Mooloo’s Managing it in 2018

Savvy_sewing

I am so fed up with it all. The trip is Biggests Christmas gift to the boys, and especially for her sake I want Friday to go ahead. If the rest is changed I will cope.
I am aiming to let it go. I have acknowledged that it has annoyed me. That it has upset the Foster Carers, but that I cannot do anything to change it, and it is not worth stressing about.

I have got this!
( well nearly!)

pollyanna_26

It sounds as though that social worker is as much use as a chocolate fireguard . I agree you need to try and keep as calm as possible .If you don't want to contact SS tomorrow that's understandable .


Friday is the main priority . I can't fathom what's going on in that guys head especially if he can't provide a logical explanation for the sudden change .


Remember this is not your fault . For all concerned including the carers the blame lies with SS. There should have been a paper trail of all contact and matters agreed with copies to those involved . If that hasn't happened it's wrong .


Take care and breathe .
polly x

Feral_Moon

thorsoak wrote: »

You know what? I think I would be inclined to say OK - and then carry on with the plans that you have already made! Why on earth should you all change these carefully made plans to suit the whims of a social worker who has probably never even been up at 8am on a Saturday morning!

My thoughts entirely!

Savvy_sewing

I have never had anything in writing just text messages and liaison with the Foster Carers rather than the social worker. The social worker doesn't talk on the phone very often he asks for text messages but. Trying to get hold of him is difficult at the best of times.

I had a coaching call from America last night , for about an hour. I cannot afford to go further as the cost would be $6,000
I would rather use it for a deposit on a house than that. But I did get quite a lot out of the hour still.
My floundering around at work doing the little things that I have to do rather than where I want to be, shows me that I need to restructure my days and actually block time to do the things that will lead me in the direction I want to go, and not doing things that others want of me.
I will be taking my diary with me to Portugal and I will use my down time to plan my next step.
The one thing that he said was that I really do need to get the Videos filmed, the PDFs and the book content blocked out in my planner, or another four years will pass without my starting.
Logically if I was to work more on these things then eventually the income should come no matter where I am living.
As I wind down my shop, I will be cranking up my future dreams.

Only problem is that I am very tired today as I was up until 12.30, and my brain was jumping around like a fire cracker in a box!

ivyleaf

Oh Mooloo, GGGRRR! re social worker! :mad:

I'm glad you find the life coach helpful, but wouldn't one in this country be cheaper? I'm a bit surprised that you've ended up using one in America x

Cairn

Ahh.. so there’s no update on where this change originated? Is it definitely the social workers fault?

Can SS and GF not just tag along to the outing?

LKRDN_Morgan

Maybe I’m missing something but can’t DS and GF just go with you on Friday and sit with a coffee until the kids have seen Santa? And what’s the problem with them getting up at 8am? Surely they can drag themselves out of bed for their kids? Fosters carers will still have them back Sunday so their plans don’t have to change?

Savvy_sewing

On Wednesday and Friday DS and GF were not ready and were still in bed when the Foster Carers arrived with the children and they had to wait outside in the car for over half an hour. Tomorrow they cannot be late as they are driving south 5 hours with a wedding cake to deliver amongst other things Pre arranged.
There is no way I am having GF when I don't have too she ruins everything with her moods.
This four days were supposed to be all at mine.
Now it's all changed. All day I have been bombarded with text messages.
Sick to death of it now
The social worker is now collecting the children from the foster family and taking them to the parents. So I am not having them tomorrow at all now. I rearranged my work schedule and employed staff to cover for Thursday-Saturday. I am now to collect the boys at 9.30 Friday morning and our planned day has been cut to half a day, as the boy needs an induction time at Preschool. So lunch followed by the Christmas fayre is out as we have to go in the opposite direction to take him home.
Then I have had to postpone the Saturday celebration of Christmas with family until Sunday as I am not getting the boys until Sunday morning. Sunday night the Foster Carers are collecting the boys from me.
So all the preparations have been a waste of time.
I have turned away several hundred pounds worth of work this last two weeks because I didn't have enough time if I was not at work. Of course I also have to pay the staff as I cannot Cancel them, they too have moved heaven and earth to help me and will probably have "spent" the money expected.

Arggggggh!

Right breathe, relax, look for the silver lining.
It means that I can do the tree in peace tomorrow. That I can do the trolley of jobs during the day instead of late into the night.
It means that I can relax tonight.

My brother has changed his plans and is now coming over from France on Sunday, so I can look forward to a lunch at some stage this week.

Biggest has tripped over the dog and hurt her ankle. Just waiting to find out if her friend can babysit or if Dgd and I are going to have to go to babysit while she goes to A& E.
Luckily her Husband is back in the UK today. So he can drive her.

All fun and games in the land of Moo!

Savvy_sewing

ivyleaf wrote: »

Oh Mooloo, GGGRRR! re social worker! :mad:

I'm glad you find the life coach helpful, but wouldn't one in this country be cheaper? I'm a bit surprised that you've ended up using one in America x

I have been studying on line and been on conference calls relating to the study, and this call was free. I would look in the uk if I really felt that I needed a coaching course other than what I already am doing.

Savvy_sewing

I am going to bed! My neck aches and I have a slight headache!
Too much stress I suppose. Even though I am trying not to.