Mooloo’s Managing it in 2018

Savvy_sewing

Funnily I didn't used to, but I am trying to keep it as a mantra. I don't always succeed but over all I am getting better.
Biggest tells me that the foster family have a break booked in August and plan to take the lad, and she is going to have the baby as there are no electricity etc to be able to sterilize babies things. I would have thought by then sterilised bottles etc would not be necessary. Once a baby has had immunisation etc and started crawling around on floors etc I am not sure if it is necessary, but if Family can still be included in their care I am happy to see it.
Looks like Biggest and new family got on well.
I found it sad coming up to bed to see their bedroom empty of children and their things so I have had to shut the door.
Staff tells me lots of work in so I need to stop feeling and get working.
I have a business that won't run itself.
Bed and hopefully sleep.

beanielou

Hope that you do sleep Mooloo xx

BrassicWoman

thinking of you xxx

Savvy_sewing

Morning.
A better night. Woke a couple of times, but went back to sleep quickly. Woke about 6.20 but went back for another hour.
I have today off officially, and I am going to follow some online training this morning.
I will pop to work this afternoon to see what is what, and I will go in tomorrow after all.
I need to keep the business going and back on track. I was going to Sew at home and reopen on Monday but actually I have changed my mind and will open tomorrow.
Dgd no longer wants to go to after school clubs. She will be 11 in the Autumn. So I am thinking about what Shop hours I could offer, and still be able to be home for her from September.
It would save me some money, and reduce my income as I wouldn't get tax credit help, so the budget also has to be looked at.
I am going to revisit the possibility of another part time Seamstress as long as she can earn more for me then I have to pay her.
So business focused today. Back tomorrow and let's get my dreams back on track.

trix-a-belle

Mooloo i'm not sure of the distances/roads involved but could DGD make her way to the shop after school from September and sit upstairs doing her homework which would be a good use of her time and good routine & it would allow you to work abit later so spilt the difference somewhat?

Savvy_sewing

trix-a-belle wrote: »

Mooloo i'm not sure of the distances/roads involved but could DGD make her way to the shop after school from September and sit upstairs doing her homework which would be a good use of her time and good routine & it would allow you to work abit later so spilt the difference somewhat?

Yes I think she could do that by the end of the Summer now she has been coming home on her bike.
I would want to get her on the safest route rather than the shortest but the roads around School time are terrible.
I know riding on pavements is not allowed really, and unfortunately there are no cycle paths here. But it is not far.

Savvy_sewing

Been to work to sort out takings, message those whose work is finished and see what I am facing tomorrow.
Banked around £400 from the work next door had and staff took over the last two days.
Not sure if I am ready but I am opening tomorrow.
Tonight I am tired.
Another early night probably.
Dgd keeps telling me she misses the boys is not helping, and trying to be positive about it all is difficult but necessary.

Savvy_sewing

Dgd is having a temper tantrum, meltdown. I know that the reasons behind it, is not really about tidying up, its about the emotional things she is going through, but it's tough.
She is choosing the "victim mentality, the self degrading attitude etc.
I am trying to explain the difference between victimisation and the choices of feeling you're a victim when actually it's about your own choices and attitude.
She wants me to help clean up her room that she just made worse in her tantrums and I won't help.
At 10 nearly 11, she has got to learn that she has to be responsible for her own actions.
Tough lesson she is still throwing things. But I am not giving in this time. Something just got thrown down the stairs.
Banging and heavy thumping.
Doors slamming.
Temper the worst I have ever wistnessed.
She obviously needs to let off steam but this is really beyond her normal way.

Cairn

Mooloo, DGD knows that what!!!8217;s happened to her cousins could have been her. She!!!8217;s old enough to see what!!!8217;s been happening this time and it!!!8217;s been stressful for weeks.

Is it not worth just leaving the cleaning, tell her to leave it (even the stuff on the stairs) getting some chocolate and cuddling to a film together?

For both your sakes really. You don!!!8217;t need the stress, she might need reassurance.

Cairn

I should say, or something equally relaxing and bonding be it a jigsaw, a chat about past holidays, lookin at old holiday pictures - just anything so you spend time together this evening.

Kids often find it difficult to understand and/or vocalise their emotions so it releases in frustration/anger. They also have a nasty habit of making a total jackanory out of things they don!!!8217;t understand, eg an adult dispute over how to warm beans gets a !!!8216;are you getting divorced!!!8217; question?

As happened to a friend of mine who is in a perfectly stable relationship - the kid had been watching some soap or the other and thought disagreement = divorce.