Mooloo’s Managing it in 2018

Artytarty

How many days of reckoning does it take?!
Mooloo seems to go round in circles of motivation,hope, despair, days of reckoning, rinse and repeat.
Mind you, it could be said that pretty sums up human existence for many of us.

marliepanda

Artytarty wrote: »

How many days of reckoning does it take?!
Mooloo seems to go round in circles of motivation,hope, despair, days of reckoning, rinse and repeat.
Mind you, it could be said that pretty sums up human existence for many of us.

You're right that it does affect us all, broadly speaking. However I think denial can play a large part in allowing issues to spiral. I think this is an element of Mooloo's issue. There were a lot of 'getting a dog is a bad idea' posts when the puppy originally came on board and the wedding costs were mentioned, but Mooloo didn't want to hear it, point blank telling people only to say positive things about the dog and how her grandaughter would be even more insistent on getting one and would she be able to resist etc.

Denial can be a lovely state of being, however it is dangerous.

This is not a dig, we are all guilty of denial, I certainly am. I can tell myself that box of malteasers hardly weighs a thing so surely it wont make me put weight on, even if I eat the full box. Sadly though, it doesnt work, the scales will tell you straight :P

trix-a-belle

Mooloo I'd suggest it's not just a "No" when asked, but a "No I could have bought myself a house in Portugal & had change left over with the money I've leant out to you lot in the last 18 months!"
It has embarrassed you adding it all up, embarass them with your findings & make them realise the enormity of it.

I noted your comment the other day regarding DS & getting his HGV, I'm not sure it's as easy as he thinks, I had a friend who did it & couldn't get anywhere with it as a source of income (luckily wasn't the primary reason they had done it) as it was a mates club for any available jobs that came up, I'm not sure a company would pay to put him through the training either (you certainly aren't). I hope there is basis behind the idea if he's seriously considering it or is it just a fleeting pipedream that appears to solve the problem. Also if they get the boys back it would likely mean him being away a LOT! Is that sensible given the previous history of deterioration in the home, they need to support each other & be present to make it work if they get the chance to be active participating parents again.
Hopefully it's all been considered but otherwise it's just some thoughts I had & wanted to get down in case it arises further so you are forewarned xx

marliepanda

Oh fab means I can post whatever I think without people getting too annoyed that I’m upsetting Mooloo...

Ignoring issues never solves them. Your past diaries are testament to that, but hey ho

beanielou

marliepanda wrote: »

Oh fab means I can post whatever I think without people getting too annoyed that I’m upsetting Mooloo...

Ignoring issues never solves them. Your past diaries are testament to that, but hey ho

There is really no need to be so nasty.

marliepanda

beanielou wrote: »

There is really no need to be so nasty.

I am interested in your version of ‘nasty’

I have been out on ignore which is fair enough. Ignoring problems does not make them go away. Other people have commented on the repetitive cycle of the threads and the problems, but that’s not nasty? Why are you not calling them nasty.

There are a few types of people who comment on this thread.

1. People who blindly support Mooloo regardless.
2. People who post criticism but in a way which is ‘ok’ and it’s fine, but they are ignored anyway because it’s not what she wants to hear.
3. People who post the same criticism without the fluff and are labelled nasty

None of my posts have been random, overly harsh or ‘sticking my nose’ I have only ever commented on the issues presented.

At the end of the day something needs to change and people blindly telling her what a wonderful grandmother, mother and businesswoman and how nothing needs to change will not help her achieve her goals. In five years time she will be in the same position with a teenage granddaughter. Maybe more grandchildren in care, maybe more grandchildren in her care. She won’t be in Portugal. Her children will still be taking and not giving.

I may not be a fluffy clouds and rainbows poster, but that doesn’t mean I am nasty.

Savvy_sewing

She upset me once too often. Too much time on her hands to scrutinise every thing I or my family have ever done.

I can read what is said if I choose but I choose not to. That's why I ask please don't quote her in your posts as then I end up seeing what I am trying to ignore.

One of the reasons I nearly stopped posting and why my new name was band when I tried to swap.
Enough said.
I don't want to waste my time trying to explain my stuff over and over. My therapy is/was writing down my daily thoughts, actions or non actions.

I am who I am. I try to change things, but it's like my dna. I am up and down. I fluctuate with depression and stress. I have always been a giver.
Yes I have made plenty of mistakes. We are not born with a exact blue print.

marliepanda

Hahah being blamed for the banning of that totally obvious secondary account.

I don’t ignore people. Never have never will it’s amazing that a grown adult woman cannot read anything but glowing praise.

You literally liked a post saying that the threads were a constant cycle of rinse and repeats, but then your little crew call me nasty for saying the same thing.

I’ll certainly pop back to the thread to see the latest installation of drama and look at the photos of your pad in Portugal in due time...

thorsoak

There is always one keyboard warrior around :-(

Whether or not Mooloo chooses to take our advice is her decision - and her decision alone. Whether or not we take offence/umbrage at her decisions is ours alone. We/you do not have to read her posts.

annandale

Oh you mean the totally obvious second account that I got the blame for making when it wasn't me? They sent me a pm saying why do they think I am you.

Answer. I have zero idea. I have no idea who it manager was but it certainly wasn't me. Sorry to disappoint.