oh driving me mad!

Psykicpup

I will sometimes ask but if the answer is 'dont mind or dont know' then I decide - we went through a phase of I would cook & he would winge until I remind him I had asked - now even if I cook something he doesnt fancy that night there are no complaints- however he does ask me what I am thinking of for dinner if he is a fussy mood & asks if we can change - if its already cooked, he cooks for himself & the spare portion is frozen for another day!

vij

daisyroots wrote: »

This thread has made me so grateful for my OH. I used to complain when he brought home market bargains and expected me to cook them. Sometimes I couldn't work them into the meals I'd planned before they went off, which caused a bit of friction, but we've resolved that now - if I can't use the bargains, it's his responsibility to cook them. He cooks about 25% of the time and makes lovely meals. If I'm in the middle of something, I ask if he fancies cooking and he usually says "Sure, leave it to me" He will often bung all the leftovers and bits together in a way I wouldn't, but what the heck, it's his house too.

OP, sounds as though your OH has food issues which are nothing to do with how you cook or what you choose. Have you actually discussed with him the difficulty you have with cooking for him ? You could ask him what arrangements he would like to make about eating - and if he wants you to cook at all. Maybe he would prefer to do the cooking.

Do the cooking - ooh what bliss that would be

he can do pizza (from the box)
tepid ravioli from the tin
I once got a half cooked jacket spud!
I have offered cookery books, assistance, support and advice but hes just not interested.
He would snack through the night but it works out expensive and not great nutritional value as he only really eats rubbish at work.
His mum says he eats more with me than he did at home which I guess in as improvement but when he first moved in it was eat what was there as I was very broke at the time and he was on best behavior I just needed to rant and now I know Im not alone with this issue I feel much better I am going to try the either or option tonight and put on a strike and not do roast tomorrow unless he asks for it.;)

csarina

In our house he eats what he is given and likes it....or goes without....I menu plan and the plan is on the fridge door, if he fancies something thats on later in the week, he will say and i swap things around.....can't be doing with fussy eaters!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Chas

My husband used to moan about whatever we were having, along the lines of '..... oh, not xyz again'.

I told him that he can do a meal plan on a Sunday night for the coming week. He's been doing the meal plan every week for about 2 years now.

He doesn't moan about what we have for dinner anymore.

But he does moan every Sunday night about doing the meal plan. :rotfl:

jennet1

my oh gets 2 choices for tea...................



take it or leave it!! he always eats whats on th etable, as working long days he'd eat anything to avoid cooking it himself

rev229

conradmum wrote: »

In our house the person who does the cooking gets to choose the meals, and as that's me most of the time everyone has to eat what I like! If they don't like it, they are told they can cook next time then. :rotfl:

Seriously, don't stress about it. If he doesn't like it, so what? It's just food at the end of the day. Why pander to his whims?

My oh drives me round the bend when, after I've had to think what to cook for six days of the week, the one day that he cooks, he asks me what I want! Because he can't be arsed thinking of something himself! :rotfl:

Must be a genetic thing My is the same. For years I would often cook 4 different meal to cater for everyones like and dislikes. About 2 years ago I decided enough was enough and that I was no longer a multi-meal-mum. I told them all that they had to eat what they were given or go hungery the kids were to young to complain and as OH doesn't cook, shop etc he would have to starve. At the end of the day he was coming home to cooked meal, when I worked I had to come home and then think of something to cook:mad: . Whe I worked 12 hr shifts he never cooked ameal for himself and the kids always had fishfinger, but he would ring me at work and ask me would they would like . Finally this summer after being marries 12 years he suggested we meal plan for 2 weeks at a time so that he would know what to cook:rotfl: :rotfl: . Well he knows what he will be eating however he has not managed the cooking bit yet. Perhaps he will master that bit in the next 12 yrs:rolleyes:

bagby

meal plan - my oh says I wouldnt be able to plan a weeks meal as he gets whats on offer in the shops so even I dont know what we're going to have. I must admit that this is true. Ive known him to ask for a meal that we had three weeks ago and Ill say theyre not on offer now so you wont be getting it till its on offer again. He doesnt complain though, he likes his food too much and I must say I do make nice dinners.

safesound

As I meal plan for the week (not OS just on a diet ) on the weekend my OH gets a choice; fish, chicken or beef? Then if he chooses I make what I want from the choices that week, or if he goes "ooh, I don't know" then he gets what he's given. I will admit more often than not I do tend to cook meals I know he likes, and when trying out a new recipe I'll ask him if its a keeper. If I say I'm making X and he really doesn't like it (for instance tonight I made tortellini, which he hates) I let him sort himself out as I'm not cooking two meals just because he doesn't like what I'm making... he ended up with melted cheese sandwiches tonight (nutritious eh :rolleyes:).
On a weekday when he isnt here during the day, I just cook whatever I feel like making from my meal plan depending on what I fancy and how much time I have to prepare/cook it. He wont complain because he knows what I'll say (Kitchen ---> that way)

Stephen_Leak

vij wrote: »

am I the only one with this problem every night/week I ask what do you want for dinner, do you want me yo get anything when shopping..... reply I dont know/not really. As I cannot get an answer I will cook something I think he will like or suggest something and be told its not what he fancies....Ill ask what would you like instead to be told "I dont know" the only thing I can win with most of the time is steak or burgers and not always those.

I have exactly the same problem. And I live on my own.

Nenen

I'm overawed at all you superwives out there... and just so grateful for my dh I used to be tearing my hair out over what to cook for us all when my children were small and I worked part-time. Fortunately, when I went back full time to a demanding job a few years ago now it co-incided with dh working from home a lot more. Therefore he's invariably home before me and so he gets the 'joy' of doing the cooking. I'm just so grateful I don't have to cook during the week I never moan at his attempts... although it's sometime disasterous and the dog got suspiciously fat for a while when he was learning! My next *clever* move (although it was more luck than judgement) was to be soooooooooooo bad at supermarket shopping (I'm an ad-man's dream as I fall for all the special offers etc and come back with twice as much as we need for about 4 x the price:eek: ) that my dh banned me from Mr Ts etc and now does all the shopping too! I have learnt that sometimes being/playing 'helpless and incompetent' means I can get away with murder! I get to concentrate on a job I love too. Long live role reversal in our house!