Travelling On

Karmacat

Teapot, thank you!  No, I didn't know that about the lookalike species!  I knew about flytrap papers, but never thought of using any.  I always water from below, but it doesn't change anything - I always thought my watering regime was hopeless 😁  I've finally vacuumed - and they do seem to cluster in places - a little hole in the plaster between windowsill and wall, that sort of thing.  I was going to put the curtains in the washing machine, but the curtain tape is holding onto them, and I don't want to struggle with that before brother comes down - I can just *tell* its going to take a long time, and next week I have a driving lesson, the council walk, and a dental hygienist appointment before he comes down.  As a result, I've just sprayed Raid and closed the door.  Needs must.  I'll investigate the flytrap papers, but I'd really like to get a cold frame going, if possible.

Food report: haricot beans (baked beans ), eggs, peas, carrots, mango (frozen) and marmite.  Not sure about marmite, but its stacked with B12, so I'm counting it New total: 23 + 6 = 29 since Tuesday, though I've counted pasta 🤣 Anyway, plenty of my regular potential foods to take me over the 30: cashews, brazils, olives, onions, for instance.  All good.

rtandon27

Karmacat said:

...Not sure about marmite, but its stacked with B12, so I'm counting it ...

I'd say it counts KC - marmite is made of yeast, yeast is part of the fungus family, fungus is a mushroom, and a mushroom counts as a vegetable  - LOL

Karmacat

rtandon27 said:

Karmacat said:

...Not sure about marmite, but its stacked with B12, so I'm counting it ...

I'd say it counts KC - marmite is made of yeast, yeast is part of the fungus family, fungus is a mushroom, and a mushroom counts as a vegetable  - LOL

Yay 🤣🌈😺🌞 thank you!  I'm sort of addicted to salt, but I genuinely eat the stuff for health reasons, a level teaspoon onto some veg.  It also cuts down on my consumption of fats via pesto and cheese 🤣

I haven't done anything today - got stuck in front of catchup tv, and tried to pretend I was doing it to work on my password and accounts info, and then genuinely did it.  Lots to catch up on.  Off for a walk now.

Karmacat

Morning!  In wanting to give myself a proper weekend (mischief managed!) I've left myself with quite a bit to do before the staycation starts on Friday.  So this is a list for the next four days, bearing in mind I can't do too much on Thursday or I'll over-tire and miss out.  Here we go:
- get ready for appointments this week: driving lesson on Tuesday, healthy walk on Wednesday, dental hygiene appointment on Thursday, and **then** the staycation 🤣
- clean shopping
- clean downstairs toilet
- see to bathroom washbasin, cloggy.
- get rid of seed compost (coir fibre, unused) on kitchen table
- clean/tidy away stuff hanging around in the porch
- weed/prune whatever I have the energy for
- put green bin out (neighbour often does this at midday, and doesn't take long in any case)
- work on the curtain tape, I'll need to stay still again at some point
- genealogy    I started a new project last night **whistles innocently** - transcribing the letters my dad wrote to my mum when he was over in Canada, trying to find a job.  Only done four, so far.  He was staying with friends who'd already emigrated and settled down (which he never did, obvs, otherwise my accent would be different) but his mail was sent and addressed to "Canadian Immigration" in Toronto.  Fascinating.
- lentil mix (green and red lentils, plus barley, chopped onion, cashews and I've just put some quinoa in soak to clean separately and then mix in).
- polenta in the slow cooker after that, to make chips for later in the week
- £1k to premium bonds
- two emails.  Do I also send another text to the woman from U3A who hasn't answered emails and texts?  Since she hasn't said she's resigning from the spaceflight group, and the last messages we had were that she was ill, I think I should, in spite of not wanting 1:1 contact.  There's such a thing as humanity.

Karmacat

Karmacat said:

- lentil mix (green and red lentils, plus barley, chopped onion, cashews and I've just put some quinoa in soak to clean separately and then mix in).
- £1k to premium bonds
- two emails.  

Done these three items (though not the text, I need to gird my loins for that). 

Next - uh oh, starting to get hungry.  Tidying never goes amiss 🤣 so that's next, I can knock that off at any time when the hunger pangs become unbearable 🤣

Karmacat

Karmacat said:

- clean/tidy away stuff hanging around in the porch
- put green bin out (neighbour often does this at midday, and doesn't take long in any case)
- polenta in the slow cooker after that, to make chips for later in the week.
The above are all done as well, and I'm kind of ready for the driving lesson tomorrow.  So that's 6/13.  I haven't managed to do any more weeding or pruning, so I'll cross that off altogether, unless it suits me to do it, so that becomes 7/13 done.

- do I send another text to the woman from U3A who hasn't answered emails and texts?  Since she hasn't said she's resigning from the spaceflight group, and the last messages we had were that she was ill, I think I should, in spite of not wanting 1:1 contact.  There's such a thing as humanity.

Hmm.  I don't *want* to do this, but I feel I should.  I'm going to forgive myself for not doing it today.  I *will* do it some time tomorrow, maybe before my driving lesson.

Cheery_Daff

I don't think you need to if you don't want to, KC. She's free to reply to the messages that have already been sent, after all, and if you don't want one to one contact with her, that's a decision you've made for a reason, and you'd just be inviting the very thing you'd already decided against. 

Only you can know whether that's a good idea or not, of course. But if you need "permission" to not contact her, please take it from me  😊 xx

Karmacat

Cheery_Daff said:

I don't think you need to if you don't want to, KC. She's free to reply to the messages that have already been sent, after all, and if you don't want one to one contact with her, that's a decision you've made for a reason, and you'd just be inviting the very thing you'd already decided against. 

Only you can know whether that's a good idea or not, of course. But if you need "permission" to not contact her, please take it from me  😊 xx

That's such a kind message, Cheery, thank you so much!  I'll sleep on it.

Karmacat

Please ignore!  This is me thinking about the U3A member I've referenced

Genuinely, do ignore - this is just me finding out what the dickens is going on with *me* as to why she's got under my skin to this extent.
"Inviting the very thing you'd already decided against".  Yep, that's very important, very accurate.  There's more back story than I wrote, of course. 

- Emails: I've sent one, the guy who runs the group has sent one.  Texts: I don't know what the guy who runs the group has sent, but I've sent two, one at the time she told me she was sick, and one a few days later.   At least four, 3 of which are from me - it's not dozens, but it's not nothing.

- she offered continually to help me - lifts, looking at houses, where I should live, using her Which subscription to find a car.  And I didn't take her up on any of it.  I helped her a bit, before all this started up, she was being victimised by the guy who re-started the Environment Group at our U3A.  She knows I get exhausted when I'm with her - every time I see her, I'm more or less limping and dizzy with tiredness at the end, I can't hide it.

- maybe she's put off by my tiredness, and she's ghosting the lot of us!  There has been the merest hint of her not liking the tiredness.  I don't either!

- I *think* she's disgusted by my lack of action in relation to next door's dog, and what I agree with her are the cruel conditions it's kept in, though she's not said this outright.  But I don't know what else I might do for the dog: the RSPCA have inspected the situation and declined to take action, maybe 6 - 10 noise complaints already submitted to the council.  I've been treated aggressively once, and actually threatened once by the neighbours.  I have no idea what I could safely do, so I try to live my life, while ignoring the lonely, stressed, unhappy dog next door.  And I've seen her with dogs, at our last meeting: she's kind of magical, to be honest, she was amazing with this hyper puppy one of the members had.  Back in the day, I'd have called it working on the aura.  I think she's disgusted with me, and she's decided to write off both me and the spaceflight group because of it.

- I don't blame her for that!  And she may be ill, too - when I've brought 1:1 meetings to an end and explained how bad I feel with the chronic fatigue, she references current problems she has that dwarf mine.  I don't know what they are.  She's 4 - 5 years older than me, she could easily be mortally ill; but if she won't say, that draws a line underneath it.

- my first thought if she's very ill is to help her.  But frankly, I'm forgetting my own limitations in that - there's plenty of ordinary things I don't do for myself because I don't have the energy that other people do, even allowing for age.  Doing anything for her would in reality be almost impossible.  I'm actually in a good energy space at the moment, but writing this forum post is the first thing I've done since I showered after finishing my driving lesson at 11.15.  She may well need help, but I'm not the one to give it.  That's quite a piece of daylight shining in, that is!  She's pinging all my psychotherapy vibes!  Ah ... usually I run away from those people in my private life, but she got through, somehow.  I think because she seems so capable.  

- the other thing that's haunting me a bit about this is that last month my sister had this sort of situation with a distant relation by marriage - he stopped responding to her, when he'd always written about 3 days after she emailed.  And it was because he'd died.  It really does happen.  But that's nothing to do with this woman, even though it's sad in itself.

Bleeping bleepity!  I needed to write this down, and in the context of other things I've written about her.  I'm very, very grateful for this space.  A journal wouldn't be the same.

And the result is ... I'm not initiating contact.  I'll continue to include her on Spaceflight group contacts, that's only right, but at the moment, I'm not initiating one-to-one contact.

Good grief.

badmemory

It seems to be some peoples sole purpose in life is to make others feel bad.  Their ailments are always worse than ours & they also know what we should to do be cured.  I keep saying I will ignore the calls & then answer AGAIN before I think.  That makes me feel even worse because I have given in AGAIN.