My journey to a debt free life

milann

Exciting and scary all rolled into one for you both when dd moves out. 

Bless little gs falling asleep on the bus…..grandma wore him out 😂😂

Onebrokelady

Dad is going home tomorrow with home oxygen. The respiratory team have been to the house and installed a huge ( according to my niece) oxygen machine by the front door which has tubing going to all the rooms in the house that Dad has access too. They are sending a team round tomorrow to assess how safe he will be when trying to get around. I think it's bonkers and he will trip over it.

He can't lift his feet up so slides them along the floor which is asking for trouble. I went to see him today and he is anxious about going home because he can't see how mum will be able to look after him. I'm going up to the house tomorrow and will hopefully be there when the people arrive to assess him. 

We had a really nice chat today when I visited,it was the longest chat we have had in a long time as he doesn't tend to say much when he's at home. I had a voicemail from his OT and she said both mum and dad had said no to a care package,but I said to him today that it was his decision more than mums and if he was worried he should agree to the care package.
I'm going to have a word with her tomorrow about it. It would make life so much easier if they would agree to carers going in and I wouldn't worry so much. I don't think Mum wants to spend the money because she thinks we should have it but I've told her that's not how things work. Dad is probably going to need to go into care at some point which will have to be paid for so the money will be gone anyway.

I went into Boots after I left the hospital and nearly had a full on meltdown when the pharmacist said they didn't have any Omeprazole ,they didn't have any last time and even though I pay for it monthly I never got the last lot. There were two bags so I asked her to open them and lo and behold one was Omeprazole so meltdown averted. 

I did a bit of food shopping then came home. I just had cheese on toast for tea because I just couldn't be bothered to cook anything and felt quite wrung out.

Im looking after DGS again all day tomorrow which I could do without really but it's too short notice to let her down now. I will have to take him with me to mum and dads and hope it's ok. 

Onebrokelady

Forgot to say it was a lovely windy sunny day today so I got bedding washed and dried on the line . I also remembers to send my meter readings to EDF . I try to do it on the 27th of each month which also coincides with payday which helps me to remember. I was supposed to do my banking today but didn't get round to it so will try and do it tomorrow evening 

enthusiasticsaver

Goodness there is  lots going on with you at the moment.  As you say it sounds like your mum and dad really need the care package. 

Cherryfudge

I hope all goes well with your Dad going home (and not tripping over the oxygen equipment). Could a falls nurse advise even though he's not had a fall?

We were told there was an omeprazole shortage recently but it was back in stock a week ago. I don't know how our chemist manages - small premises and very popular as it's in a supermarket. They seem to have a high turnover of staff too, and sometimes seems to be stuff stacked on the floor against the shelves because there's no shelf room left.

If it's any help, I needed omeprazole less when I cut out bread, though I can't find that advice on the NHS website.

badmemory

Me too with the bread, but also lettuce.  In fact it was eating lettuce every day that started my stomach off.

Onebrokelady

The saga continues. Dad didn't go home today because he has caught Covid so can't go back with mum because she is at risk of catching it too. They have now moved him to a community hospital that none of us can get to so he won't have any visitors.

 I chatted to mum today and she thought they were getting carers so I told her she had said no but she doesn't remember the conversation. She has now agreed to carers going in twice a day to get dad up and get him ready for bed. I think my mum also has signs of dementia as today I took my grandson to see her and when he mentioned his brother she asked who he was talking about. While I was there her mobile rang and she walked past it and answered the landline,she was shouting hello into the landline while her mobile was ringing on the table 😟

I think we are going to have to keep a close eye on them both because this is not safe . I don't know if my sister has noticed anything but she denied dad had dementia for a good 6 months so she will probably think I'm making it up. 

Today was awful my grandson didn't want to be with me and cried for over an hour and I'm too stressed out to deal with that on top of mum and dad . He got over it in the end and we had a nice afternoon but the morning was awful then I had to make loads of phone calls while trying to look after him.

I also received an email today from SC saying I need to review my plan but I did it over the phone a few weeks ago. The girl I spoke to said she would stop this months payment so I'm hoping that has actually happened. I was going to phone them today but was so busy I completely forgot. I will have to phone them on Thursday now and sort it out then.

Im now off to bed but I don't think I will sleep as I've too much going round in my head 

Cherryfudge

Oh no, what a day. I hope your Dad is all right. Covid is definitely going the rounds right now. Will you be able to ring your Dad?

I agree, it sounds as though your Mum is struggling. Keep a note of things and hand them over to her doctor, I guess. It's so hard especially when the person themselves lacks insight (which is how it was with my Mum), and you have your own grief and stress to deal with while trying to make progress for them. Would it help at all to talk it through with your own doctor, so you can have some sort of support? And perhaps take a step back from babysitting while this is going on. I know you had already committed to this and didn't want to back out, but I mean in the future.

It's good that your Mum has agreed to carers, I hope that helps.

Sorry if this is rather clumsy, I need to get some sleep myself so I'm not thinking too well. Hope you get some rest.

milann

Oh no. What a day for you to cope with. I’m pleased your mum has agreed to carers it’ll put your mind at ease. Hope your dad isn’t too poorly with covid, there does seem a lot of it around again.
Don’t forget to look after yourself- you’ve only just begun to feel better.Sending lots of positive vibes your way.

foxgloves

So sorry things are so sad & difficult at the moment, @Onebrokelady. Having been there with trying to get my Dad home from hospital (complete with 2 enormous oxygen machines) & how difficult it was, you do have my sympathy. My Mum didn't have any dementia, but she did struggle with the huge significance of all the changes, carers coming in, officialdom. I can remember her being horrified when I told her Dad would need a bed downstairs or a stair-lift. I reminded her that she had been with me the previous day at the hospital when she was told this by Occupational Health & the nursing team. She said "Well, it's the first I've heard of it", despite being with me in the meeting when it was all discussed in detail. I think it was a sort of denial about how things were changing & how difficult they were going to be, so your Mum may be experiencing an element of this as well as being confused. Shall be thinking of you anyway. I've been there & it's both sad & exhausting.
F xx