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enthusiasticsaver

Sorry you have had a lot to cope with over the last few days.  Hope something can be sorted so this does not happen again.  I cannot help but think that alcohol will not help the situation with Mr SA and his "accidents" which presumably was the reason for him trying to shower in the early hours of the morning. 

Blackcats

So sorry for the tough time you and Mr SA have had this week.
I hope the remainder of the week is calmer for you both.

Sun_Addict

enthusiasticsaver said:

Sorry you have had a lot to cope with over the last few days.  Hope something can be sorted so this does not happen again.  I cannot help but think that alcohol will not help the situation with Mr SA and his "accidents" which presumably was the reason for him trying to shower in the early hours of the morning. 

Both times I've had to have the ambulance out to him it's because he stayed up late and was showering in the early hours. So I am sure there is a connection, I think you've hit the nail on the head there. He knows I watch how much he drinks so takes the opportunity to drink more when I'm asleep. He can be very devious.

He often has these "accidents" in the day too but manages to get out of the shower perfectly ok. 

Sun_Addict

Morning, happy Wednesday.

I'm still shattered but gradually catching up on my sleep.

It should be NSD 2/12 today. WFH so no plans to go shopping.

I need to pick up a parcel that went back to the depot on Monday when we were at the hospital. I asked for it to be redelivered yesterday, I didn't leave the house all day and received a message from Royal Mail saying they tried to deliver it and no one was in. I saw the postman walk straight past my house so that's not true! 

The painter should be starting today - hopefully. I really hope we can get back into the living room this weekend. It's driving me nuts having Mr SA sat behind me all day while I'm working. I sent him out with the dog yesterday as I was taking minutes in a meeting and didn't want any background noise.

Exercise today will be the long walk to the post depot and back plus a live FitSteps class at 6pm. 

I need to sort out something for my dinner from the freezer. Meal plan has gone out of the window this week!

Sun_Addict

The painter arrived, I showed him the paint and left Mr SA in charge while I went to pick up the parcel. I just wanted to get out of the house for some fresh air more than anything. Got back home to find I’d made a mistake with the paint and picked up one Matt and one silk. The painter had gone out to fetch another Matt. The thing is I’ve got two tins of silk for the hall and he could’ve used them. Mr SA didn’t think to tell him or think to phone me. All Mr SA said is that I shouldn’t have gone off swanning about 😕

foxgloves

@Sun_Addict - You must have the patience of a saint, that's all I can say.

Cherryfudge

Eek and Grr on your behalf.

On a positive note at least you will have beautiful paintwork. Can you get a refund on the unopened tin?

beanielou

I agree that you have the patience of a saint. Sign.

Chrystal

Have you told his Dr that the 'accidents'  are beer related?  Maybe they could insist that he stops drinking it!

I know he has brain injury, but he sounds as though he has the savvy to manipulate you into compying with his demands by incessant bullying or arguing, so you give in for the sake of peace.  Could you stop buying his cans in bulk and just buy two a day?

I've been a full time carer for OH for 25 years, and it's really difficult, so have some idea of where you're at.  ((((hugs))))XX

Sun_Addict

Chrystal said:

Have you told his Dr that the 'accidents'  are beer related?  Maybe they could insist that he stops drinking it!

I know he has brain injury, but he sounds as though he has the savvy to manipulate you into compying with his demands by incessant bullying or arguing, so you give in for the sake of peace.  Could you stop buying his cans in bulk and just buy two a day?

I've been a full time carer for OH for 25 years, and it's really difficult, so have some idea of where you're at.  ((((hugs))))XX

I mentioned it to his consultant and he told him to cut it down to no more than 2 a day. Mr SA agreed to but in reality took no notice. Most nights he's fine but it's the odd occasions when I'm asleep and he's up late he goes off the rails. If I just bought him 2 cans a day it would cost a lot more in the long run and he would only go out and buy more behind my back.

For example a couple of weeks ago he was horrified to find out his beer supplies were running low. I assured him he had plenty to last until the next delivery. I noticed later the amount had increased, he'd been out and bought more while I was working and sneaked them into the house when I was in the bath. I can only control him so much, he gets a lecture from me every night, it's very stressful.

25 years is a long time to be a carer Chrystal. I've been one for 9 years and shudder at the thought there may be another 16 years of it!