oh driving me mad!

stefejb

I agree with those that don't even bother asking - there's only me and 11yo dd anyway but we do have mealplan which she helps to compile at the weekend so can weed out anything she really hates. The meal plan is not set in stone though - it's just a list of 5 meals that I will be cooking some time that week depending on time etc. For the rest of the week we eat out of the freezer. Saying that she is veggie and I'm not and I do respect that and not cook meat when she's home.

lynzpower

It used to happen a bit more, but now OH isnt home from work till gone 8.30. I cook.

I write the meal plan up on the board, but I dont know what it is, but he looks at the menu plan and says things like "with this menu ambassadoress you are reeeeeeeally spoling moi" i think its cos I write in the "M&S way"

No more stew in Chez power, its more "slow cooked beef casserole in a rich gravy with seasonal veg & fresh French loaf" ( i have learhned how to write pretty small tho!)

daisyroots_2

This thread has made me so grateful for my OH. I used to complain when he brought home market bargains and expected me to cook them. Sometimes I couldn't work them into the meals I'd planned before they went off, which caused a bit of friction, but we've resolved that now - if I can't use the bargains, it's his responsibility to cook them. He cooks about 25% of the time and makes lovely meals. If I'm in the middle of something, I ask if he fancies cooking and he usually says "Sure, leave it to me" He will often bung all the leftovers and bits together in a way I wouldn't, but what the heck, it's his house too.

OP, sounds as though your OH has food issues which are nothing to do with how you cook or what you choose. Have you actually discussed with him the difficulty you have with cooking for him ? You could ask him what arrangements he would like to make about eating - and if he wants you to cook at all. Maybe he would prefer to do the cooking.

dannahaz

I meal plan one week at a time, stick it on the fridge and ask my DH to look at it and let me know if there is anything he wants to change or move. He doesn't often want any changes.

Some of the days I will be having HM soup, which he doesn't have, so I might have "ready meal" on the planner for him. In the morning I look and see what home made ready meals we have, and give him a choice of two, and that's what he has.

I do make sure I include foods that he likes but that I don't. We just have different meals on those days, both of which are on the plan.

It works for us.

morganb

Pukka meal I made yesterday ....
diced red onion fried gently with some lazy garlic, added some small chopped carrots and lamb mince, cumin, worcestershire sauce and passata, left to cook for about an hour, meanwhile used potato peeler to slice and ribbon two sweet potatoes, layered then sweet potatoes, mince, sweet potato, mince, sweet potato and grated cheese, baked at 190C for 40 minutes ... absolutely DELICIOUS .. hope that provides some inspiration ... DS1, DS2 and OH loved it and we've christened it 'sweet shepherds lasagne' because it was going to be shepherds pie but I thought mash was going to be too boring yesterday ...

dorry_2

hi :wave:

When we first got married, 12 years ago, oh kept saying, he didn't like this and he didn't like that!:mad: In the end, I just ignored him, as I was the one who always cooked the meals, I choose what we eat and basiclly, if he doesn't like it tough!:rolleyes: However, saying that I take his likes and dislikes into consideration, when I plan the weeks menu, but I don't let it sway me too much, if it was up to him, he would eat bird eyes beef burgers and micro chips everyday!!:rotfl:

Like frogga, we work together, as a team, he works seven days a week and only do 30 hours term time only, so I am always home before him I cook :A I am also in charge of menu plan and ordering food shopping, which I do weekly online from tesco. The kitchen is very much my domain and I am happy to keep charge of it! :T

thriftlady_2

dorry wrote: »

The kitchen is very much my domain and I am happy to keep charge of it! :T

That's exactly how I see the kitchen, so much so, that no-one eats anything from the fridge or cupboards without asking me 'what is there to eat?'. Bread and fruit are always available but everything else is under my control

dorry_2

thriftlady wrote: »

That's exactly how I see the kitchen, so much so, that no-one eats anything from the fridge or cupboards without asking me 'what is there to eat?'. Bread and fruit are always available but everything else is under my control

hi thriftlady

I have in the past tried to hand over control, ie: when I was pregnant and suffered from hyperemersis (when you can't stop being sick), I just couldn't go near the kitchen, or any food. I remember the chaos that followed .:eek:

The whole family suffered, as a result, ds1 (then 11) was asked what he wanted to eat ( by hubby) and everynight said lasange! He soon went off lasanga, very quickly!

My friend's hubby cooks, as sometimes she works late, I am sure she is gratefull, but it would drive me mad, as you would not be able to keep track of what he had used to cook and then the next night, you would probably go to try and cook something and the stocks would not be there:mad: That would really stress me out and I would sit at work thinking that I would have to make a special journey to the shops, in my dinner half an hour! The stress factor would not be worth it!!!

The only way I could see oh cooking for me like this, is if he stuck to the menu plan, which I am pretty sure he would'nt, as he would change his mind and eat those yucky frozen burgers :eek: I just know it would end up in a fight or argument!!!

thriftmonster

In this house it's a case of "tough, that's what we're having". I do plan round people's preferences - ie dh isn't very fond of spuds, but loves pasta and rice. I do ask him what he wants each time he returns from abroad as it will depend on what the hotel meals have been like - mostly he's stuffed so only wants pasta = but when he came back from a week in Russia he was desperate for a sirloin steak.

He's in China this week so the kids and I are having a potato fest!

It's also definitely my kitchen ..... although I don't mind if the kids bake or dh cooks with them occasionally as long as they do a quick review of ingredients with me first.

Having said this, the kids are a lot less fussy than dh - probably cos they know I mean it when I say "fine give it to the dog and go hungry!!!":D

Doom_and_Gloom

Hrm don't know if I can say OH as we are not married but we have lived together for over a year. Thankfully we buy our own food most of the time which also means we cook our own food (I'm vegan and he isn't) however the one time I did cook from scratch (not just for him but the whole flat!!) he ate the equivalent of 2 spoonfuls and wouldn't touch the rest :mad: , thankfully someone else loved it and nicked his so it wasn't wasted and they even ate the left overs :rotfl: . I despise cooking meat because of the thought of it and the smell (I made spaghetti bolanages) but he also upset me as I only cooked it with the intention of him eating something mildly healthy. I have not cooked properly for him since but will put his tinned soup in the microwave or frozen pizza in the oven for him :rolleyes: . I wish he would eat more healthy but he is SOO picky when it comes to food. I had trouble thinking of 5 fruit and veg to get him to 5 a day but managed it in the end - orange juice, apple, saltanas, carrots and sweetcorn. Not exactly adventerous. He will eat tomatoes when its a sauce in something and onions if diced soo small it's stupid. You can see why I decided to make spag bol but I think he tasted the garlic and herbs I added for flavour and health the picky snot nosed b****** :eek: . I may try and cook for him again but I swear it is down to him to eat it or I may throw a hissy fit his way .