Mooloo’s Managing it in 2018

Savvy_sewing

A much better night, although at around 2 the dummy was lost, but of a snuffles about, dummies replaced and slept until 3.45
Went back to sleep until the lad woke up at 6am
Results!
Although I am tired. Dgd has gone to school on her bike and will come home at school close. It has helped me, and given her some independence. Although she will need to go to after school club when I go back to work.
Staff said they there was a lot of work through the door yesterday.
I am hoping to pop in after the kids are gone.
Still intend to keep closed until Monday, and take some time to myself at home. There is plenty to do in the house and garden and give me some alone time before I have to face the public with a cheerful smile etc.
I will bring jobs home so on Monday I can call everybody to come and collect.
My heart is heavy this morning.
The baby has gone back to sleep a few minutes ago and the lad is watching tv.
I need to gather their stuff up. There is some washing at the moment.

My brother phoned on his and Mum's behalf.
Mum is enjoying being taken out and about, lunching in the local bar, and has had a lot of heart to heart talking. She is coming home on 27th June. She will go back for two weeks in September to my brother but has decided not to return to my sisters. She has realised that she doesn't enjoy it there at all. Was going under duty really. She has also been told that she should be enjoying her self, and not worrying about leaving her wealth to us.

beanielou

My heart is heavy for you.

sarahevie1

Wishing you peace today. I have respect for you Mooloo, as I know that I couldn't do it. I feel incredibly sad for you all.

Savvy_sewing

They are gone.
I am devestated I couldn't do it.
Again I have to trust that the broken system will find a way to help. I fear the worst for my Son yet hope for the boys. Heartbroken

Tescodealqueen

I am so sorry but for what it's worth I think you have done the right thing for yourself and DGD. Thinking of you xx

Cairn

I!!!8217;m so sorry, I cannot imagine how heartbreaking this must be.

The only consolation is that those boys are safe and cared for. You and biggest did your best. At least they are together.

beanielou

I have no words.

pollyanna_26

Mooloo a week or so ago I spoke of the kindest and most loving thing , That is what's happened today and I have no doubt yourself and Biggest are heart broken .


The little ones are together and safe in foster care today . After all the attempts to get your son and GF to clean the house and develop a routine both yourself and Biggest have spent time and energy neither of you could spare cleaning and clearing yourselves .


I know you worry for your son but there were enough warnings and advice given and nothing changed . here wasn't any viable way for the boys to be cared for within the family so the only way was what has now happened .


Don't beat yourself up there wasn't a choice . Biggest too must be feeling the pain having had them living with her .
Nothing will be the same and the hurt wont magically disappear but you both did a good and loving thing .


Hugs to you and the family . Nothing is set in stone at the moment while foster care is happening . It would take both son and GF to fight for proper support to learn how to parent probably from a charity as the cuts to services have meant there is little on offer .
They would need to realise what they have done and engage fully with any programme .
If they can't see a childs needs come before a parents wants then there isn't much hope .
polly x

Savvy_sewing

Friend came with us to the pub for a meal and we are home now. I have a tension headache.
Dgd is up one moment down the next etc.

My brother has booked Mums flight back at the end of the month for a rediculous cost under £10
They have asked me to book the Christmas holiday, which has helped side track me. Mum is happy with the choice I made so the hotel is booked.
Flights will need to be done but I will look tomorrow.

Biggest said she left the boys and they were fine.
Nothing else from her.
Twin2 is on a course for setting up her own business and asked for a lump sum from me and her Dad via a group message. I can see he has read but he hasn't answered her.
I notice Biggest has suggested crowd funding to her.

pollyanna_26

That's a bargain flight home for your mum . I'm glad the thought of the holiday to come has shown some light at the end of the tunnel .


In your shoes I would be backing Biggests crowd funding suggestion .


I don't know if you ever go back to your first post on each new thread . I've just looked at your OP on this one . Looking at the lists of aims for this year they were positive and possible . If you follow them you wont go far wrong .


One of them is learning to say no . By all means put a bit in the pot for Twin2 as a supportive gesture but no more stretching the bank of mum when money is short .
polly