Self help thread. I am a widow coping getting on with it 25 January 2018 at 9:49PM edited 30 November -1 at 1:00AM in Over 50s Money Saving 1.1K replies 191K views

mum2one

Torry, so sorry for your loss x

Torry_Quine

Thanks for the kind words.

itsanne

Torry, I'll post here rather than on the other thread again.

What you are experiencing is harder than it's possible to imagine before being in the situation. I thought I knew what it would be like if/when OH died - but I hadn't a clue. However, though it won't feel like it right now, it will gradually become ... not "better", but more manageable. This time last year, I couldn't envisage travelling to the US on my own to meet up with friends, but despite a major wobble on the way to the airport I am here, and though I miss OH all the time and would give anything for him to be here too I am enjoying it.

In the meantime, everything you feel, everything you do, is normal. When you think you're going mad - you aren't.

For now, try to eat even though you don't feel like it. Accept any help offered, including from your church even though you're angry with God.

wort

Hugs Torry, you will be in shock for much longer than you think, so be gentle with yourself.
I hope you have friends or family who will help you and support, this thread is very helpful if you just want to vent or discuss your feelings.
Don't forget your Dr can put you in touch with a counsellor, you won't feel like it yet but it's helpful to speak to someone.

Elona_2

Torry

I am so sorry for your loss. I have been locked out of mse for a few days as I changed my e mail
so have just created a new account.

Hugs to all.

seven-day-weekend

Torry_Quine wrote: »

My husband died totally out of the blue on Monday.

Torry, I didn't say this on the other thread, but I have prayed for you and will continue to do so xx

Torry_Quine

Today I went to see him, it doesn't look like him. He's so cold

seven-day-weekend

Torry_Quine wrote: »

Today I went to see him, it doesn't look like him. He's so cold

oh.... how upsetting for you

thepurplepixie

elona wrote: »

Torry

I am so sorry for your loss. I have been locked out of mse for a few days as I changed my e mail
so have just created a new account.

Hugs to all.

Welcome back.

thepurplepixie

Torry_Quine wrote: »

Today I went to see him, it doesn't look like him. He's so cold

I know some people find comfort in seeing the deceased but I had always felt much like you, right from being a child and seeing my father who I just didn't recognise. I'm not sure if I would do it again.