My journey to a debt free life

Onebrokelady

Nicnak said:

Our queues are hit and miss here, but I have noticed they are cleverly putting things out in the one way system as you go in to get rid of them.
How are things with your DD?
Have a lovely relaxing day today. x

I was talking to the man in front of me in the queue and he told me the queue normally just went straight up the side of the car park, which missed out the garden centre completely, the security man said they had changed it that morning so someone must have had a bright idea 😀
DD is still not speaking to me and still stomping round the house like a surly teenager,I'm not sure how this is going to end to be honest,I will just wait and see 😟

Onebrokelady

Woke up to a grey drizzly day here today,I was going to go and do some bits in the garden but it will be too wet now, if it cheers up later I might go and do some weeding ,it does look like this is here for the day though 😟 I still have sewing to do though so will do that if the rain doesn't go away
I also have a small pile of ironing to do ( only ironing my things seeing as DD is still ignoring me 😳) so will go that before I do anything else

I did used to worry about living on my own before we fell out but having spent a week not speaking to anyone apart from people at work and my mum and dad yesterday I actually think I will be ok, obviously things are worse at the moment because we can't got out and see our friends but when life is going on as normal I'm usually quite busy so a bit of downtime at home is quite nice

I was planning on starting to go riding once a week just before the lockdown happened so as soon as the stables reopen I will start again 
At some point I will be taking care of my DGC again so that takes up quite a bit of time
Im still working three days a week for at least the next three years, then I can do the retire and return thing and will be able to cut my hours again
Im going to be busy in the garden and crafting as well and I still have loads of decorating to do 

DD1 has had news about her job now, she was supposed to go back to work on May the 7th but although she was in the same office it was a new job, they contacted her a few weeks ago to say that the job was no longer needed so they would be redeploying her,they didn't tell her what she would be doing or where she would be working, finally on Friday she had an email saying she will be working from home doing data cleansing ( what the hell is that ) so although she was looking forward to getting out of the house and back to her old team she is now happy that she hasn't got to go and work with people she doesn't know and if the nursery don't open yet it will make child care easier to work out,I'm not sure how she will manage working from home with a three year old and 10 month old though 🤷‍♀️obviously if they lift the lockdown restrictions I will be able to look after them but it will be tricky if they don't,I'm hoping the nursery will at least open so she has a couple of days that are child free 😊

Drawingaline

I can't believe your daughter is still not speaking to you! I thought I could be petty and hold a grudge, but there wasn't even a huge falling out was there?! 

Willowtree222

Sorry about your daughter. 
I hope your other daughter gets on fine with her job though. I couldn't imagine working from home either with two small children. I can't even take one phone call without her interrupting. Working a full day would be tricky. 

 I plan on riding again and looking forward to that. x

Onebrokelady

Drawingaline said:

I can't believe your daughter is still not speaking to you! I thought I could be petty and hold a grudge, but there wasn't even a huge falling out was there?! 

Unfortunately she takes after her dad which is why I find it so irksome, he used to do this to me when he couldn't get his own way or we had a row that didn't end the way he wanted it to, there wasn't a huge falling out that I can remember, she was having a hissy fit because we missed the bus and I replied a little more sharply than I would normally she then told me I needed to change my attitude so I told her she was stressing me out by moaning all the time,she then said well F you and went off and got a taxi home by herself 
I got home a little while later and she was shut in her room, when she eventually came down she was slamming doors and stomping round then she went back up to her room and just didn't speak, she does do this if we have a row but I've never known her to carry it on for this long, I think I normally say something but I'm enjoying not being moaned at too much at the moment to do anything about it 😂

Onebrokelady

Nicnak said:

Sorry about your daughter. 
I hope your other daughter gets on fine with her job though. I couldn't imagine working from home either with two small children. I can't even take one phone call without her interrupting. Working a full day would be tricky. 

 I plan on riding again and looking forward to that. x

Thanks Nicnak, unfortunately I'm used to it 😟 she is a person of extremes, she is very caring and worries about me, she is also very thoughtful and kind but the other extreme is a terrible temper and a tendency to look on the negative side of life, she takes everything personally when things go wrong 😟 we have a relationship of extremes and it's always been that way,Im also stubborn and annoying and have a temper but I've made myself calm down to keep the peace, we have had some nasty arguments in the past and it used to be a very regular occurrence to have shouting and screaming matches, lately things had calmed down a lot but that is mainly due to me biting my tongue all the time, I didn't bite my tongue last Saturday and this is the result

I phoned DD1 today to see how they are,I don't like using the phone so it was a big thing but I'm glad I phoned, the nursery where the DGC go is open on Wednesday and Thursday but the DGC can only go one day a week, so they will be in nursery on Wednesday,SIL is going to work Monday,Tuesday and Wednesday so DD will do the childcare on Monday and Tuesday, nursery on a Wednesday and then SIL will do the childcare on Thursday and Friday so DD can work on Wednesday,Thursday and Friday,they both get a day where they don't have the children and DD can work at home in peace on the Wednesday 😀hope that makes sense 😀my head is spinning now 😀
Of course this could all change after next weeks lockdown review, although I don't think much is going to change over the next couple of weeks to be honest 

Willowtree222

I don't think much will change over the next few weeks either. Lockdown is apparently working so lifting it too soon might just cause another influx. 
I hope your DD manages to come out of it though. It must be unpleasant if there's tension in the house. I am anything for a quiet life like my dad, whereas my sister and mum are very opinionated and fiery. x

Sun_Addict

How uncanny that your DD sounds just like mine. I thought it was just me. She is like Mr SA who can be hard to get on with and nothing like me. She still lives at home and I can go a week without seeing or speaking to her. Occasionally she’s fine and chatty but most of the time she avoids me for reasons only known to her. She has MH issues but not using this as an excuse. By contrast my DS is lovely, absolutely nothing like her.

Cherryfudge

Sorry to hear how things are with your DD.

Onebrokelady

Nicnak said:

I don't think much will change over the next few weeks either. Lockdown is apparently working so lifting it too soon might just cause another influx. 
I hope your DD manages to come out of it though. It must be unpleasant if there's tension in the house. I am anything for a quiet life like my dad, whereas my sister and mum are very opinionated and fiery. x

That's the problem here, we are both opinionated and fiery, I have just worked really hard to try not to be that way with her because I know how it will end,I can only keep it up for a certain amount of time though before I snap and then all hell breaks loose, she has yet to learn to bite her tongue 🤷‍♀️

There isn't really any tension to speak of but I do feel very sad even though I joke about the peace and quiet, we do laugh a lot together when we are getting on, I'm going to have to say something to her if it carries on though,I just need to pick my time 

Edited to say, I forgot to mention that she is a Pisces like her Dad and I am a Gemini,I don't think it's a good  match to be honest so it doesn't help,I also have to take some blame because she is the product of her upbringing which wasn't always  the best that it could have been due to mine and her dads relationship