Self help thread. I am a widow coping getting on with it

lessonlearned

Thank you for that, Kittie. That was lovely.

Yes I'm sure that all those good things will come - all in good time. I have had lots of lovely messages this morning, I am fortunate. Life will be good again, or at least it will be as good as I can make it. In the long run it's up to me.

I went for my acupuncture treatment this morning. I told the doctor how bad I felt on Wednesday and he was delighted.....:D
Apparently it means that the treatment is working really well and that my body is responding both quickly and strongly. Which apparently bodes well for a significant improvement in my overall health and not just a reduction in pain. I have to say it would lovely to be a bit more like my old energetic self.

He is very optimistic that I am going to make a good recovery. My knees are already feeling so much better. He did say that the fibro will take a bit longer. Knowing all that I won't be quite so panicked if I dip again tomorrow or Sunday. I will know what to expect this time and I can be philosophical about it and just ride it out. .

The emotion thing was really an eye opener. I certainly didn't expect that, but when you think how long I bottled everything up then I guess it's not surprising. It took me two years to shed any tears over my mother's death. And realistically that's cant be good. Grief has to find an outlet.

Oddly enough when I was feeling really bad on Wednesday I started reading some new research I found about my husband's illness. Still no guarantees obviously but new research on any genetic connection was very encouraging.

Anyway, he Has advised me to do nothing today, just loads of water, sleep if I feel like it and then an Epsom salt bath tonight. Tbh it's too hot to do anything anyway.

So that's what I'm going to do. I can "do" my birthday anytime.

DIL now 5 days overdue. Had a false alarm in Wednesday. They gave her a scan and all seems well. So hopefully it won't be long now. They will induce her next Thursday if necessary.

itsanne

Happy birthday, LL. I hope today is better than you anticipated and any acupuncture ill effects are subsiding.


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Blackcatsreturns

I am coming up to anniversary of OHs death. For me it's the day before that's worst. That's When I knew for certain it was going to happen and was waiting for "when" not "if" Had lots of support from the hospice but that gloriously sunny Sunday was unbearable. He died at home and I was pleased that he did but that's why I was ready to move 18 months later. Too many of the latter memories overshadowed the years of happy memories.
I was given a date to register his death which was our wedding anniversary and at the registry office where we got married. Needless to say I changed the appointment with the registrar.
I too have a favourite grandchild. Reassuring that it's not just me!

lessonlearned

Black cat. I too find the day before the actual event is often the worst. When the day comes it is never quite so bad as I feared. How strange is that. The sense of dread seems worse that the reality.

My birthday was fine, I stayed quiet, didn't go out. I had my acupuncture In the morning then rested and dozed most of the afternoon. Last evening was hot and sultry so I was happy just to stay home. I have been invited out this evening but again it's going to be very hot again so I might not bother. I'll just watch England and take it from there.

I have some nice events and treats planned for the next couple of weeks anyway so,I'm happy enough.

I am pleased to say I can see great progress with the acupuncture already and I'm onlyweek into the course, another 7 to go. Let's hope the improvements continue, I want my old body, and my old vitality back.

Received the written survey report. There's more remedial works than I had hoped for, but after 4 years of looking on and off I honestly don't think I can do better with my budget. I'm just going to bite the bullet and try and get it wrapped up,as quickly as possible.

I can foresee it is going to take longer and cost more than I had hoped but I'll just roll up my sleeves and get stuck in. The sooner I get in the quicker I can make a start and get the most urgent repairs done before the winter sets in.

The next hurdle is the anniversary of my husband's death although before that there will be the birth of my grandchild...(imminent). I have a feeling I will find it emotional and difficult.

humptydumptybits

The heat is really getting to me, yesterday I felt really awful so went for a walk on the beach at 9 pm. It was lovely and I think it saved my sanity.



Feeling happy about actually having my genetics test is gradually turning into anxiety about the result. Roll on results day.


I hope everyone is copying with the heat, particularly the pregnant DDs and DDsIL. Must be so hard in this heat.

lessonlearned

Dil had emergency c section this morning. All is well. Mum and baby ok, I'm just relieved it's over.

Elona_2

LL

Congratulations on being a grandma. So pleased mother and baby are well but obviously an emergency caesarian is worrying. I found a v shaped pillow helped a lot as it let me get more supported.

DD still has a couple of weeks to go unless something changes and has chosen names for a girl as that is what all the scans indicated so will be disconcerted if it is a boy but at least not all the baby stuff is pink.

Hugs to all

lessonlearned

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LL

Congratulations on being a grandma. So pleased mother and baby are well but obviously an emergency caesarian is worrying. I found a v shaped pillow helped a lot as it let me get more supported.

DD still has a couple of weeks to go unless something changes and has chosen names for a girl as that is what all the scans indicated so will be disconcerted if it is a boy but at least not all the baby stuff is pink.

Hugs to all

Tbh I had a foreboding all along it would be a c section. So did DIL, so it came as no great shock. I am just glad it's over.

Seeng My GS for the first time made me miss my husband so very much. Despite being very happy to finally have a grandchild I found it desperately sad that my husband never lived to see this day.

Too hard for words......I am in floods of tears as I write.

humptydumptybits

It is bound to be an emotional day LL, you probably need a good rest after what has been a stressful time. It is only natural to feel the absence.

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congratulations LL. A GS, how lovely and I am glad it is over and he has arrived safely