8 if he cooked. Even when we both worked full time, I always cooked because I find it relaxing and he doesn't. I guess it's what works for each family.

GeorgiaW

I gave up on my OH long ago. I'd slave over a hot stove making something really nice and he'd always leave some and no word of thanks. Give him a shop bought pie and chips and he'd eat it all and say "That was lovely". I don't even bother now.
I do a menu for me and the kids and get him ready made stuff like pie, quiche and lasagne. The fact that he likes lasagne annoys me so much because the long list of things he won't eat include pasta, onions and garlic! But lasagne is the only 'foreign' thing he'll eat.
Luckily he's rarely at home when the rest of us eat so I'm quite happy to just bung his in the oven when he wants it. On the occasions when he is at home when I'm making our meal he'll walk in and say "I hope that's not for me" without even looking at something, never mind trying it.

His one saving grace is that I never have to think what to put in his sandwiches for work because he'll only have cheese.

r.mac_2

i have to say that My OH is pretty good.

I try to do teh main shop every 7 10 days awith a small veggie and fresh food run midway through that period. I do try to make a meal plan and I chose from it what we have on what day. At weekends I tend to be led more by OH on meals - sometimes we treat ourselves to a take away, or will make pizza together or such like.

I haven't cooked anything that OH has not eaten. 98% of the time I get a compliment and on teh couple of disaster experiments he has been very sweet and says something like "perhaps it would go better with pasta?".

The kitchen is my domain though - he's only allowed in to do the dishes or talk to me when I am chopping!

Elliesmum

It's kinda get what you are given in our house - but then generally what I buy and cook, everybody likes

If we don't fancy something in particular we'll have something else and have the other thing another night.

OH is not fussy - DD can be but is getting better and I'll eat almost anything. We are an easy family to feed

EM xx

conradmum

dorry wrote: »

hi thriftlady

I have in the past tried to hand over control, ie: when I was pregnant and suffered from hyperemersis (when you can't stop being sick), I just couldn't go near the kitchen, or any food. I remember the chaos that followed .:eek:

The whole family suffered, as a result, ds1 (then 11) was asked what he wanted to eat ( by hubby) and everynight said lasange! He soon went off lasanga, very quickly!

My friend's hubby cooks, as sometimes she works late, I am sure she is gratefull, but it would drive me mad, as you would not be able to keep track of what he had used to cook and then the next night, you would probably go to try and cook something and the stocks would not be there:mad: That would really stress me out and I would sit at work thinking that I would have to make a special journey to the shops, in my dinner half an hour! The stress factor would not be worth it!!!

The only way I could see oh cooking for me like this, is if he stuck to the menu plan, which I am pretty sure he would'nt, as he would change his mind and eat those yucky frozen burgers :eek: I just know it would end up in a fight or argument!!!

Yes, this is a bit of a problem with our system. OH can't think more than three days ahead so the day he cooks can't be included in the weekly meal plan and shopping. So on his day he goes off to the shops without looking to see what we already have and buys whatever he fancies (and he thinks we'll like) when he gets there.

Consequently, we often end up with more potatoes and things than we can eat before they go off, because he's bought stuff we already have. What really drives me round the bend is when he buys something that I've lovingly grown in the garden and would be completely fresh and far nicer than the shop bought one.:mad:

And the other problem is him using up something like soy sauce and not writing it on the board so I know to get some more. Then I go to use it and it isn't there. He's got better at this, though, especially after a few incidents of him saying 'Can you get some xxx next time you do the shopping' and me replying, through gritted teeth 'Write it on the board!'

I do love him really!